No girl would ever go out with me

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dont be hatin anime, the cons are awesome (sexy, sexy cosplayers)

I wish I didn't have to deal with this stuff. I wish I was younger so I can watch Disney and Nickelodeon like I do now, but with friends and w/o it being so weird. I wish I had a GF so we can watch anime hours on in cuddling in bed. I also wish I had friends that wouldn't make fun of other people, be rude and mean, or talk behind folks back.


I wish I wasn't slow so other people would treat me with respect and not look down on me.

you blatantly refuse to do anything about it, you wish and wish like you want a magic fish or the dragonballs to just grant you everything
its nice to want things but in this life you have to work for it
i know how much video games and anime dvds cost, you cant hide that little factoid
expect nothing if you do nothing

Well you have to look at all of your options, think about if there is anything you can do about the things that bother you. I struggle with severe depression so I know how hard it can be to really do much about anything but sometimes there are small things you can do to make things a little bit better. Don't overwhelm yourself with everything you can't do, that only makes it worse. Also don't worry about what you think girls expect or what society expects...I mean a lot of times i don't live up to expectations so people will accuse me of not doing enough when they don't understand how hard it is for me but eventually I had to realise I can only live up to my standards. You're probably not as terrible as you think you are.

You just described my life.
Get over it, and get on with it.
You're no worse off than anyone else.

It's a cruel world OP. I wouldn't advertise your weaknesses so much as insecure people will use it as chance to s**t all over you as a form of self-congratulation.

With no job and no SSI check, I've been able to at least pay for my food and buying enough games to keep me satisfied. And I game 20+ hours a week. A lot of time I spend at my church, and that's been the one good thing for me socially. Because of my church, I have a bunch of friends I otherwise wouldn't have. Granted, most of them are much older or much younger than me, but they're still there. As of now a couple people there are helping me find a job so I can pay my own way. Aside from the fact that, like you, no girl would ever want to go out with me, I actually do have it fairly good.

I recommend that you find either a religious institution (one that's not too crazy, there's plenty of fairly "normal" mainstream churches/temples/whatever out there) or community center that will accept you. These safe places are great for being around people that will accept you and help you out.

if you live your life focusing on what you are not, then you will never live the life of who you are.

you seem to be caught in a self perpetuating whirlpool of self deprecation, and you seem to believe that your worth is based upon the approval of others.

i could not give a damn about what people think of me. i just do what i do and i go home and get back to my own world which i enjoy. there are people who seem interested in me even though i show no interest in anyone in real life. my self is enough for me to be happy with.

there is a sense of desperation and lack of self in you that makes you seem like a non entity in a way. you seem to have no solid grounding of spirit, and you complain that you are not "where it's at" because you need others to accept you into their world in order to feel valid.

i am what most people would describe as totally unlikeable because i have not a shred of interest in whether they approve of me and my way of being.
i do only what i want to do, and i do not do anything else.

nevertheless, there are some people who seem to be very interested in me, and i do not know why.

i am not interested in them, and i just go home, but they want to come home with me to see my private world and understand how i can be complacent on my own.

i am not saying i am not capable of feeling fond of them, but i do not need anyone else but me to fulfill me. i think they think that i have found some secret recipe for auto complacency and they want to learn it.

there is no recipe for self fulfillment. i just love me and i would never let myself go without, so i trust who i am, and i just do the things that i like to do.

i am glad i am me, and i would not want to be anyone else, but you seem ashamed of who you are and i feel sad for you.

it is not a pretty sight to see someone who is ashamed to be their self.

whatever i do not know.
it is all life in the big smoke as they say.

i am done now talking here.

I don't pay for anime

Can't you see? I can't get it over it. I hate it when people say that. I can't get over being ret*d, ugly, slow, and poor. I can't get over being disrespected and shunned by people, and being treated like I'm a burden. I can't get over not being able to have friends and/or girlfriends. I can't get over not having a future and being alone for the rest of my life.

I used to go to the church my grandma usually to goes when I was younger. It's a predominately white church and we're black. Ever since I was young my grandma used to get hand me down clothes and other stuff like food, furniture, help with bills, and kitchen appliances from people in the church because we were so poor, and they still do it. I'm sure all of them don't respect any of us. They probably view us as uneducated, leeching bums.

I could never make any real friends there.

A church that looks down on and disrespects the poor like that belongs in the category of "crazy" churches that I mentioned. One of the primary Christian tenets is to help the poor (and not in just a token, BS way). I'm flat broke, and can't find even a service job around here despite recently graduating college with a B.S. in Information Technology and a 3.1 GPA. Sure I have the technical skills and can apply them, but I lack the "people" skills to get anywhere. Also, in the greater NY area, it's hard to find a job these days.

That's where my church comes in: they have me "volunteer" for various things and slip me a little money under the table. Honestly, I'm in the same boat as you when it comes to women not liking me... the only advantage I have over you there is I shower daily (as it's an obsession of mine). As such, the church is the one thing that has kept me from offing myself over the past few years. It's a genuine safe place for me. Likewise, you need to find a safe place of your own. My life might be utter s**t (look at any post I make in L&D), and I generally don't want to hear other people's success stories because they make me feel worse for not having what they do, but at the very least it's bearable...

Last edited by ToadOfSteel on 18 Jan 2011, 5:16 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Why not? What makes you special.
Everyone has to get over hurdles and hardships.
That. Is. Life.

The difference between the winners and losers in life, though, is whether or not you can clear those hurdles and hardships. Some of us have much more trouble than others...

Go to the doctor get on antidepressants, get some rat killer kill the rats, take a shower(or go to the salvation army they will let you take a shower), sign up for GED classes. Once you have your GED you can go to community college and if that doesn't work go to rehabilitative services(maybe they'll help you get a job.....or not

In your current state you will never get a girlfriend fortunately you don't have to remain in that state.

He wants to stay in the state he's in....