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I think more than annything sly needs to improve his outlook. Girls do go out with chubby guys. They also go for physically fit guys. Sly you can still eat what you want if it makes you happy. If you dont want to go to the gym try walking. Thats what Ive always done to keep in shape. Its an easy costless form of exercize. It will also improve your mood.

I can’t go on walks alone I just can’t. So gym is the only way I can get exercise.neither brings me happiness and means giving up on stuff thst does. To go to gym means coming straight home from work and going to sleep then waking up early to go to gym coming home get ready for work then go to work, so my day would just be filled with stuff I dislike. Or I can play games with people who like me and feel human for a bit.

The major reason I’ll never have a gf is most women won’t date losers who don’t have their Life together, though a lot of women want fit men. Just like most men want thin women, humans aren’t suppose to be fat. But 2/3 of US population are fat, so we need to change our standards for sure.

My outlook is a result of 15+ years of women saying to me thst I’m not good enough for them or any women.

Why can't you walk, Sly?

^ was just going to ask the same thing

Yeah, why cant you walk alone?

Is it because of depressed mood? Because walking alone gives you too much time in your own head?
I get that a bit, like if I'm feeling down then going for a walk tends to let my thoughts circle and makes me cry.
But if the walk lasts long enough to get through the crying, I usually feel better by the end. And it helps me sleep and stay healthy, I think.

Panic attacks

I walked with friends long ago a lot but never since I get way too much anxiety just thinking about it.
So I got gym membership which’s is more comfortable it’s jus the drive to go isn’t there when I wake up and don’t even feel like doing anything

Sly, do you have passion in your life? Do you have things in your interest that you do every week? Finding passion and aspirations in life lifts your mood.

Gaming, coin collecting, hisotry, shaving, guns, but it’s all pointless without a so to share it with

With the possible exception of shaving, I'm sure there are quite a few women who are into what you're into.

Fluffysaurus is really into history, for example.

Not really . Most women are neutral or against guns, coinc collecting is mostly a old men’s hobby. What women who do gaming are causal mobile gamers or play Nintendo portables.

Most women I’ve seen are either the cowgirls types who just want to do dirty outdoor stuff or ones who idea of fun is shopping at the mall or going partying at bars and getting wasted >.>
But most don’t see me as a man anyways or human for that matter

You need to work on your passions more. That attract people. Build networks.

Maybe passions like outdoors stuff, musical Instruments etc attract people. All my passions are done with a closed groups or alone. Gaming for example is done sitting in you room alone, same for history, guns, and shaving. They are also all. Mostly male dominated. I’ve met 3 women gaming, I’ve seen a few wives of shavers who shave too, I’ve met zero women who go shooting or talk about guns, and zero into history.

Work out.

So then why not shift your socializing objective from seeking dates/gf/future wife to seeking a walking partner(s)?

But... but... hang on, there's a lot of misconceptions going on here.
Most relationships are not based on a shared passion, they're based on compatible personalities.
Maybe it doesn't matter that the women Sly meets are not as passionate about his interests. The question is, are they the type of women who are into quiet, solitary, indoor activities like gaming, or collecting, or even... reading? cooking? bonsai growing?
There are women like this out there, it's just hard to find them because they are shy, solitary creatures. But it's too negative to assume all women are into outdoor sport or shopping and therefore incompatible for Sly.