I don't know what to do with my life anymore

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Get thee to a nunnery! I mean a Doctor's office. A COMPETENT drs office. And whatever you do, don't mention depression first thing. Granted you're not an overweight unattractive woman who will get a depression diagnosis if she even has a hint of unhappiness, but I find that MANY drs, once they deem you as having a mental illness, will pass off your physical illnesses as part of the mental one. You may experience that if you have diagnosed autism, I do not know if that is a common issue as I do not have diagnosed autism nor do I come off as aspie.

Go in, make a comprehensive list of ALL your symptoms, even things that don't seem big, so that you don't forget them. Then tell the dr. to figure out what's wrong with you. That much tiredness, and water drinking, is not 'normal'.

I had to FIGHT with drs to finally figure out that I had celiac disease. When I finally got the bloodwork done for it the bloodtest was off-the-charts positive. And guess what the symptoms are for celiac disease? Every f*****g thing under the sun. I was tired, extremely moody (moreso than I am now), exercise made me feel worse, I was getting neuropathy but had no diabetes (they loved to test and re-test me for diabetes), bloated and sh***y stools (haha), mosquito-type itchy spots. All from 1 not properly tested for disease that -I- had to research for myself and come up with as a possible option for myself.

And yeah, I still struggle with depression, but it drove me INSANE having doctors write off my symptoms as part of depression.

FFS your physical health is going to affect your mental health greatly. Look after yourself.

About hiring people without IT skills: Your manager is right that people who are trained in science can learn new things because they have the right mindset and because they are trained in problem solving. You however, were BORN like that. Don't compare yourself to them, you're doing fine.

Sometimes depression sets in, or rather, you notice it, when there is some calm and when outside things are ok. Work on fixing your inside.

This. A lot of physical problems will, over time, cause mental problems, because you get so exhausted. Depression and stomach problems in particular seem to be connected.



This is the problem with most autoimmune diseases, such as diabetes and celiac. They have a million symptoms, of which the most prominent is fatigue. A lot of them are hard to diagnose, and there is a lot of symptom overlap.

I agree with cavernio that you should not mention depression immediately, because they will explain everything with depression. If they don't find anything physically wrong with you they will diagnose depression anyway.

I know the feeling of wasting one's life on health problems that could have been resolved years ago. It's a grief process, but it is possible to get over it and start a better life. You're not close to pension age yet

I do not have celiac disease

A few years ago I suspected it was the cause of my fatigue so I got tested. Negative result.

When I was 18 I was diagnosed with prediabetes. My father is diabetic and so was my mother's grandfather. Considering this I am almost certainly diabetic.

Yet my last GP refused to run the test. When I asked to be tested he gave me a standard blood test. Did he think I couldn't tell the difference?

I moved a few months ago so I have to find a new GP? I just find it very frustrating how when I have symptoms for a disease they act like it's all in my head. My psychologist wouldn't even diagnose me with depression.

Just find a new doctor, and mention what your gf said. They are more likely to consider it if based on someone else's observation. Try not to talk too much, just mention the prediabetes as well. I have the same problem talking to doctors. I am not sure why, but I suspect it has to do with just annoying them or talking too much or that they cannot follow my thought processes, so they get stubborn as mules and refuse to consider the obvious. And they think they are the smartest person in the room so you can't possibly know that a diabetes test has to be done on a fasting stomach.

If they ask you why you didn't get your diabetes test done before, mumble something about being too busy.

Also, doctors really hate it if you come looking for a specific diagnosis, so start the conversation with mentioning first that your problem is exhaustion, then bring up what your gf said, then let them ask you something, then during the rest of the interview mention being prediabetic. Talking to doctors is an art form of its own.

You can get home testing kits for diabetes. Also this sounds weird but does your wee smell sweet? That's a sign of it.

Sometimes with Dr's you need to really to push to get tests done

I would try to get a sleep study too. Sleep apnea can make you feel miserable. You can be chronically deprived of deep sleep and not even know it. That will CAUSE depression.

I understand depression. I hate all those empty positive platitudes. I'm not going to say anything other than I deal with depression issues and feel your discomfort.