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11 Nov 2018, 10:21 pm
TW1ZTY wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
I know this sounds strange but when my best friend passed away I would continue to have conversations with him in my mind. I never heard his voice because we chatted on the computer so in my head I would imagine the conversations I would want to type to him and it was as if he would reply back exactly like he did when he was still alive. I have experienced that lately though. 
spirits have been known to communicate via computer as well as phone, tv, radio, tape, mind.
I kind of think part of it could have simply been wishful thinking on my part and I knew him very well and knew exactly how he would respond to anything I said. I still miss him.
did you ever check out the book "Hello from Heaven"?
Not yet.
highly recommended, it is a source of comfort.
11 Nov 2018, 10:21 pm
I think the thing that bothers me so much about my friend dying was that people always try to tell me "well at least he's not suffering anymore" when they try to comfort me but when he got very sick I remember him telling me how scared he was to die before he went to the hospital and I never heard from him until his mother contacted me to let me know he died in the hospital. He didn't want to die so I know he must have been scared in the hospital and I couldn't be there for him.
11 Nov 2018, 10:24 pm
TW1ZTY wrote:
I think the thing that bothers me so much about my friend dying was that people always try to tell me "well at least he's not suffering anymore" when they try to comfort me but when he got very sick I remember him telling me how scared he was to die before he went to the hospital and I never heard from him until his mother contacted me to let me know he died in the hospital. He didn't want to die so I know he must have been scared in the hospital and I couldn't be there for him.
I'm so sorry to hear this. He must have been so young
My condolences on his loss and also your young cousin.
11 Nov 2018, 10:33 pm
IsabellaLinton wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
I think the thing that bothers me so much about my friend dying was that people always try to tell me "well at least he's not suffering anymore" when they try to comfort me but when he got very sick I remember him telling me how scared he was to die before he went to the hospital and I never heard from him until his mother contacted me to let me know he died in the hospital. He didn't want to die so I know he must have been scared in the hospital and I couldn't be there for him.
I'm so sorry to hear this. He must have been so young
My condolences on his loss and also your young cousin.He was actually older than me and was 35 when he passed away back in 2012. He suffered from Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and was completely bedridden and had a lot of health problems. He was my best friend and we used to buy each other presents for Christmas and for our birthdays.
11 Nov 2018, 10:35 pm
TW1ZTY wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
I think the thing that bothers me so much about my friend dying was that people always try to tell me "well at least he's not suffering anymore" when they try to comfort me but when he got very sick I remember him telling me how scared he was to die before he went to the hospital and I never heard from him until his mother contacted me to let me know he died in the hospital. He didn't want to die so I know he must have been scared in the hospital and I couldn't be there for him.
I'm so sorry to hear this. He must have been so young
My condolences on his loss and also your young cousin.He was actually older than me and was 35 when he passed away back in 2012. He suffered from Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and was completely bedridden and had a lot of health problems. He was my best friend and we used to buy each other presents for Christmas and for our birthdays.
35 is still very young, and it's sad that he suffered the way he did. It must be very hard for you but I'm glad you still feel connected and that you remember him fondly.
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12 Nov 2018, 12:05 am
TW1ZTY wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
I think the thing that bothers me so much about my friend dying was that people always try to tell me "well at least he's not suffering anymore" when they try to comfort me but when he got very sick I remember him telling me how scared he was to die before he went to the hospital and I never heard from him until his mother contacted me to let me know he died in the hospital. He didn't want to die so I know he must have been scared in the hospital and I couldn't be there for him.
I'm so sorry to hear this. He must have been so young
My condolences on his loss and also your young cousin.He was actually older than me and was 35 when he passed away back in 2012. He suffered from Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and was completely bedridden and had a lot of health problems. He was my best friend and we used to buy each other presents for Christmas and for our birthdays.
you can take some comfort from the fact that he is not suffering now.
12 Nov 2018, 1:52 am
auntblabby wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
I think the thing that bothers me so much about my friend dying was that people always try to tell me "well at least he's not suffering anymore" when they try to comfort me but when he got very sick I remember him telling me how scared he was to die before he went to the hospital and I never heard from him until his mother contacted me to let me know he died in the hospital. He didn't want to die so I know he must have been scared in the hospital and I couldn't be there for him.
I'm so sorry to hear this. He must have been so young
My condolences on his loss and also your young cousin.He was actually older than me and was 35 when he passed away back in 2012. He suffered from Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and was completely bedridden and had a lot of health problems. He was my best friend and we used to buy each other presents for Christmas and for our birthdays.
you can take some comfort from the fact that he is not suffering now.
Like I said before there's a reason why it doesn't comfort me when people tell me that.
He told me the last time I spoke to him when he got very sick that he was scared to die and that he didn't want to die. Even with the way he suffered most of his life he still wanted to live.
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12 Nov 2018, 1:55 am
TW1ZTY wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
I think the thing that bothers me so much about my friend dying was that people always try to tell me "well at least he's not suffering anymore" when they try to comfort me but when he got very sick I remember him telling me how scared he was to die before he went to the hospital and I never heard from him until his mother contacted me to let me know he died in the hospital. He didn't want to die so I know he must have been scared in the hospital and I couldn't be there for him.
I'm so sorry to hear this. He must have been so young
My condolences on his loss and also your young cousin.He was actually older than me and was 35 when he passed away back in 2012. He suffered from Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and was completely bedridden and had a lot of health problems. He was my best friend and we used to buy each other presents for Christmas and for our birthdays.
you can take some comfort from the fact that he is not suffering now.
Like I said before there's a reason why it doesn't comfort me when people tell me that.
He told me the last time I spoke to him when he got very sick that he was scared to die and that he didn't want to die. Even with the way he suffered most of his life he still wanted to live. i'm sorry. lifeforce is very resilient, it wants to hang on all the way.
12 Nov 2018, 9:36 pm
auntblabby wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
I think the thing that bothers me so much about my friend dying was that people always try to tell me "well at least he's not suffering anymore" when they try to comfort me but when he got very sick I remember him telling me how scared he was to die before he went to the hospital and I never heard from him until his mother contacted me to let me know he died in the hospital. He didn't want to die so I know he must have been scared in the hospital and I couldn't be there for him.
I'm so sorry to hear this. He must have been so young
My condolences on his loss and also your young cousin.He was actually older than me and was 35 when he passed away back in 2012. He suffered from Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and was completely bedridden and had a lot of health problems. He was my best friend and we used to buy each other presents for Christmas and for our birthdays.
you can take some comfort from the fact that he is not suffering now.
Like I said before there's a reason why it doesn't comfort me when people tell me that.
He told me the last time I spoke to him when he got very sick that he was scared to die and that he didn't want to die. Even with the way he suffered most of his life he still wanted to live. i'm sorry. lifeforce is very resilient, it wants to hang on all the way.
My father was terrified to die as well, but he knew he was dying with metastatic cancer. He used to sob with his face in his hands and say that he was afraid and didn't want to die because he didn't know what would happen. I understand 100% how you feel reflecting on your friend. It's gut-wrenching to see someone so distraught and to hope they went in peace. I believe my father did, but I know he was scared.
((Hugs))
12 Nov 2018, 10:00 pm
IsabellaLinton wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
I think the thing that bothers me so much about my friend dying was that people always try to tell me "well at least he's not suffering anymore" when they try to comfort me but when he got very sick I remember him telling me how scared he was to die before he went to the hospital and I never heard from him until his mother contacted me to let me know he died in the hospital. He didn't want to die so I know he must have been scared in the hospital and I couldn't be there for him.
I'm so sorry to hear this. He must have been so young
My condolences on his loss and also your young cousin.He was actually older than me and was 35 when he passed away back in 2012. He suffered from Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and was completely bedridden and had a lot of health problems. He was my best friend and we used to buy each other presents for Christmas and for our birthdays.
you can take some comfort from the fact that he is not suffering now.
Like I said before there's a reason why it doesn't comfort me when people tell me that.
He told me the last time I spoke to him when he got very sick that he was scared to die and that he didn't want to die. Even with the way he suffered most of his life he still wanted to live. i'm sorry. lifeforce is very resilient, it wants to hang on all the way.
My father was terrified to die as well, but he knew he was dying with metastatic cancer. He used to sob with his face in his hands and say that he was afraid and didn't want to die because he didn't know what would happen. I understand 100% how you feel reflecting on your friend. It's gut-wrenching to see someone so distraught and to hope they went in peace. I believe my father did, but I know he was scared.
((Hugs))
I'm sorry to hear about your father.
To be honest I would feel the same way if I found out I was dying. I think I would be sobbing every day because I would be thinking about the things I'd never get to do again and I'd be terrified of the pain I would feel and the idea of no longer existing. I want to believe there's an afterlife but I'm just not sure. It's not fair for the people who actually are afraid to die to have to go through that and then just be gone forever.
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12 Nov 2018, 10:04 pm
it costs one nothing to believe. if you believe and end up in the abyss of nothingness, you won't know you've been wrong, and if you believe and then end up in heaven you'll know you were right. so you might as well believe. it makes life so much more bearable. 
12 Nov 2018, 10:12 pm
TW1ZTY wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
TW1ZTY wrote:
I think the thing that bothers me so much about my friend dying was that people always try to tell me "well at least he's not suffering anymore" when they try to comfort me but when he got very sick I remember him telling me how scared he was to die before he went to the hospital and I never heard from him until his mother contacted me to let me know he died in the hospital. He didn't want to die so I know he must have been scared in the hospital and I couldn't be there for him.
I'm so sorry to hear this. He must have been so young
My condolences on his loss and also your young cousin.He was actually older than me and was 35 when he passed away back in 2012. He suffered from Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and was completely bedridden and had a lot of health problems. He was my best friend and we used to buy each other presents for Christmas and for our birthdays.
you can take some comfort from the fact that he is not suffering now.
Like I said before there's a reason why it doesn't comfort me when people tell me that.
He told me the last time I spoke to him when he got very sick that he was scared to die and that he didn't want to die. Even with the way he suffered most of his life he still wanted to live. i'm sorry. lifeforce is very resilient, it wants to hang on all the way.
My father was terrified to die as well, but he knew he was dying with metastatic cancer. He used to sob with his face in his hands and say that he was afraid and didn't want to die because he didn't know what would happen. I understand 100% how you feel reflecting on your friend. It's gut-wrenching to see someone so distraught and to hope they went in peace. I believe my father did, but I know he was scared.
((Hugs))
I'm sorry to hear about your father.
To be honest I would feel the same way if I found out I was dying. I think I would be sobbing every day because I would be thinking about the things I'd never get to do again and I'd be terrified of the pain I would feel and the idea of no longer existing. I want to believe there's an afterlife but I'm just not sure. It's not fair for the people who actually are afraid to die to have to go through that and then just be gone forever.
Ditto.
I agree. In the last days my father reported seeing his deceased parents and he thought he was on a cruise ship (his wing of the hospital overlooked another wing with small windows and he thought it was a cruise liner). I hope it was just as surreal when he let go. I had to tell him to go, and that was the hardest thing ever. Christmas Eve. I hope someday people have better answers about what happens, but I agree with Blabby that there's no harm in believing.
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12 Nov 2018, 10:16 pm
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12 Nov 2018, 10:45 pm
12 Nov 2018, 10:50 pm
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:cry:
It was really emotional huh? I cried too when I watched it.
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