smudge wrote:
I'm literal. I don't like it when people ask for advice, or say they want help, when they actually don't want any, and they take it out on me. I see it around me all the time...on here, and IRL, and it's one of my pet hates about humans. In my ideal world everyone would be forced to confront their inner selves and explore them. The whole world would spin faster and everything would massively advance. But then I suppose people would end up rigidly sticking to the rules regarding open-mindedness, and it would all become ironic and everyone close-minded. Every subject seems to encounter that problem when rules are laid on.
While I cant speak for hurtloam, I have been accused of doing what you say in terms of asking for/rejecting help...
For me, Im reflexively negative. Its just part of how I process things. I drove my ex wife nuts with this. She had a very similar view as you. I understand where the frustration of someone with your view of it comes from. However I think its most fair to understand not all of us process things the same way. For me, I reject things initially to find its flaws. And if you're the one suggesting something, my 'rejecting' it, is in fact my saying "help me change my mind about this, here are my concerns". It may be communicated poorly, but thats a flaw we all have from time to time.
Sorry to pile on or jump in, it just was something I really related to and wanted to throw in my handful of pennies.
I do get what you mean.
I kind of stopped posting in this thread cos I felt I hijacked it a bit, though I still feel the same way. I don't think I can really add anything.