1001 Things Not To Do Around NTs...

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Don't compare your brain/overload to a computer.

Hey, it's okay. You're in good company.

If something doesnt end up in a way you expect - try with all effort to NOT freak out because an NT cant understand how extreme something unexpected can have bad effect on you.
IF you freak out anyway, try to control and behave yourself faster than fast before you destroy the whole situation
For further details see separate thread in the Haven "I freaked out and destroyed everything"

You would think that a computer would be an analogy that most folks these days would be able to relate to, but then I suppose the inner workings of a computer would be Greek to many people. But its such a perfect way to explain things; more than just overload. For instance my visual memory functions a lot like a visual version of an indexed file, and associative memory functions a lot like a relative database. I wouldn't be surprised if the folks who originally developed Oracle were trying to imitate the way their own memory functioned.


I know I need to find a way to forgive myself, but even after all this time it makes me feel broken and disconnected every time it happens. Of course . . . I know. I'm preaching to the choir.

Don't throw a fit because someone disrupted your exercise routine and you don't like starting again after interruption.

Don't express anger by exposing your canine teeth and snarling like an animal. (Yeah...I do that...)

Don't stare into nowhere when bored. You know you only do it because you're bored, but it looks creepy.

Don't describe your autonomic nervous system activity.

Say

'I don't like that. It makes me startle'

not

'I don't like that. It gives me an adrenaline overload'

Don't answer rhetorical questions with honesty. For example, if someone says to you, "I suppose you think you're some kind of genius," it doesn't go down well to say, "well, technically I am." Even worse is when someone says, "I suppose you think you're smarter than me," and you reply, "obviously." Which goes to prove I'm not that smart, because I made the same mistake twice.

Don't ever Ever EVER give an honest answer about how a dress looks. they all all look "fine".
and look at a persons face when you talk to them, even if it kills you, because eye contact apparently makes people happy. looking at their shoes instead of just your own apparently isn't good enough.

I look at the bridge of their noses, sometimes flick my eyes up to their eyebrows, and pay careful attention to their facial expression. When I was younger I used to practise in front of a mirror.

However, don't mirror someone's expression back to them if they're shouting at you. In that case aspie blank is better than anger. Also, don't mirror someone's expression too closely, it will look weird, and nobody will be quite sure why.

Having a conversation is like juggling for me. I'm okay at it... but it's exhausting.

Do not Parrot Talk.

I did these all today, and felt quite stupid. I tend to do it as a matter of practicality, meaning that I need the help or something bad could happen to me, so I quickly abandoned that sense of how it could be infered; shortly after that, I realized that these people really have no idea what I was talking about, or why getting out of that physical nightmare was so important (or even what it was).

Do not make any attempt at the social "teasing" that NTs seem to enjoy... Bad things happen.

Don't make a joke about black holes. It will be interpreted as you telling the person to 'crawl in to a hole and die'

Wow that's weird. Do you really encounter a lot of that? Can you give me an example?

Apply lipgloss too much.
Look up at them in a funny way
Be yourself
Attempt to make a joke

By social teasing, do you mean banter? This caught my attention because I tend to gently tease the people that I love, which is a bit of a paradox since I have problems discerning when another is teasing me.