02 Jun 2011, 5:43 am
02 Jun 2011, 7:09 am
04 Jul 2011, 3:42 pm
5264443377776444844 wrote:
@Iheartmegahitt
I did say 'as a general rule' in my post meaning that not every person with autism is selfish. But more so than the general population of NT's judging by the diagnostic criteria. It's really simple. Also, I can pass comment on this issue because my Dad pretty much displays all the traits of autism and he's the most selfish person I've met in my entire life. Also, I have mild/moderate Tourette's syndrome so I know what it's like to have a disability so just because it says 'neurotypical' in my profile doesn't mean I'm 'okay'. If I were I wouldn't be posting on this forum for sure.
@hartzofspace
I never said anywhere in my post that the selfish behaviours of autism are purposeful or because of choice. Also, point number two from the dictionary reference you posted proves my point by it's definition. Unless you are contending that dictionary.com is written by NT's and is therefore a misconception?
"Selfish behavior is something that is indulged in deliberately, with a clear knowledge of options". From a psychological perspective, yes. People can be selfish because of neurological/central nervous system disorders too.
Also, I'd appreciate if you talked to me rather than about me.
I did say 'as a general rule' in my post meaning that not every person with autism is selfish. But more so than the general population of NT's judging by the diagnostic criteria. It's really simple. Also, I can pass comment on this issue because my Dad pretty much displays all the traits of autism and he's the most selfish person I've met in my entire life. Also, I have mild/moderate Tourette's syndrome so I know what it's like to have a disability so just because it says 'neurotypical' in my profile doesn't mean I'm 'okay'. If I were I wouldn't be posting on this forum for sure.
@hartzofspace
I never said anywhere in my post that the selfish behaviours of autism are purposeful or because of choice. Also, point number two from the dictionary reference you posted proves my point by it's definition. Unless you are contending that dictionary.com is written by NT's and is therefore a misconception?
"Selfish behavior is something that is indulged in deliberately, with a clear knowledge of options". From a psychological perspective, yes. People can be selfish because of neurological/central nervous system disorders too.
Also, I'd appreciate if you talked to me rather than about me.
Did you ever consider that sharing obsessions might be an attempt at just that--sharing?
I know I'm implied as selfish a lot, and certainly called obsessed, but that's because I'm honestly trying to share something I think my friend will like--it's never about me, it's about trying to give them something new and fun.
Nowadays, I recognize that behavior as totally unhelpful. But what you're calling selfish might just be the wonders of being neuroatypical. Sure, autistics can be selfish. But accidental selfishness isn't typically called selfishness, just obliviousness, and you can hardly blame someone for being oblivious when that's what they're built to do.
It's hard to tell, yes. But sometimes, we're actually trying to be nice. Just say politely that you want to talk about something else or do something else, and we'll probably get the hint.
