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cyberdad
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22 Dec 2021, 7:30 pm

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The NT world of social rules is about learning the art of deception and BS. If you're blunt and speak from the heart honestly, without considerations of social etiquette, naturally some people find that offensive, because its jarring break to their empty small talk, when you inject unfiltered real opinions into a situation.


Essentially the NT world is made up various social rules specific to the region/culture. Even NTs who break these rules/social norms are subject to ostracism.

Why do NTs do this? I think it's for building social cohesion. We learn from a young age to conform to social norms and we assimilate these from peers/watch our parents. Even moving from another culture people acculturate.

For an autistic person it's like the latter, acculturation to conform to social norms of the place where you live.



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22 Dec 2021, 7:47 pm

Yes, it's to build a sense of security. Human society is very tribal. It's an evolutionary thing. Dispel fears, maintain group solidarity, persecute the out-group. All wired into our deepest centers of the brain.


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22 Dec 2021, 7:51 pm

theprisoner wrote:
Yes, it's to build a sense of security. Human society is very tribal. It's an evolutionary thing. Dispel fears, maintain group solidarity, persecute the out-group. All wired into our deepest centers of the brain.


This is all true.