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Stardust Parade
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22 Dec 2018, 2:57 pm

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My cat died last night.



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22 Dec 2018, 2:57 pm

-500.


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22 Dec 2018, 4:44 pm

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My cat died last night.

very sorry. hugs to you. thank you for the info about your job.



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22 Dec 2018, 4:45 pm

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-500.

wish you were +M.



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22 Dec 2018, 4:47 pm

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My cat died last night.


I'm so sorry. I read what you were going through and wanted to send along a hug. Extra hugs now. :cry:


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22 Dec 2018, 11:15 pm

-10 apparently I’m the sole reason Christmas is ruined, cause I wanted to have a turkey dinner since I got a free turkey, I wish work hadn’t given me the gift card and I hate Christmas



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22 Dec 2018, 11:40 pm

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-10 apparently I’m the sole reason Christmas is ruined, cause I wanted to have a turkey dinner since I got a free turkey, I wish work hadn’t given me the gift card and I hate Christmas

you provided a turkey. that's a good thing. you did good. you can't control people's reactions. they reacted ungraciously. they did bad. know that. no need to rub their noses in it, however. i'm sorry the actions of others are making it hard for you to enjoy christmas. hopefully, they've gotten it all out of their systems and everyone's mood will improve. if your family can't see the positive in getting a free turkey, i'm beginning to see where your trouble finding the positive in situations comes from.



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22 Dec 2018, 11:52 pm

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-10 apparently I’m the sole reason Christmas is ruined, cause I wanted to have a turkey dinner since I got a free turkey, I wish work hadn’t given me the gift card and I hate Christmas

you provided a turkey. that's a good thing. you did good. you can't control people's reactions. they reacted ungraciously. they did bad. know that. no need to rub their noses in it, however. i'm sorry the actions of others are making it hard for you to enjoy christmas. hopefully, they've gotten it all out of their systems and everyone's mood will improve. if your family can't see the positive in getting a free turkey, i'm beginning to see where your trouble finding the positive in situations comes from.


I’m just a horribly selfish person. Their life would be better if I died.



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22 Dec 2018, 11:56 pm

^ not true.
Please don't talk like that.


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23 Dec 2018, 12:13 am

sly279 wrote:
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-10 apparently I’m the sole reason Christmas is ruined, cause I wanted to have a turkey dinner since I got a free turkey, I wish work hadn’t given me the gift card and I hate Christmas

you provided a turkey. that's a good thing. you did good. you can't control people's reactions. they reacted ungraciously. they did bad. know that. no need to rub their noses in it, however. i'm sorry the actions of others are making it hard for you to enjoy christmas. hopefully, they've gotten it all out of their systems and everyone's mood will improve. if your family can't see the positive in getting a free turkey, i'm beginning to see where your trouble finding the positive in situations comes from.


I’m just a horribly selfish person. Their life would be better if I died.

did they say that?



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23 Dec 2018, 2:56 am

cathylynn wrote:
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sly279 wrote:
-10 apparently I’m the sole reason Christmas is ruined, cause I wanted to have a turkey dinner since I got a free turkey, I wish work hadn’t given me the gift card and I hate Christmas

you provided a turkey. that's a good thing. you did good. you can't control people's reactions. they reacted ungraciously. they did bad. know that. no need to rub their noses in it, however. i'm sorry the actions of others are making it hard for you to enjoy christmas. hopefully, they've gotten it all out of their systems and everyone's mood will improve. if your family can't see the positive in getting a free turkey, i'm beginning to see where your trouble finding the positive in situations comes from.


I’m just a horribly selfish person. Their life would be better if I died.

did they say that?

They’ve said I’m selfish
They told me I had to help them with Christmas stuff and I said I don’t want to spend my whole time off doing chores so they never asked me again taking it as I won’t help at all and so I ruined Christmas and everything bad is my fault. It’s my fault my sister spent all day helping my grandma so she didn’t have time to make cookies. It’s my fault she’s not getting lasagna.
I’m sure other things tomorrow will be my fault too.
If my grandma does make it to next year then this will be my last holidays I’m done celebrating them. I’ll spend the money to buy myself things.



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23 Dec 2018, 3:18 am

sly279 wrote:
cathylynn wrote:
sly279 wrote:
cathylynn wrote:
sly279 wrote:
-10 apparently I’m the sole reason Christmas is ruined, cause I wanted to have a turkey dinner since I got a free turkey, I wish work hadn’t given me the gift card and I hate Christmas

you provided a turkey. that's a good thing. you did good. you can't control people's reactions. they reacted ungraciously. they did bad. know that. no need to rub their noses in it, however. i'm sorry the actions of others are making it hard for you to enjoy christmas. hopefully, they've gotten it all out of their systems and everyone's mood will improve. if your family can't see the positive in getting a free turkey, i'm beginning to see where your trouble finding the positive in situations comes from.


I’m just a horribly selfish person. Their life would be better if I died.

did they say that?

They’ve said I’m selfish
They told me I had to help them with Christmas stuff and I said I don’t want to spend my whole time off doing chores so they never asked me again taking it as I won’t help at all and so I ruined Christmas and everything bad is my fault. It’s my fault my sister spent all day helping my grandma so she didn’t have time to make cookies. It’s my fault she’s not getting lasagna.
I’m sure other things tomorrow will be my fault too.
If my grandma does make it to next year then this will be my last holidays I’m done celebrating them. I’ll spend the money to buy myself things.


could you offer to help with something you don't mind doing? you say you don't have friends. do you really want to alienate your family, too?

sounds like you're the family scapegoat. most families have at least one. my family has one. i've always felt bad for her. doesn't make it easy to bear. ideally, family is a refuge rather than a battleground. what benefits do you get from being part of your family?



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23 Dec 2018, 5:18 am

Sly you seem to be unfairly judging yourself. Just because you don't want to help with chores doesn't mean you're guilty for everything else. It's just not logical. Also you offered to help with Christmas dinner with the turkey, they just didn't want it. That's their choice. My dad never helps my mom with the Christmas preparations either, but my mom doesn't expect him too. This might be unfair but it has no effect to your value as a person. You're an important and valuable person regardless of your Mistakes and even being selfish at times.



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23 Dec 2018, 1:06 pm

+6, which is better than last year at this time. I felt -6 when I first diagnosed fifteen years ago.


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