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They never ask as they just assume I won’t help. Why should I help someone who’s ranting about how horrible I am?

My sister gets mad at my mom for similar behavior towards her. Would you help someone while they yell at you about how horrible you are?

Other times they are nice, and I have a house to live in, and I’m not alone.
Sister gives me rides to grocery store some times which is helpful as two hour transportation both ways means I can’t get frozen stuff or meat.

Everything just gets worse during holidays. Holidays are suppose to be good time but it’s always stressful and causes fighting. Maybe we don’t need to decorate ornhave Christmas cookies nit if all it does is cause stresss, like my uncles or cousins will even care about the cookies.

It’s just I need time to relax and recover.
I was so looking forward to having 5 days off but they just see oh he’s nit working so we can work him to do stuff.
Friday I had to go help shop for food. So now I’d been out doing stuff since Monday. Sunday have to go to grandmas. So Saturday was my only chance really recover some. I wrapped some presents then wanted to play some games.
Normally I do errands fry dsy , recover sat, do some chores Sunday. Since I only have those 3 days off, then it’s back to work for another 4 days in which I push myself through.
My objection to helping is I don’t want to spend the whole day all weekend helping them with stuff.
My mom doesn’t work, so I don’t think she gets how exhausting physically and mentally it is. She’s never worked. It’s another reason I couldn’t do full time
If I worked full time I’d be working gone 12 hours a day 5 days a week or more likely I’d be gone 10 hours a day 6 days a week. I’d implode.
They get on me about th kitchen too but I use the same plate and silverware every time. I rinse it and take it back to my room. The only cookware I use is a single pizza pan. My side dishes are made in their own container in the microwave(cost more but it’s easier and quicker) i dont know how the kitchen gets messed up, well part of it is they don’t rinse their dishes or pots. I just throw away pots with 2 week old spegittie in it. I’m not going try to clean that. I probably do leave some mess but not much. My room is full of trash though, cause I don’t lewve me room, blaming me for the mesmof the house seems odd since as above I hardly leave my room

^ I understand. Maybe you can try explaining to them that it's not that you don't want to help, you just need some time to yourself to destress. Anyways, my point is you might be tidy or messy but it doesn't mean you're worthless.

you could offer some help for something you don't mind doing even if they are yelling because you know better than to be vengeful and are willing to try to rise above everyone's stress.

maybe after xmas when everyone has settled down, because you pitched in when needed, they will be willing to listen to your suggestion to do a little less next year in the interest of making it a pleasant, joyful family time.

Sly, you are a good person. Your family sees you as the scapegoat because IMO, they see you as a target for their own failures. In fact IMO, your family refuses to acknowledge their own failures by projecting their feelings onto you.

It is not your fault Christmas went wrong for you and your family.

They aren’t going eat the turkey cause it’s boneless turkey breast

So?

Last year they said it was so good and moist. But now they told me they lied last year.
Guess I’ll just give the card to someone else next year.

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Did they give a reason as to why they did this last year?

Nts lie to save face or make people feel better. Clearly it doesn’t work as this case s d many others show. The person thinks you actually liked it so. It’s you more,
Oh and it turned out the stuffors lasagna we’ve eaten for 15 years they don’t like it either. Maybe it would be better if I lived alone.
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I think I’m going budget in paying tinder $60 for memebership for 6 months. Then maybe next month do pof premium

I, honestly, feel that dating sites are an absolute waste of money.

I'm feeling sort of 3-ish/4-ish now. Perhaps as low as 2 because my back hurts.

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I feel bad for many members here on WP who feel alone and rejected by the world around them.

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Then what do you think your feelings would be if you lived alone? How would they be any different?

Please don't continue talking like this.