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04 Jun 2018, 3:17 pm

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Mark has to explore where he got the idea that all these people don't want him to have a girlfriend.


He's going to have to do some serious Psychonauting to dive into his head and figure it out.. because no one here has ever posted those words.

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At least it'll be a fun & enlightening process filled with wonderful thoughts and beautiful images! :D


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04 Jun 2018, 3:21 pm

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... He's going to have to do some serious Psychonauting to dive into his head and figure it out.. because no one here has ever posted those words ... At least it'll be a fun & enlightening process filled with wonderful thoughts and beautiful images!
I've a weird feeling that we'll soon be seeing another new thread on a very similar topic as this one in the very near future... :wink:


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04 Jun 2018, 3:40 pm

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... He's going to have to do some serious Psychonauting to dive into his head and figure it out.. because no one here has ever posted those words ... At least it'll be a fun & enlightening process filled with wonderful thoughts and beautiful images!
I've a weird feeling that we'll soon be seeing another new thread on a very similar topic as this one in the very near future... :wink:


Thing is, I'm certainly not opposed to similar threads coming up ;) but only when there's something of value to discuss.


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04 Jun 2018, 4:18 pm

goldfish21 wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Mark has to explore where he got the idea that all these people don't want him to have a girlfriend.


He's going to have to do some serious Psychonauting to dive into his head and figure it out.. because no one here has ever posted those words.

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At least it'll be a fun & enlightening process filled with wonderful thoughts and beautiful images! :D


:roll:

I just explained why I feel the way I fo at the top of this page and I didn't just mean the people on this forum.

I thought you would've finally gotten a hint when Booyakasha told you to stop replying to me. Even if I do get better, I won't ever give you any credit and I will still hate you. I'd rather die than be your friend.

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I very strongly suggest that you stop blaming others and look toward improving yourself; stop lying about what other people say and do, and be more concerned about your own words and actions; and stop making excuses as to why the advice you've been given can not / could not / would not work for you -- it's good advice, given by people who were once in similar situations as yours, from which they extricated themselves, and the lessons of which they are more than willing to share with you.

Take it or leave it -- the choice is YOURS and YOURS alone; thus the credit for success and the blame for failure will also be YOURS and YOURS alone.


And I strongly suggest you quit making assumptions about my life. People have indeed told me harmful things. That isn't lying, that is reciting memories.



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04 Jun 2018, 4:23 pm

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I know what people have told me.
What will you do about it?


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04 Jun 2018, 4:24 pm

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I know what people have told me.
What will you do about it?


Read my edit. If you seriously think no one has been malicious towards me, you are delusional.



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04 Jun 2018, 4:27 pm

Marknis wrote:
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I know what people have told me.
What will you do about it?
Read my edit. If you seriously think no one has been malicious towards me, you are delusional.
That does not address my question. What will you do about what people have told you?


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04 Jun 2018, 5:26 pm

Fnord wrote:
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Fnord wrote:
Marknis wrote:
I know what people have told me.
What will you do about it?
Read my edit. If you seriously think no one has been malicious towards me, you are delusional.
That does not address my question. What will you do about what people have told you?

And why should I answer your question? All your posts towards me have been mocks about my emotions.



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04 Jun 2018, 5:44 pm

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All your posts towards me have been mocks about my emotions.


This is exactly what people have been trying to point out to you Marknis , you are not thinking clearly at the moment , you see everything as an attack or mocking you. You are in a bad negative feedback loop and you need to stop the cycle of being hyper vigilant and seeing everything as negative.

I bet I could say I like your avatar and you would be able to come up with at least 5 reasons why that isn't a compliment


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04 Jun 2018, 6:35 pm

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CBA techniques ? Can't be arsed technique :lol:

Sounds like mindfulness or maybe CBT , I think you have to have a particular mindset for CBT / Mindfulness to be useful or have a bloody good therapist ( thin on the ground in the UK ) . Like Marknis I think I am my own worse enemy , I over analyze things that don't need to be analyzed and look for threats where there are none.


My apologies. I am dyslexic and especially bad with alphabet labels. :oops:


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04 Jun 2018, 6:40 pm

You will always be a Blazing Star in my book.....so what if you made a minor error. Haven't we all?



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04 Jun 2018, 6:52 pm

Marknis wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Marknis wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Marknis wrote:
I know what people have told me.
What will you do about it?
Read my edit. If you seriously think no one has been malicious towards me, you are delusional.
That does not address my question. What will you do about what people have told you?
And why should I answer your question?
Because I ask them.
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All your posts towards me have been mocks about my emotions.
^Another lie.^

(That makes TWO.)

Of course, I understand why someone would want to do that. I've dealt with many people -- such as employees and military subordinates -- who, by casting aspersions upon people who try to advise them, they deflect attention away from themselves AND they "Poison the Well" against those well-meaning advisors in case anyone in authority looks in to see what's going on.

Fortunately, nothing I have posted addresses your emotions at all, but only your apparent need to stop blaming others, stop lying about others, and stop making excuses whenever someone tries to advise you.


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04 Jun 2018, 7:05 pm

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CBA techniques ? Can't be arsed technique :lol:

Sounds like mindfulness or maybe CBT , I think you have to have a particular mindset for CBT / Mindfulness to be useful or have a bloody good therapist ( thin on the ground in the UK ) . Like Marknis I think I am my own worse enemy , I over analyze things that don't need to be analyzed and look for threats where there are none.


My apologies. I am dyslexic and especially bad with alphabet labels. :oops:


No need to apologise , I was just checking if there was CBA techniques , I think Can't Be Arsed technique sounds like it might work for some people :lol:


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04 Jun 2018, 7:06 pm

Marknis wrote:
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Mark has to explore where he got the idea that all these people don't want him to have a girlfriend.


I was told constantly growing up by various people "You don't need a girlfriend!", "You're never getting laid!", "You'd be a terrible father!", "You need to wait until college!", and other damning statements.

The same people, especially the men, also dated even when they said things like "Women are trouble!" to me. The message I got was that it's ok for them to date while it's not ok for me.


"You're never getting laid!" and "You'd make a terrible father!" are pretty mean. I would just ignore those, what do other people know what's going to happen to you or what you will be. Waiting until college isn't really a bad thing, some benefit from doing that. With college and not needing a girlfriend, are you sure they were being mean? Maybe they were trying to tell you to concentrate on other things.


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04 Jun 2018, 8:38 pm

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Marknis wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Mark has to explore where he got the idea that all these people don't want him to have a girlfriend.


I was told constantly growing up by various people "You don't need a girlfriend!", "You're never getting laid!", "You'd be a terrible father!", "You need to wait until college!", and other damning statements.

The same people, especially the men, also dated even when they said things like "Women are trouble!" to me. The message I got was that it's ok for them to date while it's not ok for me.


"You're never getting laid!" and "You'd make a terrible father!" are pretty mean. I would just ignore those, what do other people know what's going to happen to you or what you will be. Waiting until college isn't really a bad thing, some benefit from doing that. With college and not needing a girlfriend, are you sure they were being mean? Maybe they were trying to tell you to concentrate on other things.


Yes, those two first statements were indeed mean. I think they were being mean with the other statements as well because they just said those things and didn't elaborate on them.



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04 Jun 2018, 9:53 pm

Marknis wrote:
AquaineBay wrote:
Marknis wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Mark has to explore where he got the idea that all these people don't want him to have a girlfriend.


I was told constantly growing up by various people "You don't need a girlfriend!", "You're never getting laid!", "You'd be a terrible father!", "You need to wait until college!", and other damning statements.

The same people, especially the men, also dated even when they said things like "Women are trouble!" to me. The message I got was that it's ok for them to date while it's not ok for me.


"You're never getting laid!" and "You'd make a terrible father!" are pretty mean. I would just ignore those, what do other people know what's going to happen to you or what you will be. Waiting until college isn't really a bad thing, some benefit from doing that. With college and not needing a girlfriend, are you sure they were being mean? Maybe they were trying to tell you to concentrate on other things.


Yes, those two first statements were indeed mean. I think they were being mean with the other statements as well because they just said those things and didn't elaborate on them.


Well I know sometimes I misunderstand what peoples intentions are. It could have been possible you could have misunderstood theirs.


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