How do you cope with being so alone?

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I guess he does. I have cats to pull me back into this reality.

I guess he does. He has cats to pull him back into this reality.

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Why do you say this? NT's don't need to feel understood?

Easy remedy, get a dog or a cat or something that you can talk to other than a person. Animals won't go laugh behind your back with their buddies. People suck, if you don't have to be around them, don't.

I wish there was some answer, some real way to cope with it. But so far i've got nothing.. I hate being miserable and I've tried lots of things: being around people, not being around people, talking to people about my problem (btw, the ones i tried to talk to also ignored it or told me i'm making this thing up), not saying anything, imitating others or being my weird self, i got 2 cats, visit my relatives, email my friends, even joined an active outside club, found hundreds of obsessions (or hobbies), escape to my secreat little world and etc. But so far nothing really helps or at least the good effect wears off really quickly and then i'm back to my miserable self.
I don't know if it's an aspie thing or not but it's horrible to live this life with a constant yearning and longing for one true real connection with someone...

some cold comfort here-
the leading cause of human suffering [aside from man's inhumanity to man] is desire. all but a select few, have nearly all earthly desires systematically thwarted. so if one no longer desires, that removes a great deal of suffering, at least from individuals. i gave up wanting human companionship, and at that point i stopped suffering. it also helps me to have semi-lucid dreams at night where i am in an unearthly place where i am intuitively understood and deeply appreciated and unconditionally loved, those dreams keep me going.

Animals kinda know something about me and stay away. How menacing can a 125lb tall guy be? On the flip side many parents of young daughters (like around 5) tell me that they act different around me, like if they are sociable they get shy and vice versa. I need to find out how to turn up the dial on my chick magnet.

Oh in that case do online dating. Its a lot easier than trying to meet people offline. Everyone on the site is there for the same reason you are and nowadays all kinds of people are doing it. I met my first girlfriend online. We broke up about three weeks ago and I'm already planning to date someone else. Give it a try. Plentyoffish and Okcupid are the places I go.

Spend my life on the internet.

Ill be honest here, no matter how lonely I currently am I know that me dating is a waste of time and effort. Theres no reason to go through it just to fail.

Just be loud obnoxious crass and sexist and you'll fit in just fine....

And I being serious to , have you seen the undesirables that "make it" is it any wonder many aspies don't get ahead ?



Why haven't you had meet up with Melbi she's desperate for one her very than her : LOL Is she even out and about she hasn't posted for quite some time , is she OK ?

She like hugs as do I though I don't think it would a good idea , I think it's additive related so I'll pass Melbi.

Terribly sorry dear sir but this made no sense, then I saw your username and read it with a very bad aussie accent and it made less sense.

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I'm sorry what don't you understand, his having trouble fitting in so I told him what he should do to get by....

I suggested he meet up with Melbi a fellow loner traveller who's' in our area and is extremely keen to meet up with an aspergian.

I suspect the OP has set his standards to high, if he was looking for friendships he would befriend almost anybody , as I used to in the past (when these things mattered to me )

I do believe your right their they do know where different, though I would have thought their reactions would be quite the opposite, repeatedly from childhood to the present day I would have " wild" animals that are easily frightened or go on the attack literally eat out of the palm of my hand, Nt's are gobsmacked, hell the other day I fed a wild magpie.

I am well liked by children....

Ok, i was lacking some info on there.