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11 Mar 2015, 4:39 am

While I agree with the factual basis of this argument, what I personally can't stand is how we think. We just have to see both sides of the argument, can we?

Let me explain. What the OP is talking about is bullying, plain and simple. And yet, as reasonable, well-minded people, we feel that we have to justify their actions. Yes, its true that ignorance is the basis for it, and yes, we are not all straight arrows ourselves.

But, at the same time, we must remember that stuff like this should not be tolerated, but punished. Probably not physically, or with jail-time, but people must not treat us this way. They WILL treat us this way regardless, but while we know WHY, we must not rationalize their actions.

Once again, I understand, just want to make sure you remember that, in this case, we are victims, and we demand justice :)



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11 Mar 2015, 5:11 am

It's because they can't really comprehend how we experience the world. If they were able to experience it for themselves first hand, then they wouldn't give us such a hard time. From what I know, NTs experience things differently than we do; I don't know how exactly, but I just know that they don't perceive things as intensely. We don't really know how NTs feel, so that's why we have trouble understanding them. Likewise, they don't really know how we feel, so that's why they have trouble understanding us.



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11 Mar 2015, 5:41 am

luvsterriers wrote:
I constantly feel like a baby gazelle especially at work. I know I'm slow and possibly stupid due to not only the aspergers but learning disability as well. I was always behind in school maturity wise and everything. It had to be a miracle to get a high school degree and a Bachelors degree. At work there is no one that shows signs of autism, or maybe they do I don't know. But I constantly have to run away from the predators:lion and cheetahs. No matter how fast I run to get away, they will always catch me and I will be gone. Has anyone else felt like this??


I feel like this a lot. I feel like wherever I go, I'll get chased out, eventually. I have a few things that I use to combat it, though. I spent a lot of my youth watching sitcoms. I practiced making jokes. Basically, I was studying comedy. My timing is pretty good, and I can work a room. People at work have even commented that I use humor to overcome awkwardness.

I also take on the most odious tasks at work. Things no one else wants to do. This keeps me around longer, and it also ensures I'll be left alone. Lastly, I remember that my place is squarely outside of all human interactions. If I remain "in orbit" around people, I can maintain the situation. If I enter into any office politics, I'm voted off the island pretty quick, whether I'm useful or not.