Annoying person at school

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Thing is I was not very verbal when 18 and quiet, school was so and so and I was surrounded by morons as well that made my life a bit heavier. After that I moved abroad to Budapest (Hungary) to study at a Uni (Material-Virtual Design and Art Management) and there I also learned and developed more verbal skills because of the environmental change, was more calm and I felt I could evolve my weaknesses in peace without oddjobs breathing down my neck.

Life is one f****d up roller coaster. ^__^

Ok, so that would be a no on the parental units intervening.

Here's a thought. From the sound of it, you are already constantly on the watch for this guy. Would you be able, do you think, when you see him from a distance and he's watching you, to hold out your hand in front of you, arm straight, palm out, in a "stop" motion?

And can you buy a whistle of some kind? And if he starts to move toward you, or if he suddenly appears beside you, blow the whistle like mad?

I am very sorry that i have to decline your methods. I have always been extremely introverted and i get confused over doing small things like raising hands or sitting down when asked. I even get confused when my favorite seat is taken. So i never raise hands either. I hate taking attention on to myself. I think school is a quiet place for study and not a whistling ground. I don't think i would see him out of school anymore, because i have decided to use the latest bus time, no one wants to be late at school, right? I do, so that is my chance.

I have decided to suffer in silence. I know this is very wrong, but it is something i can do best, without losing my mind. Until the school really(meaning that i do not have to face him myself) is going to help. Maybe they will, i do not know.

I hope i wont die in some heart attack first

Ok, so that won't work either. There's nothing wrong with that.

If silence and dodging him is your choice of strategy for the time being, I'm confident you're the one best able to decide what you can do in the circumstances you've been trapped in. I'm wishing you luck at becoming really good at dodging the guy.

Try not to let all the "you should"'s shatter your confidence -- this is a very complex and involved situation, and you're more on your own on this one than any of us likes to realize. That means that you are the only person who even has a chance at deciding the best course of action for you to take. The rest of us simply do not have even a fraction of the insight into the situation that you do.

You're doing a very good job of realistically assessing what actions you can take and be sure of completing successfully. That's a huge accomplishment right there. It will serve you better than trying to take on something you can't handle and have it blow up in your face -- but you already know that, because that's what you've been telling us.

Good luck, and if you can do let us know how it progresses.

I am not going to hit or kill that person. I wouldn't even touch him. I do not even want to see him.

Also i try to keep this topic updated by further investigations.

If you are not that great at telling the person to back of verbally, Id recommend writing a letter or two and having the parties involved sign them.I have drafted some letters which you can use at your discretion should you wish to do so.

"Time is of the essence" is a legal term of art used in contract law to indicate that the parties agree that failure to meet all dates and times set out in the contract constitutes a "fundamental breach" entitling the aggrieved party to particular remedies. They have no place in a letter seeking discontinuance of harassing conduct.

A letter of this type should detail as specifically as possible the dates, times and places that conduct took place, and the specific conduct complained of. A general, "you have harassed me," gives the recipient no actual knowledge of the conduct complained of, and might not support an Information if the conduct would objectively be viewed by a reasonable person as acceptable, but for the particular circumstances of the complainant (i.e. the "thin jawed plaintiff" rule).

Personally, I wouldn't limit the scope of the remedy sought to "while I am at school" and "to and from school". A person is entitled to be free from harassment in all places and at all times.

Finally, letters of this type should always be sent on a "without prejudice" basis in order to ensure that they cannot be later used to limit recoveries.