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16 Mar 2008, 11:52 pm

Do you know, I'm not kidding, that I now can go up to 102 crunches. Ok, I didn't mean to brag. They say that it isn't so much the weight that determines how much weight you've gained but rather the circumfrance around your waist. I got a book called You on a Diet by Michael F. Roizen and Mehmet C. Oz. I recommend it, it gives you a realistic view on why you feel the way you do and helps you be realistic about your diet goals unless you of course suffer from anoerexia or a disorder called dismorphia (if I spelled that right) it has to do with the unrealstic perception of how your body's suppose to look.



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17 Mar 2008, 12:16 am

Center on the wide horizon
Focus on the galaxy
Sweep away your expectations
And recognize your enemies

But here you're talking to yourself
You're stripping off for someone else
You've got to learn to love yourself
It's all that counts
There's little else

You're always looking for affection
And all its possibilities
Your sense of searching for attention
In urgent need of gravity

I think you think you're someone else
You've got to learn to save yourself
Before you find there's nothing left
But bitterness and hollowness
And afterglow
And afterglow

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aulNH1cGZDY



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17 Mar 2008, 12:29 am

Interesting song.
Although my body issues have nothing to do with wishing to appeal to anyone else.
It is more complicated than that.

Exercise does not make me feel better anymore...it triggers my OCD worse, for some reason.



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17 Mar 2008, 12:32 am

MissConstrue wrote:
Do you know, I'm not kidding, that I now can go up to 102 crunches. Ok, I didn't mean to brag. They say that it isn't so much the weight that determines how much weight you've gained but rather the circumfrance around your waist. I got a book called You on a Diet by Michael F. Roizen and Mehmet C. Oz. I recommend it, it gives you a realistic view on why you feel the way you do and helps you be realistic about your diet goals unless you of course suffer from anoerexia or a disorder called dismorphia (if I spelled that right) it has to do with the unrealstic perception of how your body's suppose to look.


I have had anorexia, and I do apparently have body dysmorphia.
I would resent anyone believing this is to do with pressure from media or some stupid idea of appealing to the opposite gender as it is not to do with that.
It is partly an OCD, stress related thing and partly sexual abuse related.



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17 Mar 2008, 5:33 am

I hate my legs. I have thighs that start off fat (due to my wide hips) but they oddly taper in thickness till my knee, and then I have ultra skinny calves and ankles. I look ridiculous in capri's or skinny leg jeans, unless I wear a bulky pair of knee-length boots to give my calves an illusion of wideness.
I also hate my neck. It looks thick and really masculine.



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17 Mar 2008, 11:16 am

I never said anoerexia or dismorphia is related to the media or had to do with trying to appeal to the opposite sex. I know it's an illness.



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17 Mar 2008, 3:25 pm

Graelwyn wrote:
I measure about 33, 25, 36 currently.


You're not that far off from me: 35-26-35. To myself, I look slim, and other people tell me I am too. So you are, as well.

In fact, you're better off than me, because your proportions in the waist and hips have been proven the most attractive to Western men. The ideal waist is 70% of the hip measurement, and 70% of 36 is 25.2. Therefore, your waist-hip ratio is actually the ideal! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Waist-hip_ratio

According to the above, I should have a 24.5 inch waist. But I still seem to do all right. :) So quit worrying, Miss Perfect. ;)



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17 Mar 2008, 3:34 pm

Jeez! I feel so bad... I'd really like to help you all but I'm having trouble visualizing all your body issues...

PICTURES! WE NEED PICTURES! :twisted:




aww, just kidding! :wink:

I'm actually pleasantly surprised by how many people here seem to have done some real reading and planning on taking care of themselves. Congrats!

I find I either need to have a workout partner or a job or school class to keep me working out regularly.
As far as eating... I just try to eat well everyday.. then makeup for the times when I don't... like Girl Scout Cookie Season, which just happened :P


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17 Mar 2008, 5:27 pm

Problem is, I love food... and it's all or nothing for me.
Been times when I have eaten loads of chocolate, every day for months.
The most I have ever weighed is 150 and that was when I was eating anything I wanted.

I am now down to 127.

Another issue I have found is exercise seems to affect my mood not positively, but negatively if I do anything strenuous in the evening before I lay down to relax and read. It actually increases the severity of my OCD and self image issues.

I don't know why.
So I am trying to do exercise in the afternoon, soon after I get up instead.

As ever it is my butt that bothers me.
I look at myself sideways in the mirror and want to see it straight up and down... not curving outwards at all.

It is my obsession. I do not like curves on me.



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17 Mar 2008, 6:05 pm

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I hate my body, I think I have too much fat on my legs and stomach despite exercising every day. I really hate my face in particular, my nose is big compared to the rest of my features and I can't stand the shape of my face.


darling, you're gorgeous!


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17 Mar 2008, 6:10 pm

Graelwyn wrote:
Problem is, I love food... and it's all or nothing for me.
Been times when I have eaten loads of chocolate, every day for months.
The most I have ever weighed is 150 and that was when I was eating anything I wanted.

I am now down to 127.

Another issue I have found is exercise seems to affect my mood not positively, but negatively if I do anything strenuous in the evening before I lay down to relax and read. It actually increases the severity of my OCD and self image issues.

I don't know why.
So I am trying to do exercise in the afternoon, soon after I get up instead.

As ever it is my butt that bothers me.
I look at myself sideways in the mirror and want to see it straight up and down... not curving outwards at all.

It is my obsession. I do not like curves on me.


try lifting weights...... nothing heavy... it tones. i weigh 120 lbs but am a heck of a lot shorter than you. you sound pretty thin and i dont think you need to lose any.....

try swimming? that gets everything :) i'd do it more if i didn't have to worry about shaving my spider-hairy legs all the time lol


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17 Mar 2008, 6:53 pm

Sedaka wrote:
Graelwyn wrote:
Problem is, I love food... and it's all or nothing for me.
Been times when I have eaten loads of chocolate, every day for months.
The most I have ever weighed is 150 and that was when I was eating anything I wanted.

I am now down to 127.

Another issue I have found is exercise seems to affect my mood not positively, but negatively if I do anything strenuous in the evening before I lay down to relax and read. It actually increases the severity of my OCD and self image issues.

I don't know why.
So I am trying to do exercise in the afternoon, soon after I get up instead.

As ever it is my butt that bothers me.
I look at myself sideways in the mirror and want to see it straight up and down... not curving outwards at all.

It is my obsession. I do not like curves on me.


try lifting weights...... nothing heavy... it tones. i weigh 120 lbs but am a heck of a lot shorter than you. you sound pretty thin and i dont think you need to lose any.....

try swimming? that gets everything :) i'd do it more if i didn't have to worry about shaving my spider-hairy legs all the time lol


I used to love swimming and there is a hotel pool literally down the road.
Keep meaning to go but I have not worn a costume in so long now.

I love walking on the local common which has woods and lakes and where they are currently setting up a fair, but I never considered walking all that solid of an exercise, altho I do walk very fast.

In Summer, I sometimes rollerskate.



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17 Mar 2008, 7:07 pm

Sedaka wrote:
Nico wrote:
I hate my body, I think I have too much fat on my legs and stomach despite exercising every day. I really hate my face in particular, my nose is big compared to the rest of my features and I can't stand the shape of my face.


darling, you're gorgeous!


Thanks, that really made me smile :D
I just wish that I felt it inside.


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18 Mar 2008, 2:38 pm

Graelwyn wrote:
I look at myself sideways in the mirror and want to see it straight up and down... not curving outwards at all.


Your bum is supposed to curve out, sweetie. Check that Wiki on waist-hip ratio again.

Graelwyn wrote:
I do not like curves on me.


It's a natural part of being female. The only way to get rid of your curves is to starve yourself until you're skeletal, and that is NOT attractive.



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18 Mar 2008, 8:54 pm

I posted to you on Which do you Prefer? - http://www.wrongplanet.net/posts60093-start202.html



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18 Mar 2008, 10:09 pm

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I posted to you on Which do you Prefer? - http://www.wrongplanet.net/posts60093-start202.html


Although she used to be an idol of mine, I would not wish my body to be likened to hers as in a lot of her shots, she seems rather fleshy. I think it is at her slimmest, when she first started out that she had those measurements and was her lightest.

My hips inches are in the width. I have wide bones. So to get smaller hips, I have to lose my butt because i have no more flesh I can get off my hips since my hipbones stick out.


I was looking in the mirror earlier...at my ass

I had my back to the mirror and I stretched a leg out backwards and the butt looked gross. It looked all bigger and wrinkled doing that...you know, doing like an arabesque. I hope everyone's butt does that when they take that position.