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17 Aug 2008, 2:05 pm

I hope this is just a cry for attention/help on your part, Tim, because the alternative is too awful to even think about.

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17 Aug 2008, 2:39 pm

My friend wants absolutely nothing to do with me now, and I did nothing to deserve this.


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17 Aug 2008, 3:07 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
My friend wants absolutely nothing to do with me now, and I did nothing to deserve this.


True, but you have other friends. Just look through this thread.


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17 Aug 2008, 3:21 pm

But I get attached to people very easily, and get devastated when I feel that they don't want me around anymore.


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17 Aug 2008, 3:30 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
But I get attached to people very easily, and get devastated when I feel that they don't want me around anymore.


Been there, done that.

I still get attached to people far too easily, but I've learned to let go when they don't want me around anymore. It still hurts like hell, but I somehow manage to get over it more quickly. I usually try to distract myself as much as possible rather than dwell on it. It's not easy, particularly when you only have one or a few friends at any given time. I've also learned to be a bit more discerning about who I make friends with in the first place. Again, easier said than done.

Hang in there. You have friends here.


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17 Aug 2008, 3:41 pm

But I want one friend to be a single, female Aspie who is liberal and likes the Simpsons and South Park.


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17 Aug 2008, 3:46 pm

Well, keep looking. She's out there somewhere. And who knows, maybe somewhere along the way you'll find someone else you'll like even better. Or maybe not. The point is: don't give up hope.


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17 Aug 2008, 3:48 pm

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Well, keep looking. She's out there somewhere. And who knows, maybe somewhere along the way you'll find someone else you'll like even better. Or maybe not. The point is: don't give up hope.


Everybody else on here tells me that that type of person doesn't exist.


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17 Aug 2008, 3:59 pm

If there was a way to meet female Aspie with the same interests and beliefs offline, then maybe I wouldn't be on the computer as much.


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17 Aug 2008, 4:05 pm

you cant lower your standards? why cant you just not talk about politics?



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17 Aug 2008, 4:06 pm

nightbender wrote:
you cant lower your standards? why cant you just not talk about politics?


South Park is the only way I ca find someone who is liberal without them thinking I just want sex.

In Texas, being liberal means doing the opposite of what the Bible says.


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17 Aug 2008, 4:09 pm

what so important about liberalism in the context of dating?



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17 Aug 2008, 4:10 pm

I'm with Tim on this one -- it is harder to meet someone offline than online. Aspie = poor social skills. We usually can communicate much better through correspondence than in person.

However, Tim, I think they're right about you needing to take a break. You don't need to find someone right this minute! Do something you enjoy. Try not to think about this for a bit.


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17 Aug 2008, 4:12 pm

But since the type of person is nearly impossible to find, I feel that I have to stand by and wait for someone with those qualities to make her presence known, and find her before someone else snatches her up.


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17 Aug 2008, 4:14 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
But since the type of person is nearly impossible to find, I feel that I have to stand by and wait for someone with those qualities to make her presence known, and find her before someone else snatches her up.


Guess I can't argue with that one.


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