How to accept limitations?

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Thanks BeaArthur, I appreciate it, I do try to not be constant source of depression and it is my desire to help when I can. Its just a lot harder than it looks so I think I come across as bat s**t crazy to most people on here. I do appreciate you guys comments when I get in a bind which I know is frequently and can annoy some people on here but honestly its one of the few things that keep me going. A few weeks ago was hard for me and while my post quality was about zero, the comments left by others still had a lot of merit for me.

androbot01, I just realized your in Canada cause apparently I am not paying attention to what is clearly written on my screen. I know nothing about disability services there or how housing works there. However, it might be worth asking, do you have any type of vocational rehabilitation? In the US or at least in Nashville TN, there is a vocational rehabilitation center that helps with finding a job. The one here will help you find one that fits your needs as well. With your new found certification (I didn't follow exactly what you are certified in, sorry) something like vocational rehabilitation might help you get a job using it or any other certification you have. Other things to look at is the Canadian equivalent of unemployment benefits and if your eligible and and maybe an unemployment office.

I am assuming I am preaching to the choir at this point and that you have looked at these options since your on disability but the point of what I am saying is don't forgot about community services that might be able to help. You might even want to look into community services from private entities like churches as well. There was one here that would pay for the first three months of your rent when moving into a place. You don't have to be religious to explore some of these options and it might seem like begging but honestly I would do everything in my power to stay in the apartment you have. There is no shame in survival.

I don't live that far from you androbot! I feel you about your situation.

I'm newly on odsp because I finally reached a point in my life where other's weren't helping me and I just refuse to go live with my parents who have money but who I have a strained relationship with, at least on my end.

I've read your struggles and I hope you do well in your new room. I just moved into my own apartment from a rooming situation; it's this weird sort of housing in that I think the landlord company gets subsidized to run these rooms and I must not earn more than a certain amount of money to live here, but I did not get into it through the assisted housing registry (which I am also on). It costs me $643 inclusive.

I however also have an ex/lover/friend who will help me financially with around 100$ a month worth of work for his business, and my well off retired parents will help too if I ask for it. That said, I still think the rent is sustainable all on its own. I live in Cobourg.

I am on disability for my depression; I've never lasted at a job for more than a year my entire life. I'm intrigued by your transcription training, I would love to get details about where this is! I'm always leery of online training and jobs.

I'm fighting the same question that you are though. It's hard for me to accept depression as a disability (I am not dx on the spectrum but I know I have traits but when I have energy I can socialize seemingly fine). My SO is really trying to help me accept my limitations because I beat myself up so badly for them. The shame and guilt from struggling and failing to do things (one of my asd traits is executive dysfunction issues) is really hard, and I'm at a turning point in my life where I'm just trying to accept that my depression literally disables me. I've also never had anyone else in my life really push me to accept that mental illness is still illness and I wouldn't keep pushing myself to do things that I couldn't do if I had a physical limitation so why do it if I have a mental one? It's hard though because the mental one comes and goes; paralyzed legs as comparison stay forever.
Suffice it to say the negative perception I have of myself for failing at things just feeds the depression. So instead of the pushing and pushing I have done for 15 years I'm trying another approach. Just tell myself when I reach the mental wall of doing tasks to not push until I cry, that it's OK to not push when I tentatively feel it there.

I'm sadly kinda failing at doing this though too :-p

Anyways, I'm glad your life seems to be going someplace good. I have a lot more I could say about myself but I think I'll stop there. I hope you find some peace.

That's not bad. I'm paying $725 inclusive, but it doesn't leave enough for much else.
My friend lives in a subsidized housing situation like yours. He likes it. My rent for the room is only $375.

Cool. I'm not far from there at all.

Google search transcription jobs. You'll find a bunch. The one I'm working for pays $10/audio minute.

Mine too. I am beginning to accept that some things I just have to learn to live with.

Thanks. You too.

Transcription. I listen to audio files and type out a hardcopy.


The room is not that bad.

Thanks Bea!

At least you're not getting 50 cms of snow, and you're not too cold in temperature.

Yeah. I hear you guys are being hit with a nor'easter.
Stay safe.

Thanks, Ann. All I'm concerned about is digging two cars out!

Well take your time. It's heart attack season.

I shall. It's nice that you care.