The hardest part for you about having AS is:

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This is a great topic.

The hardest thing is a co-morbid condition called Dyspraxia. (unco-ordination, difficulty initiating movement). I used to belong to some webgroup called Dyspraxic Adults but they were mostly NTs with this condition. They did not understand my AS and I found I could not talk to them very well.

As I have said, this is the only site I have felt comfortable visiting and engaging in communication. Thank you.

Having NTs telling me they know what I am thinking or why I did something.

SABs (screaming autistic breakdowns). They are basically uncontrollable and no medication can prevent them. Today I found out my library card had been blocked because my mother had used it to get a book she did not return for months, and I hit the car window and myself while screaming "F--- F--- F---!" over and over. It is humiliating to be almost 16 and still throwing violent tantrums over simple little changes in plans.

Being constantly misunderstood. It is not as bad as it used to be but it is still just as tiring when it does.

The hardest part about having AS is dealing with intolerant NTs who think you're using AS as an excuse. I suppose that's being misunderstood, to some degree

^I know. I hate that, too
For me, it's knowing that NTs take the fact that they were born knowing how to act in social situations, and I'm not that lucky for granted.
Another part I hate is my stims/tics, and my inability to "act normal", and the fact that I'll probably never be independant (though that's probably more due to anxiety than AS).

I am so sick of that ><*** NT's act like they know everything about AS, sometimes.
I just want to punch them and be all, "You don't know s**t about what it's like to live with Asperger's!!"

I hate that, too.

For me it would be the anxiety and depression. I can get over not understanding people, since I have adapted well at that.

Oh, I hate it too when NTs think they know about AS. Especially our emotional lives.

We can know about AS from an external, diagnostic perspective, but that's all anyone can really hope to attain.

Personally, I don't understand those with AS as well as NT's. People in general are tough to understand.

Same here.

My other pet peeve is just feeling uncomfortable in a public setting & simply trying to start up a conversation,especially with the ladies.I think I'm too worried about making an a$$ out of myself & therefore fail to take the initiative to try & communicate with others on a social level.

For instance I have no trouble walking into Starbucks & placing my order,but when it comes to making small talk/engaging in social conversation with the staff or customers that's where I tend to mess things up because I don't even have a clue on how to really initiate a discussion & instead tend to kinda butt in on a conversation that's going in around me.

People feeling sympathetic for me.

I don't want people telling me "Oh, I bet you wish there was a cure..." Aspergers is not a curse for me! I actually enjoy being able to break away from society's obsession with normalcy. I enjoy being able to naturally think outside the box. I enjoy being able to excel at art. I don't need or want to be cured.

I hate feeling like i try so hard to meet people in social events or love, but that they never seem to be interested in even trying to meet me half way.

I thought this long before i ever knew of AS.

When the few people who know i have AS talk to me as if they pity me, or as if im simple.

When your standing right with someone, and the words just wont come out to start a conversation, so im waiting and waiting for them to say something to me, but they never do or when they do im caught offguard.

The phobia of thunderstorms, it rules my life for weeks on end sometimes.

Joe

What do I find hardest? Outright prejudice - being excluded from a group because I'm aspie and they thought I might be some kind of danger to normal people because I may ask questions that people think are rude/disrespectful. Oh, and people who treat those who are different to them as automatically inferior (which links in with what others have written about being talked to as if we're idiots). And politics. And not knowing when I'm being 'used' by other people.
I'd better stop now or I'll have created quite a list...

I want to be a physician, but I think my AS will get in the way.