Is there any hope?

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No, it's not easy at all. And a lot of people think they can just write what they feel like writing and everybody should read it, but you have really think about what people will want to read instead. Still, it can be fun and you can usually still manage to write about what you want to write as long as you do it an accessible, interesting way. Hard work though yes, but we live in crazy world. You have to work hard at anything to make money now.

Social media is free. A website is not that expensive. If you start doing book tours, then it can get expensive.

All I can say is that I've worked for the man all my life and the way the country is turning, that's getting to be a harder and harder thing to do. If you are young and you love writing, it's a good way to escape that fate.

Well, my psychiatrist encouraged me to write about my experience of the world as an autistic. This is what the article is about - sensory processing and such. I am going to continue to work on it.
Great that you're trying to write too! I think doing a bit everyday is a great idea.



Thank you hale bopp, I have heard that New Zealand is a wonderful place to live. Both beautiful and socially progressive. Is marijuana legal too?



Yes, this is the trick - people have to want to read what you write. I must have done 15 revisions on the article and still I don't like it.

is there laws as to testing?

I would like to visit NZ one day for its views. though also have a ex friend there I would want to avoid. this might add another interest to visiting though, likely I wouldn't go thru with paid sex.

Ha, I wen to a BlogHer conference last year and all these middle aged women were whining for an hour because they write about their experiences of how hard it is being middle aged and how nobody will take them seriously now that they are over the hill, BUT NOW what's worse is that nobody will take them whining about not being taken seriously seriously? (Did I say that right?) I was horrified as I too am middle aged and would never consider writing about such a thing without first finding some way to make it relatable to other people. That's the kind of thing I'd put in my diary but really I try not to even put stuff like that in there because it bores even me while I'm writing it!

I honestly believe anything can be written to be interesting, including the struggles of being middle-aged, but you have to care about your readers.

Anyway, I'm starting a publishing company and want to have one branch of it be for Autistic people to publish. I think Autism and special interests are gifts to anybody who wants to write, but right now I feel like getting anyone to do it is what's going to be the hard part.

I figure even if your SI is MY Little Pony, if you can find a book to write about it that you would want to read and nobody else has written yet, you could sell some books. We also have a lot of people here who have some technical and scientific knowledge, musicians, I'm hoping to encourage everyone to try their hands.

Should be up and running by January.

wozerree, I am so excited for you [and for the entire Autistic world!] Yee Haw!

I don't know how it is in other countries, but hookers in the US tend to end up going in and out of a revolving jail door, with multiple drug addictions, afflicted with multiple STD's, and ultimately dead.

I realize we're all gonna die some day, but there is a difference between dying and being beaten to a bloody pulp and dumped on a back road to bleed out by your pimp, by other girls whose clients you took away, or by a criminal organization.

US prostitution laws and enforcement favor organized crime so strongly that one wonders if our politicians don't have very close ties to the Mafia et al.

As far as AS unfitting you for jobs and relationships...

Well, writing is a bastard of a field. I'm speaking from the POV of someone with a BA in English and a specialization in writing-- that's the lesson beaten in over and over and over in college. DON'T QUIT, DON'T QUIT, DON'T QUIT. Because there are going to be 57,000,000 rejections before someone even bothers to tell you what you're doing wrong. That's not ASD-- that's WRITING.

Relationships. I don't know what to tell you. My therapist swears we don't have any problems that aren't normal married couple problems. My husband swears he's mostly fed up with my self-hate and resultant depression, not so much Asperger's. I say something different-- I remember that our problems used to be entirely due to Asperger's (needing too much time alone, being too free with my opinions, being disappointing in the sack, et cetera), and those problems were what made me decide to hate myself and live in fear.

I think if he could spend a fortnight with me, only a non-autistic version of me, he would never want the "real" me back again, ever.

He says that's my sh***y self-esteem talking.

Don't give up. Just be realistic about what you can and cannot put up with, or accommodate, or change, or whatever else.

If you've been dating long enough to get completely jaded toward sexual intimacy, probably know what I'm talking about.

Also that there are worse things in life than spending it single. Many worse things.

I don't see how autism can't effect a relationship. Unless both people are autistic. My ex husband was the epitome of neurotypical and I was dragging him down. I miss him, but I couldn't fill his needs or meet his expectations. It might have made a difference had I been diagnosed then. I'll never know.

I'm not doing the hooker thing. If it was legal maybe. But too dangerous. I'm focusing on writing.

And I have an appointment with my psychiatrist (my NEW psychiatrist) next month. He specializes in anxiety and OCD, not autism. This worries me a bit, but it's possible there are no autism specialists available here and I don't want to go to Toronto. I'm going to ask him about the antidepressant that I'm taking, Effexor. I'm thinking I might need a mood stabilizer. My moods fluctuate wildly and rapidly. I'm worried that he might take me off Serequel, though, which I think is the only thing keeping me functioning.

Thanks

Aint there other medicines in the same category as Seroquel?

Lots. Other than maybe Abilify and possibly Zyprexa, most of them are notorious for having side effects that are apt to be worse than what they're supposed to treat.

If you're unwilling to give a medication up and it's not causing you any terrible side effects, DON'T. They're doctors, not gods.

My personal opinion on relationships, whether autism is present or not, is that your best bet is to focus on being as OK as possible in the life that you have (rather than thinking about all the ways a relationship would make it better). Because, while relationships come with plusses, they also automatically carry a lot of baggage and complications.

Add autism and there are more communication issues, more issues with stress from "on-stage" behavior, more emotional issues (on both sides) with needed downtime.

I'm not against relationships, per se. But life can also be good without them. Sometimes finding friends (actual friends, not fun casual acquaintances) fills a void that our culture encourages us to think can only be filled with an SO.

I AM against thinking that SO relationships are necessary for life to be full and complete, for problems to be solved, blah-blah-blah. I have a girl friend who regularly ruins her existence with that kind of thinking. Also a cousin. Watched my mother do it. Don't want that anyone should get caught in that trap, but millions do.