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02 May 2023, 11:02 am

^ Who said you were allowed to say that :P


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02 May 2023, 11:08 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
*cues Radiohead*


It took several other posts and me making a coffee for this joke to make sense - doh :jester:


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02 May 2023, 11:08 am

^^Oops! :oops:

Maybe next to my scarlet letter I should embroider a crossed out E.



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02 May 2023, 11:13 am

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Define "creep", Jamesy.

What does that mean in your opinion?

I'm not saying you are one, but we should all be on the same page about what it means.




To me a true creep is someone who enjoys being creepy because it gives them a thrill. Before I was put on anti pychotic medication back in 2017 I used to hang around outside nightclubs until 3 in the morning seeking attention from women and just generally acting weird 8O


I would not dream of doing that these days and as if 18 year old women would be interested in a strange 28 year old man anyway hanging outside clubs anyway.



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02 May 2023, 11:15 am



https://youtu.be/XFkzRNyygfk


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02 May 2023, 11:16 am

Because I used to hang outside nightclubs back in 2017 until the early hours some bouncers barred me briefly from my local bar.


In my defence I did have really bad mental health problems at the time so that’s the only stage of my life I behaved in that way.



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02 May 2023, 11:24 am

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In my defence I did have really bad mental health problems at the time so that’s the only stage of my life I behaved in that way.


Do any of the people who you have complained about in previous threads know this fact?


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02 May 2023, 11:26 am

Jamesy wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
Define "creep", Jamesy.

What does that mean in your opinion?

I'm not saying you are one, but we should all be on the same page about what it means.




To me a true creep is someone who enjoys being creepy because it gives them a thrill. Before I was put on anti pychotic medication back in 2017 I used to hang around outside nightclubs until 3 in the morning seeking attention from women and just generally acting weird 8O


I would not dream of doing that these days and as if 18 year old women would be interested in a strange 28 year old man anyway hanging outside clubs anyway.



I don't think it means they enjoy being creepy, or that it gives them a thrill.

I'd use the word for anyone (any gender) who seems creepy.

In my opinion creepy ^ means they exude a bad vibe.
They set off a gut-feeling or warning alarm for me.
They make me feel unsafe even if I'm not sure why.
Creepy people seem to be thinking unsavoury thoughts.

They might watch me too intently or seem to study me.
They might seem to watch or study other people.
They might not respect boundaries (conversations or touch).

The creep might not have any idea they're doing this.


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02 May 2023, 11:29 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
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IsabellaLinton wrote:
Define "creep", Jamesy.

What does that mean in your opinion?

I'm not saying you are one, but we should all be on the same page about what it means.




To me a true creep is someone who enjoys being creepy because it gives them a thrill. Before I was put on anti pychotic medication back in 2017 I used to hang around outside nightclubs until 3 in the morning seeking attention from women and just generally acting weird 8O


I would not dream of doing that these days and as if 18 year old women would be interested in a strange 28 year old man anyway hanging outside clubs anyway.



I don't think it means they enjoy being creepy, or that it gives them a thrill.

I'd use the word for anyone (any gender) who seems creepy.

In my opinion creepy ^ means they exude a bad vibe.
They set off a gut-feeling or warning alarm for me.
They make me feel unsafe even if I'm not sure why.
Creepy people seem to be thinking unsavoury thoughts.

They might watch me too intently or seem to study me.
They might seem to watch or study other people.
They might not respect boundaries (conversations or touch).

The creep might not have any idea they're doing this.



Correct me if I am wrong but ‘creep’ just seems like an unkind label.



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02 May 2023, 11:34 am

^ It’s not, though.

If people are aware that they are coming across as creepy, especially if they’ve been told that on numerous occasions already, they can work on changing their behavior. It doesn’t need to be a permanent situation.



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02 May 2023, 11:36 am

Twilightprincess wrote:
^ It’s not, though.

If people are aware that they are coming across as creepy, especially if they’ve been told that on numerous occasions already, they can work on changing their behavior. It doesn’t need to be a permanent situation.



I am guessing hanging outside nightclubs seeking attention was creepy beyond creepy.



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02 May 2023, 11:37 am

It's not a good thing to be called a creep.

If that's how people feel about a creep, it's honest more than it's unkind.
They aren't thinking it to be malicious or unkind to the creep.
They're thinking it because their body gives them warning signs.
It's involuntary.

Saying out loud "you're a creep" might be considered unkind.
I don't usually tell people they're a creep unless they won't leave me alone.
At that point I stop being around them for my own safety.


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02 May 2023, 11:38 am

I don’t think I’ve ever called anyone a creep although I’ve implied it on a couple of occasions.



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02 May 2023, 11:39 am

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Sometimes staring for to long is just part of having aspergers.



Uh, no.

I'm autistic and I don't stare at women.
I don't stare at men.
I don't stare at children or disabled people.
I don't stare at anyone.

I might stare at the wall or be spaced out, but not at people.

I know that would make people very uncomfortable.


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02 May 2023, 11:41 am

Even if a person unconsciously stares at people, if they know that they are doing it and that it’s not a good thing, they can work on breaking the habit.

Having autism is not a good excuse.



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02 May 2023, 11:43 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Jamesy wrote:

Sometimes staring for to long is just part of having aspergers.



Uh, no.

I'm autistic and I don't stare at women.
I don't stare at men.
I don't stare at children or disabled people.
I don't stare at anyone.

I might stare at the wall or be spaced out, but not at people.

I know that would make people very uncomfortable.



I dunno why I stare at people sometimes? I have improved upon it but when I was younger I used to do it ALOT.