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I meet a girl and then she starts talking about astrology. I think astrology is a bunch of BS but if I tell her that it will be the end of our relationship before it even started.

Relationships are all about listening to stuff you have no interest in whatsoever but pretending you do. I think people who find relationships have learned how to make themselves likeable by other people and are more focused on the other person's needs than their own. If it's 'all about you', you are by default not good relationship material.

I know but you are doing people a disservice by pretending that you share their superstitious beliefs.

Anyway i had a second chance and another woman shared with me her belief in astrology.
This time I gave her some astrological charts of planetary orbits according to the perspective of a spirographic earth centered universe. She then featured these charts on her astrology web site.

You don't have to share the beliefs, just show a respectful interest. Star signs are often uncannily accurate - I am a typical Pisces.
I haven't yet worked out how it manages to be so accurate. I think an aspie in the middle ages must have done a lot of cataloguing of people types and what times of year they tended to be born.

If I were to open up my mind to astrology I would be subjecting myself to psychic attack. This is because I would be allowing the stars to control me. To me no romance is worth paying this price.

That's an unusual way of looking at it

The stars don't control me - I just find star signs unusually accurate and it's interesting - there's no control of me going on

I think you need to keep an open mind and at least talk through the options. If you still can not find any common ground then move on.

Vectorspace I think it is important to remember that dating in the typical world is seen as a sport, with the standard being that the male does the asking and 9 out of 10 will be refusals. Being atypical it's very hard to turn that standard on it's head.
I think you need to look outside of the orchestra but still in a similar field so that there will be some common interest. It would probably be good to keep some separation, if you see each other all the time or things do not work out it can be overpowering.
On the other hand there is more than a little truth that opposites attract.
Good luck.