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There are individuals out there who are worth being friends with and who are deserving of your friendship, and then there are those who aren't. I've been rejected by people in the past who I thought I had a lot in common with and I thought should like me as a friend....not in an obligatory way but I simply thought they would consider me their friend type. But it turns out that some of these individuals didn't care to have anything to do with me and from what I could gather, it sometimes seemed for a petty reason. I concluded that I would like any friend of mine to have certain moral and ethical standards and perspectives (for example I would not want to be friends with someone who looked down on another due to occupation, or their weight) and some of these people who rejected me did not meet them.

Others I've come to realize simply sensed we might have a personality conflict which could have resulted into a negative conclusion to the relationship and I can respect if they do not wish to be friends because of that. These individuals usually remain acquaintances with which I am on friendly terms.

The more you care the more you will try to improve and vice versa.

I've known very nice people who were also very popular, and I've also known some real as*holes who were just as popular...what the 2 groups shared was they had excellent social skills - it was nothing to do with how nice they were. So, I don't think you (I/anyone) should hate yourself for not being popular because it has nothing to do with whether you're a good person or not.

I'm not a Christian (although I believe in God), but there's something that Jesus said that I like to remember when I feel down about how disliked I tend be which is "if the world hates you, know that it hated me first". Whether you think the Bible is true or made up, the story is about someone preaching love and kindness and peace...and the people hated him so much that they murdered him!

At the end of the day you have a disability which means you don't have great social skills....it's not your fault (doesn't mean you shouldn't try your best obviously, but you shouldn't hate yourself for struggling with something which is a recognised disability either).

What I have noticed is that many people don't have much of a sense of commitment when it comes to friendships. When I want to make a friend, I really try to work at it and make the friendship meaningful; I don't try to half-ass if. But many people tend to get into friendships just as a means for temporary laughter and enjoyment, with no real commitment in there for when things in the friend's life gets bad. I mean, just look at facebook, where people have like 200+ friends. How often do you think those people talk to their friends at least once a day, or eve once a week or month? Yes it does hurt at first when those so-called friends leave you, but realize that they do this to many people and that it is not personal, and that in the end they are hurting more. They live a life that is very shallow and with no real deep connections. you're better off by getting rid of those people to make more for people who actually care about their friendships.

You do have friends, on here.

I don't because all I do is b***h about my life.

oh i get that. it sucks. and most of the time people suck too yup.

but who wants such asshats as friends anyway. nasty cruel dickheads??cummon. if they're like that then it's no reflection on you

hope you feel better today lass

That is true. It's not easy at times. I try to deal with it by going in my own little world.



No-one likes me, with the questionable exception of my parents. It wouldn't matter if I died and never existed. No-one would actually care in any case.

You know what Facebook is full of?

Yes, that's right.



Ball bags.

Which is why I have never spent any length of time on it. Evar.

Don't bring yourself down. Everyone has fans, even really terrible people.

Even this nasty little baboon:

There is nothing wrong with you at all.

I've known you for years on this site Hale and yes, I've seen those posts you've mentioned and I've been on the receiving end of them too. At first yes I found it upsetting but after a while and reading a lot more of your posts I realized it probably just was a gut reaction for you. I see past it and see you

Heck its a shame I was too busy job searching when I was in NZ. Would've been great to have met you.

I've had a Facebook account, but I don't go to it nearly as often as I use to. I post enough personal things here. I don't need to be posting the same things on Facebook, and I really don't know how to use it.