I don't want to be a narcissist

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After thinking about it, maybe I have a reading comprehension problem as the title 'Misdiagnosing Narcissism as Asperger's Disorder' means narcs getting dx as spergs to me , shouldn't it be 'Misdiagnosing Asperger's Disorder as Narcissism'

No offense, Joe, but I knew from the title alone that this thread would be you.

You seem to have a tendency to read things about autism and all that you take away is your initial, strong emotional reaction, which then turns into an anxiety spiral so strong, you are unable to read anything more into the text.

Maybe you could give yourself a break from reading articles like this is you know you have comprehension issues that are distressing to you? I hope that doesn't seem mean, it's just a thought.


I got 24/25 on the quiz, I'm not surprised. I was raised by someone who exhibits alllll of the traits of narcissism, so I'm sure it's a part of how I'm socialised. My brother once said to me, 'I genuinely believe I'm better than most people,' and I totally get it. He's not narcissistic but that's what happens when your formative years are shaped by someone who is. Someone said earlier in the thread that narcissists aren't insecure - this isn't true. They are insanely insecure because other people and the real world often threaten to topple the delusions of grandeur they've built for themselves. The one I'm thinking about will frequently ask you 'I'm a good person, aren't I?' (and of course you can only say 'yes'), and he's always telling us 'so-and-so said my hair looked f*****g magnificent', 'so-and-so said that my work absolutely blew them away', 'so-and-so almost cried at how good I was today.' They need you to know it and believe it because their ego is so fragile; to themselves, a narcissist is simultaneously the worst person on earth and a god.


They say if you're worried about being a narcissist, then you're probably not a narcissist, so there's always that.

Yes - the title is wrong and that intro doesn't make sense regardless. It sounds like they're saying children ages 3-6 are often diagnosed with ASD but they actually have NPD??? Children have NPD ???

What is "frequently found" in children 3-6 ?? Personality disorders?? They use the word "Still, ..." which means that's what they're talking about rather than ASD.

I'm totally confused.

I know some young kids can be aholes but this makes it sound like they have more chance of being NPD than ASD?

Scratches head.

yeah, I should of read the the article fully before posting it ( I cherry picked when I read it), maybe I was just being narcissistic and messing with people

I am OK at interpreting comprehension in posts but I do struggle to understand the language used in internet articles, as they seem to beat around the bush rather than just getting to the point, so I often not understand what it's trying to say.

But being so the article was posted in my thread I obviously couldn't ignore it.

^^

I have a problem with words like *snowflake* when they're applied to people who really are victims of abuse or trauma.

The first step in trauma therapy is to speak up so we can help educate / protect others -- not ourselves.
Trauma survivors don't speak up to help themselves, since trauma is a private journey.

"Snowflake" implies a person is weak if they try to help other people.

Go figure.

*Sorry for the derail but it's something that really bugs me.*

It just seems that there's a name for everything these days, such as narcissism. We might as well say NTs are narcissists because of their typical habit of lying and manipulating their way through life (as what is often described about NTs by Aspies on autism sites anyway). Or when we (as humans) don't want to be accountable for our actions. It's quite normal to become defensive when you know you've done something wrong. I see it every day, from all types of people. Like at work when people often try to get out of doing work but shame others who are doing the same thing. A lot of people's actions are different to what they're actually thinking, and because we know nobody can hear our personal thoughts then that gives us the freedom to think whatever we like.

It's just difficult to understand where the line is drawn between narcissism and typical human behaviours.