What's your safe haven or own world?

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Mine is anywhere that is dark and cold or my bathroom with the shower running on high creating a steam room. It also needs to be dark though.

I mostly retreat to my dorm room - all my plushies and my die cast Cars are there. I can sleep, spend hours on the internet, listen to my slow songs and lullabies on my MP3 player, eat and do homework at my leisure, and no one knocks on the door or bothers me.

I can remember being really depressed one summer when I was about 14, and I had this loft bed that I would climb into with some of my favorite die cast Cars and would just talk to them....I told them everything. There wasn't anyone else I could talk to. Mater, Sally, The King, Snot Rod and Fillmore were the ones I went to for comfort first.

This all took place for 3 weeks when my mother was forcing me to go to this "social skills" camp where I had to endure abuse from a girl who was about a month older than me and just would not leave me alone and quit controlling me. I would basically get home from camp, and then go right up to my room, take my Cars up to my loft bed and talk to them. Their metal was so cool to the touch, and their faces were so friendly, easy-to-read, and inviting. I knew they would have taken me away if they could.

When I'm at home, I go to my room and write in my journal or listen to my iPod. In public, I also listen to my iPod.

My mind, nothing more perfect.

It depends on the situation. When at home (I live with three relatives and cannot escape to privacy in most rooms of the house) I go into my bedroom, lock the door, and read one of my favorite books, or when I have enough time, I often take a shower and just sit in the bottom of the tub with my back to the shower head. The warm water helps me relax. When in public, the bathroom is also a common "safe haven" for me as it allows me the most privacy in public. I also view the time I have to sleep as a haven. I tend to have very vivid dreams and I am a "lucid dreamer". This means that I am able to manipulate these dreams so that I awake feeling better than I did before I fell asleep (oddly though, I struggle to do this when having nightmares).

My safe haven is my girfriend's arms

I haven't had a "meltdown" in maybe 3 or 4 years.

If I can't handle something, I just walk away and maybe take a break outside or something, instead of having a mental.

Videogames.....or the multiverse my Aspie best friend and I invented for our roleplaying games.

There's alway's next year's NaNoWri Mo - keep it in your head until then, and then let it all out!

I've noticed that with age the meltdowns/near meltdowns have receded a bit. However, I still get overwhelmed and must have my retreat time in order to avoid the meltdowns. When I was young and social interactions were externally forced on me, it was harder to control. Now that I'm old and just live with my husband, it's a lot better.

When it's warm enough, I get some of the tension 'out' by gardening - I find it is sort of an 'in between' therapeutic space. Even though I am in full view of the public,mostly folks will leave me alone. Oddly enough,I even like being visited over the fence sometimes. I do like the fence though.

My deeper haven is having my own bedroom (the smallest room in the house is the best one for this space - my current one is about 9x9)

When it gets really bad though, the bathroom for a hot shower, followed by a retreat to the tiny room, to curl up in bed and either read or sleep.

I used to be able to retreat into a book or my mind. I also loved just sitting in an empty field, or outside away from civilization in general. Especially with horses around! In my head, I always had this field full of horses that I'd escape to and there was a castle in the surrounding forests, and a river. There was always a gentle breeze so I could hear the trees, and it was a nice warm breeze, like being wrapped in a warm blanket.
Now I have two very small children with opposing sleep schedules and I find myself constantly begging for some time alone but whenever we can get a babysitter, we have to go somewhere, so I'm having a very hard time as of late! (O_O) Hopefully I can make it another 3 years

My bedroom if I am near home, however when away from home I only have my mind to retreat into.

I have no safe haven. Would be nice though.