Deeply offended right now and pissed

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AspieOtaku, TAKE IT EASY. You're blowing it out of proportion. Nobody is mad at you. We like you. We just wanted that forum to be taken a little more seriously. I disagree that men shouldn't post in it at all - I think they should feel free to contribute as long as it is relevent to the discussion, and as long as it isn't putting down women in any way. That forum is there specifically for women who are feeling judged because of living life as women. We need that space to vent about that and other womens' issues, and it is important we are given that space. It is not there to seperate the sexes, it's there so we can feel free to talk about our worries without being judged, or fear that our worries won't be taken seriously. Some women got upset because you posted a video that wasn't relevent to the discussion, that is all. People on here make mistakes sometimes, but we all learn from it and we move on. Do you see what I mean now?

I don't really know, judging by most of the stuff you post, you out-drama any woman I have ever known. Are you sure you actually have testicles? Maybe your estrogen is all out of whack and you are acting hormonal on account of that?

Geeze

You're implying he's weaker than a woman.

Am I?

Gosh, all these things I go around saying without realising what I am saying. I wonder what's wrong with me.

I was just saying it contradicts everything that's been talked about, is all.

I hope you don't leave over a conflict with one person....why not just take a break from the site for a while, or a couple days and see how you feel about it. If you still want to delete your account after that go for it, but sometimes its best to just take a break...sometimes if I am getting worked up over something(even if it is reasonable for me to be pissed about it) I find taking a break can help and then I am usually glad I didn't delete my account right away so I don't have to bother with making a new one.

You are not the cancer of WP, if someone actually said that I think they were being ridiculous.

no one said that to him (at least not that i'm aware of, i certainly didn't)--that (and many other things) he said about himself because he was having a meltdown and not being rational.

*sigh* You were right and yes I took things the wrong way, Its really hard to be rational in melt down mode I am sorry for overreacting and taking things the wrong way. Im so embarrassed now.

Toy Soldier posted this in your "i'm quiting" thread and i just wanted to repost it here because i think it's really important:

"I remember you having a similar thread some months, maybe a year ago.

You seem to be going round and round in the same pattern and unhappy with the result, which is the same result as last time.

What did you learn last time? What changes did you make? If the answer is nothing and none then maybe you should spend more time examining yourself and your actions. People might encourage you but can't fix you from the outside."

i have noticed the same pattern. everyone makes mistakes, and no one expects you to be an exception to that rule. you are no better or worse than anyone here. but if you keep repeating the same kind of mistakes over and over again without trying to learn anything from them it gets rather annoying to people around you who have to watch. people will only feel sorry for you for so long if you insist on not trying to change or grow at all as a person. i hope you get some help for your problems.

I get in really down times, my emotions get the best of me and I think my problem is I overreact and make things ten times worse in my view than they really are at times, my issues are in my perception at times I am some really bad person over something simple that's probably what I got to change and work on. I tend to be unhappy with myself time and time again and get overly negative and yes I do try to change and try to change myself for others but not for myself and it leads to these same patterns every year or so. I get paranoid and extremely depressed these patterns get worse some times of the year particularly when my flashback cycles occur. When im in a happy mood at times I get hyper and curious and sometimes feel the urge of trying to make people smile and laugh and it makes me feel better inside, but when a couple people don't like it or I screw up I get this negative thought in my head where I feel Im not wanted I am worthless and things go down hill from there and I take the criticism out of proportion. If I can find a way to improve that thought process of my own perception of myself maybe I can better myself. Depression and anxiety recurrences frequently in me every few months.

have you talked to a counsellor or doctor about any of these things? because if you keep trying the same things and they don't work, then how can you possibly expect a real change to happen?? i don't know how many times it needs to be spelled out for you: get some help.

I probably should although i have been like this since my childhood at times i had worse meltdowns and were more frequent where my self harming and self hating over something simple like getting an A- in class its just some moments get more severe than others i did get some counciling after I spent a couple nights in a mental institution under a 51/50 hold due to a nearly successful suicide attempt and was offered the suicide counciling for it. The only improvements over the years I have made was to refraim from self harm during such incidents. These moments have been less frequent over the years. If I was on WP in my early 20s you would see me making threads like this almost every week.

Glad you're feeling better now.

Thanks I might not leave WP after all over something so small.

Hey man, you could always temp ban yourself for some cool down time.

I am staying clear of that place for a while until i am fully mature and emotionally stable and in the right state of mind. Maybe ease on posting random youtube videos unnecessarily.