Anyone else feel there's nobody in the world like you?

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I think we've already convinced them there is no intelligent life on this planet. Is 2010 Star Trek first contact, or something else?

I did untill I spoke to my first Diagnosed ASDian adult, who later became my first ASDian friend/nonfriend.

Then I thought she cannot really be like me,or I like her, I must be mistaken. So then I came to WP and now I don't think that at all..........Frigthening really LOL

Thanks so much folks on WP

HA! No s**t.

The references:
"2001: A Space Odyssey"
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2001:_A_Sp ... ssey_(film)

"2010: The Year We Make Contact"
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2010_(film)

>< got one over my head. We're even now.

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people are like snowflakes.
no matter how they all seem alike at first glance.
no 2 are exactly the same.

yeah, you're not like anyone else.
no one else is like anyone else either.
but the trouble is that we all think we should.
honestly, don't sweat it .

But I feel I'm at a greater distance from the norm than most. I'm the mutant snowflake. I don't know anyone else who enjoys going through math derivations in their spare time like I do. I hardly do anything "normal" people do. I haven't even gone out to see a movie in ages because I just can't motivate myself and nothing catches my interest anymore. I don't even care about politics anymore. I feel so out of touch with everything that I can't even talk to people without feeling embarrassed. I don't have enough common interests with people and spending all my time in my own head isn't good enough anymore.

we all feel that to varying degrees. some "normal" people like math too in fact.
really it's no big thing. you're overthinking it.

AS may make you a bit different, yes. but being that humans are very adept at tricking themselves and being swayed psychologically on subconscious levels by external factors. we are thus very adept also at blowing things out of proportion and making a bigger deal of things to ourselves than they are in actuality. make sense?

we concentrate so much on the outside world that we seldom realize the traps of our inside one. it's a mentality thing.

But to me it feels like the opposite occurs. That I try to convince myself that I'm similar to others but then when I think about it sobriety I realize that I'm not. It doesn't have anything to do with AS either (I'm diagnosed PDD-NOS BTW). I hate being asexual. I feel like I'm an empty shell of a person because of it. I don't experience the same pleasures as the rest of humanity. I'm condemned to be shut out and forever isolated.

that's another trouble with it. consciously trying to think something invites doubt.
the real trick is not to think you are normal to counter-act thoughts otherwise that are dragging you down. but to let the subject drop entirely and try to cease thinking about it. not even thinking to yourself, "i am ceasing to think about it" because then it is still in your thoughts indirectly at the fringes and wreaking havoc despite attempts otherwise.
maybe this is why the opposite occurs for you. it may simply require an innovative approach to a problem as old as time. if it still crops up time to time, no method is perfect, but it's a step in the right direction.
see what i mean though?
nothing good comes of dwelling on unpleasantries.

as for being asexual. that's it's own thing. not sure how to adress it because i'm not asexual. i have moments or days when i feel sorta asexual. but it's nothinglasting with me. but everyone's different. i am, you are, everyone else is. out of the millions, aspie, NT, or otherwise many share some of your different traits. and on the opposite end, everyone is also the same in a way. we share common traits with NTs for example and every living being on the planet. go up to any random stranger and given infinite time and assuming they're cooperative, it's almost positive that you'll both find some common ground.

just like snowflakes we're all different. never said anything about vastly different though

life is curious in that way, interesting, & yet strange

I think you are correct. I have a compulsive mind. The trouble is it's not easy to cease thinking negative thoughts when there's nothing positive to take it's place. A vacuum isn't possible with the way my mind works, I have to be thinking about something at all times. Yet I get so lonely/depressed that I just can't get into anything positive. I can try taking a walk but then even as I'm walking my mind is dwelling on things. Everywhere I go I see other people together. Every time I hear a song on the radio it's about some kind of relationship and it disgusts me. I feel like I'm the only one without some kind of partner. There's nowhere I can go without these constant reminders of how alone I am. I'm happier when I can afford to just get away from people altogether.

There seems to be quite a bit of brain-sharing here at WP. I'm sorry that you have to endure the constant pain, but please know that you're not alone. I'm in the same boat you are, man - and I'm sure that there are others here who are, too.

Perhaps we should start a "No-Friends Club" for the lonely WPers..?

It seems that in todays society a lot of us have to choose between two options 1) having an advanced degree and good employment and having zero friends due to constantly having to move or 2) having friends and giving up your chances of a good job by staying in one place all your life. All the friends I've made in the past live elsewhere now.

...and some of us have university degrees and are members of Mensa, yet are underemployed in embarrassing low-wage jobs and have no (or very few) "real-life" friends, regardless of where we live.

Bout sums it up . . . social interaction is the price paid for intelligence. Granted, I only have 2 Assoc. degrees. and 80+ hours to a bachelor's degree. Only job i have now is assisting in a college kitchen and convenience store. Likewise with friends, apparently people not in the spectrum wont accept you because you're smarter and more honest than they are. Quite the conundrum.

I feel that same way, as well. I see it as a gift, and I am also asexual as well. It took a lot of courage for me to say that.