New Years depressing me, need to talk...
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Stevo1965 wrote:
Good segue to marriage. That is a fool's errand for us. Had I known.
Living in an "age appropriate" manner? I see many NTs doing that. Living the family life. Nicely decorated homes. Debt. Stress. Let us face the facts that the person successful enough to avoid such toxins is rare, and rarer still are those of hereditary wealth, who have no need to leverage to the hilt.
Living in an "age appropriate" manner? I see many NTs doing that. Living the family life. Nicely decorated homes. Debt. Stress. Let us face the facts that the person successful enough to avoid such toxins is rare, and rarer still are those of hereditary wealth, who have no need to leverage to the hilt.
You're right on the money with the reality of it; on the other hand though I think we - and likely just as many NT's - are jaded that there's not only such a gulf between what we were taught and what's really there but, the way we really want it - the way we want to love and be loved, I suppose share our lives with something that we just instinctively seek like a mirror image. I think that's the real frustration: finding out that even to be in a relationship - if it isn't the marriage from hell or something that splinters from divorce there's very little more to say than you both had exceptional luck. To swallow that our instincts are completely out of touch with reality and that this world and happy relationships are mutually exclusive items or items that we at least have no control over; that's a hell of a hard thing to swallow. Equally so its naive to watch people you even looked up to take that feeling, try to put something together with someone you would have endorsed for them any day of the week, watched it and so many other relationships fall apart, and then we for some reason delude ourselves into thinking 'that won't be me'
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