No more WP for me

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Sorry to see you go, I barely knew you. You seemed pretty down to earth. I'm a pretty paranoid individual, so I might fall under whatever you meant by "paranoid", maybe not though, oh well. WP is its own brand of therapy for me. I know I come off strong sometimes or sometimes down right bizarre, lengthy isolation and whatnot does that, but I've been trying to reform my thoughts better and staying out of stuff I'm not prepared for. I'd destroy half the stuff I've posted here so far. Hope you come back.

I really liked it you being around here, I will miss you and your posts

See you on Facebook.

I've been a regular on here for 7 years and this hasn't changed. It isn't going to. When you put a group of socially awkward people and make them use the internet to socialize you are always going to run into people who display these traits. This is essentially a support forum for the socially awkward. People come here to vent about their issues with being social, so personally I expect some of the undesirable traits you listed. I like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt on their level of social awareness to such things and I like to steer them in the right direction, and if I feel I'm not able to do due to a lack of my own understanding or their repetitive trolling behavior I just don't reply to their posts.

I feel it's just as easy for you to stop reading the posts by trolls, intentional or not, if you don't find their content desirable to read. It shouldn't ruin it for you because there's a lot of quality posters here outside of the negative and you can still make good connections and friends, and even if you choose not to, you can still help someone reach a self-awareness to their negative behavior. I always felt you offered some of the better advice of the majority of the posters here, I'd hate to see you go, the autistic community lacks people with street smarts and you, given the experiences you've shared, have a lot more street smarts than almost anyone here I know.

If you choose to leave, I'm in most of the FB groups, although I'm not very active anymore my profile pic is me skiing with ice covering my beard. Feel free to hunt me down and add me.

I don't do facebook, but I would appreciate it if someone could PM me OOM's email address. I may or may not use it, but I have lost track of too many "online friends" over the years because I neglected to get their real contact information. I feel better knowing I can contact someone if I want to, even if I don't do it. I meant to get it the last time she came back, but I didn't

Honestly, what I see a lot is newer people, who don't know people, read a post in isolation and completely flip out over it. Even those of us who are endeared to OOM are able to see that sometimes her posts come off as rather...OOM-ish. I appreciate it because I know her and I respect her (even though we often disagree), and I can read through the delivery to see what she is really saying. Newer people don't have the context to do that. All they see is the delivery, not the thoughtful person behind the words. And when that person comes from a position of feeling victimized wherever they turn, there is no changing their opinion. She is easy to misunderstand if you do not want to make the effort to understand.

Then there are people who are not newer, who are more sensitive than OOM's posts allow for. That is not her fault, nor is it theirs. But it is a recipe for head-clashing.

Sadly, not everyone comes back. With the exception of one other forum, when I have left, I have left. I hope she does come back, but in the event that she doesn't, I hope someone will ask her if I can have her email address. I appreciate it in advance.

Members could just post a few paragraphs in their signature, saying to message them. Or mention they are taken a break or outright leaving. Announcing it publicly then coming back so soon after "the final goodbye" just gets to be a bit like the person wanted the attention.

That is one way to look at it. Putting something in your signature will not work, however, because if you are not posting, no one will see your signature. Also, I made the mistake of leaving a forum once without announcing it and I made a lot of people really scared and worried for no reason. They thought something bad happened to me or one of my kids. It also made them mad. I felt badly afterward because I realized I had never even considered how some of them would feel. Since that time, I have let people know I was leaving...and then I left. I do see she updated her profile.

Some people will be attention seeking whether or not they leave the board. Others may do things that someone may interpret as attention seeking when that wasn't their intention at all. From my experience, OOM is not an attention seeking kind of person. But sometimes she does say or do something that she takes back once she has had a chance to cool down and process things all the way through. I hope this will be one of those times, but to be honest, to have the fact that you have been reported to a moderator numerous times mentioned on a public thread, when you had no idea that this was the case, is humiliating. It feels, again, like you are the one unpopular kid at school and that people are ganging up on you behind your back. And I don't see how someone who has been a contributing member of this forum for years could possibly not be stung by it. I would feel disrespected, and I wouldn't come back after something like that. I'm not saying that is what set her off, because I haven't spoken with her, but it would set me off.

The thing is, advice is to be giving. It does not have to be reciprocated. I'm sure O.O.M. is a smart person in reality. She must know that if she types out something useful, it is up to the responding party / parties to acknowledge the good gesture and follow through. If they don't, she need not take it so personally.

IMHO, Olive Oil Mom is a very bright woman...and a great writer to boot!

Sometimes, she gets on the blunt side. If people don't know her, they might get offended.

I think she's "for real," though.

I could agree with you there, especially after reading some of her posts here on the forums. I can't exactly blame her for leaving because of the drama that goes on the forums. At the same time, they have all come to vent their frustrations on there as many members here just feel to release those negative emotions which unfortunately don't go too well. Sadly its all relating to social awkwardness. As far as I hear about WP, its always not so great so I can't see any good reason to continue posting either on a frequent basis.

I also hear she is going through some kind of grieving process iirc... Maybe that may take some time until she may return? I would not know?

Sorry to see you go you have been a great friend but I kinda agree that the PC police have taken over. I may consider taking a break myself.

No Otaku, you just keep posting threads about the same topic over and over again.

Sorry I get repetitive its my nature and when I try to fix things I either mess it up or its too soon for me to say Im sorry.

Feminism is a bad word whenever I mention it even in a positive way it is insta lock followed by mods being mad at me!

"All feminists are BAD! HAHAHA only joking!!"

"All feminists are BAD! HAHAHA only joking!!"

"All feminists are BAD! HAHAHA only joking!!"

"All feminists are BAD! HAHAHA only joking!!"

"All feminists are BAD! HAHAHA only joking!!"

Etc. I don't blame the mods for locking those posts, because they are ALL the same, and just trying to rile up those who really are feminists. If I kept mocking you for being into anime or whatever CONSTANTLY...would you like it? It's provoking people and you know that damned well.

And you use that "haha not really" as an excuse to provoke. Everyone can see right through you. It is childish. It is like seeing a child running around smacking peoples' bums.