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20 Apr 2011, 9:20 am

I'm going to crawl back in bed in shame that I understood and enjoyed that joke. I'm such a nerd! :lol:

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20 Apr 2011, 9:22 am

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20 Apr 2011, 10:02 am

Sweetleaf wrote:

As for everyone that did not assume I think the world revolves around me or whatever well and even those of you who did...I was actually just pretty frusterated in general I mean I feel like there is no one who truly understands wether its in real life or online and it really got to me hence this rant, also I keep feeling more and more isolated not because there are no people I can hang out with or talk to in RL...but its like no matter how many people I know and enjoy being around I still feel more and more isolated in my mind when I feel numb it does not bother me and is even kind of appealing but when the depression or anxiety kicks in the thought becomes overwhelming. I am not going to actually leave, it is helpful when people do respond and sometimes just posting is helpful to vent. I will however try not to go on anymore rants because it is not very helpful.

Glad you're not leaving. It definitely gets to be overwhelming at points. Don't ever be afraid to ask for help.

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20 Apr 2011, 10:26 am

wefunction wrote:

I switch between feeling left out because I can't join in the reindeer games the same as others and then wanting to scream For F*ck's Sake Just Ignore Me! because the incessant arguing grates on my nerves. I used to have moratoriums on debating politics and religion on the internet. I think I will expand the moratorium to include all debate on the internet. It's easier to just not respond or correct someone's misunderstanding (especially here where I've been more misunderstood than anywhere else in history LOL). This is why I both empathize and am baffled by Sweetleaf. I couldn't imagine using this place for genuine, deep commune and comfort. There's too many people makin' too many problems. There's not much love to go 'round. I'm already pretty stiff lipped when it comes to my personal problems so I think it's a good lesson for everyone to just keep a lid on it and only share what you wouldn't mind someone throwing back at you as an insult, or making the worst of to others behind your back.

But I do have to say that Starlight-Supernova is, in fact, a nice guy.

From what I've seen from your posts, you don't seem the type to be misunderstood...but I haven't been here long....

I do agree that everyone has problems and you can't appease everyone by posting in their threads...but I guess you get a sense of trying to help someone when you do, no matter how hopeless it seems....and I try not to post my problems here too...I have members from other sites who I trust more (since I have known them longer) that I can seek comfort too and have a laugh about random things.

I admit I have had moments where I may talk about someone behind someone's back...but I have only done it to generally arrogant members that I have monitered on a thread for a few months at least....when I come to the conclusion I just don't like them (in very rare cases despise), and I have to vent to a trsuted member to let off steam before I talk on the forums again...it does help....although it sounds like back-stabbing...if it's a member who has not only annoyed you....but attacked or ignored other as well, it definately helps to unleash that from within to a member you trust...and in most cases they even agree with you and vent back). XD

And thanks about the last sentence, it's appreciated by someone who's been here longer for sure.

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20 Apr 2011, 10:34 am

Sweetleaf wrote:

I actually think my existance is quite meaningless, I feel like Im just a random loser...how is that even close to thinking the world revolves around me? I am not a narcissist after all.

I used to live mostly in my own head, thinking about myself and my interests. If other people were involved, they were mere puppets. I'd get upset when things didn't go as I had pictured them. This made social situations more agonizing than they needed to be. But at some point I became to realize that people have lives of their own - they don't just conveniently pop up when I need them.

So now it doesn't make much difference to me how some random stranger reacts to something I say or do. I don't need others to understand me because I can provide that for myself. At the same time I can appreciate the support I do get from other people.

wefunction wrote:

I couldn't imagine using this place for genuine, deep commune and comfort. There's too many people makin' too many problems. There's not much love to go 'round.

That's what the world is like. It's full of these so-called "random losers". edit: Just to be clear, that's what makes it so amazing.

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20 Apr 2011, 10:38 am

Starlight-Supernova wrote:

From what I've seen from your posts, you don't seem the type to be misunderstood...but I haven't been here long....

I am and sometimes I know it's not my fault because NTs will understand. So it's just part of communicating in the Land of the Aspies and that's okay.

In all fairness, I really haven't been here that long, either. I know you're new as of this month, but I've only been here for six months? Something like that. There's people who've been here for years.

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I admit I have had moments where I may talk about someone behind someone's back...

Being frustrated and talking that out with friends is one thing. I think everybody will have a moment from time to time of just wanting to vent to someone they can trust to give them advice or listen without judgment. Gossiping and causing harm to another person's reputation is quite another thing and that's what I was referring to. It's petty and infantile when people will say things to the person that makes them feel like there's been a lot of unfair talk and gossip about them elsewhere. I'm relieved and saddened to know that it's happened to more than only me on this forum.

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20 Apr 2011, 11:32 am

i wish you luck. i agree with your sentiment.

there's a lot of bs on this site lately.

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20 Apr 2011, 11:42 am

Sweetleaf wrote:

None of you actually give a sh*t so I'm leaving...I thought I would give it a try but whenever i really need help with something no one gives a damn so I don't really see the point in staying on this stupid site. So I hope you all enjoy your lives and forget I was ever here, my future is not promising at all so I dobut any of you will hear from me agian. But I really do hope all of you enjoy your lives I guess its just too late for me so not many people can actually relate...sorry for causing any akward feelings or whatever damage I must have done to be ignored for the most part. But just forget about me and enjoy your lives because they are far more important. I'm just a stupid loser anyways.

oh and sorry if this seems harsh but someone could have at least been blunt and said no one here cares, it would have caused less waste of time on everyones part.

As for everyone who has responded to me and have seen this, thank you for being nice but yeah just admit to yourselves that you would enjoy your life more if you did not have to see my pathetic posts here...........I mean what I have aspergers and cant get a job, I have no reason to exist according to society. I should probably end my life before I do anymore damage, but I just cant't build up the energy to do that.

oh and I am sorry for even posting this, I guess its just a combination of isolation(yes even on the interent) and everythinge else that is taking a hold. So feel free to not care and continue on that is what life is about after all.

Bye.

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20 Apr 2011, 2:37 pm

wefunction wrote:

Indeed, at least some people will understand you, that's all that matters.

Oh I see...why don't we form a newbies group? XD

wefunction wrote:

I know some members like that and even a few members in that forum outing their dirty laundry in public (the gossipers) when they go out of hand...although it may seem harsh to do this (even on CyberBullies), but I can understand if people get sick of them talking about someone behind their back when they don't see eye to eye (which is common from what I have seen in that forum).

Yeah, it's not just one person who is targetted normally....I just put them on the Ignore List and carry on talking....it's easier that way and you don't give them the attention they definately do not deserve.

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21 Apr 2011, 9:04 am

WP's not much of a support site, these days. If you really wanna enjoy the company of the few good folks who still roam around here, try to find a bunch of people, or just a person or two who share the same interests as you. Go to the 'off the wall' forum and find folks there who have the same sense of humour as you. If that doesn't work, go to the Movies, Games and Computer forums and find regular posters and mingle with them. You can also find a place on the Random discussion and find a few like minded individuals. Another thing you could do, is look at your old posts and see which posters tried to make an effort to help you feel better and see if they are going through similar difficulties as you, then you PM and get to know them better.

By posting in the Haven and expecting the world to care, you're gonna be largely disappointed. WP is just not that type of site I'm afraid.

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21 Apr 2011, 1:26 pm

Unfortunately, this site is so huge that it's rare that more than one or two people will give a crap if you leave or not. Making dramatic threads about it may get a little bit of attention for a short while but it won't change things in the long run, regardless of whether you leave or not.

Don't get me wrong; as far as I'm concerned you're more than welcome here, but you need to learn that whether a thread gets replies or not is largely up to chance and timing rather than peoples' concern. It's a cliche, but everyone does have their own problems that take up their attention. Some people have a knack for naming threads so that they catch my eye (Miyah seems to have a knack for it- whether she appreciates my advice or not is another thing ), but other than that I don't follow anyone or seek them out to comment.

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23 Apr 2011, 9:52 am

Most of the time, I don't even know that a person exists until they go emo, make a long rant about how nobody cares, and announce that they are leaving.

It's not that I don't care, it's that I never knew them well enough (if at all) to care. This happens a lot in the real world, too.

But they always come back.

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23 Apr 2011, 10:09 am

Well, I can say that I don't reply much to Sweetleaf because I don't think my opinion and advice will be much use to her. When I did smoke pot, it was seldom and very recreational, not a habit in the least. It wasn't part of my life. I worked a lot when I was her age, I had a kid and before I had that kid, I was a workaholic. So I don't really have much to offer her, other than lifestyle changes that I know she doesn't want to do. That doesn't mean I want her to leave the forum, of course. Naturally, I want her to stay here. I think there are people who can comfort her and relate to where she is in life... they just aren't me.

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23 Apr 2011, 1:04 pm

I PMd Sweetleaf and got a reply so I thought I'd ask her more about what's she's like and stuff but I haven't got a reply yet...

Maybe she's not here anymore?

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23 Apr 2011, 1:07 pm

Starlight-Supernova wrote:

I PMd Sweetleaf and got a reply so I thought I'd ask her more about what's she's like and stuff but I haven't got a reply yet...

Maybe she's not here anymore?

Maybe it's just a holiday weekend?

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23 Apr 2011, 1:11 pm

Sweetleaf has posted at least 7 more times since her latest post in this thread (3 of them yesterday); so yeah, she's still around.

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