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pezar wrote:
Erisad wrote:
It sure sounded like it was my fault. It doesn't help that every time I post in the Haven someone tells me to stop whining and that there's something ELSE wrong with my brain on an AS support forum. I don't have the money for psychiatric help. I'm squeezing pennies to pay for my driving lessons. I'm off my antidepressants and am only on my Adderall now. I need that to focus but apart from that, I'm fine. I don't want to be dependent on any more medication for my brain. I did counseling in my last year of college and it didn't help much really. I use WP to rant because I don't have the outlets to in my real life. I do actually post happy things too. Seriously. I'm not always bitching. Maybe those are the posts you notice but I'm not always miserable. I wasn't even miserable when I posted this. I was pissed off and needing to rant.
Ok, fine. No more advice from pezar. Poopylungstuffing put the same thing in front of me too, that I was being "unrealistic" in pushing her to improve her life. So I stopped. She finally found the breakthrough that she needed. You will find it too. I gave you advice that you're not ready for. Fine, no more advice. Bye...
It is unrealistic for me right now because I don't have money to use to pay for a psychiatrist. All I really need is to gain my independence and move out and I see my life getting much better. If I don't see an improvement after these conditions are met, then I'll seek help (if I can afford it). I thank you for putting time into trying to help and I hope life treats you well.
09 Jun 2011, 5:28 pm
Meow101 wrote:
pezar wrote:
Meow101 wrote:
OneStepBeyond wrote:
i think that's quite a rude response to pezars advice
It wasn't rude. I thought it was a little rude to come into the haven and start telling someone she's whining but JMO. I thought the haven was FOR being able to say stuff like that WITHOUT being accused of "whining".
~Kate
This is a common thing with Erisad. She is continually saying how awful things are and blaming other people for it. Did you miss the part where I said it's not her fault? I wasn't blaming. I do read a lot on WP, even though I can't type well. I read a lot of Erisad's postings, and the common thread in nearly ALL of them is "life stinks, why can't I be somebody other than myself?" and then trying to place blame. Maybe she is doing positive things in her life outside of WP. She said that she's learning to drive, finally, and that's good. I have no way of knowing that, unless she tells us. All I know is what she writes. Maybe she uses WP to rant, I know a lot of aspies do, and that's ok. But I just want to help her have a better life, because I see me in her.
It sounded like she was ranting to me. I use the haven to rant about life when I'm feeling like sh!t and I don't want people telling me I'm just "whining". It's not up to anyone else to judge what someone is doing IRL when they ask for support in the haven.
~Kate
Thank you. I was just ranting and needed support, that's it.
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09 Jun 2011, 5:33 pm
Greatsharkbite wrote:
I think pezar was probably giving a little "tough love". I don't think he was rude.
On topic, I don't know if I have much to contribute as I think and see this as just a vent thread. Guys can definitely have it just as tough as the girls. Do a lot of girls fall just for personality? Yeah, but there are also some who need looks to go with it. When I was a kid (i'm 25), there wasn't a single girl who didn't like Jonathan Taylor Thomas, or Justin Timberlake from nsync. They liked the kids who did well in sports, the guys who wore trendy clothes, etc.
Also.. guys in 95% of cases, have to do the approaching, which was the case for myself. If you're really lucky girls will approach you through a friend--or at best hint they like incredibly subtly
I think its fine to vent, but you have to realize also sometimes while we understand and see that you're going through things and try to be supportive, your venting may have unintended targets. I.E. I'm 25 and when I was 21 I really wasn't on the shallow end of attraction for girls like my peers were. I actually dealt with some shallowness from the opposite gender, being a guy.
I think girls liked me, but quiet awkward kid who likes anime and video games and deep discussions that were never trendy, didn't have them kicking down my door trying to go out with me.
I lucked out tho and for that kind of luck to find the right person it takes time.
Age has little to do with it (IMO), I think you're right. Change does, however. Get a job and put yourself out there around more people and things may be different. If someone doesn't ask you out in your current group of friends, you're right--they may like you but not have the "balls" to ask you out which is when its time to find new people and seek new experiences.
Btw, sorry your job search is going horrible. If its any consolation, so is mine.
On topic, I don't know if I have much to contribute as I think and see this as just a vent thread. Guys can definitely have it just as tough as the girls. Do a lot of girls fall just for personality? Yeah, but there are also some who need looks to go with it. When I was a kid (i'm 25), there wasn't a single girl who didn't like Jonathan Taylor Thomas, or Justin Timberlake from nsync. They liked the kids who did well in sports, the guys who wore trendy clothes, etc.
Also.. guys in 95% of cases, have to do the approaching, which was the case for myself. If you're really lucky girls will approach you through a friend--or at best hint they like incredibly subtly
I think its fine to vent, but you have to realize also sometimes while we understand and see that you're going through things and try to be supportive, your venting may have unintended targets. I.E. I'm 25 and when I was 21 I really wasn't on the shallow end of attraction for girls like my peers were. I actually dealt with some shallowness from the opposite gender, being a guy.
I think girls liked me, but quiet awkward kid who likes anime and video games and deep discussions that were never trendy, didn't have them kicking down my door trying to go out with me.
I lucked out tho and for that kind of luck to find the right person it takes time.
Age has little to do with it (IMO), I think you're right. Change does, however. Get a job and put yourself out there around more people and things may be different. If someone doesn't ask you out in your current group of friends, you're right--they may like you but not have the "balls" to ask you out which is when its time to find new people and seek new experiences.
Btw, sorry your job search is going horrible. If its any consolation, so is mine.
And if I wanted "tough love" I would have talked to my mother. I need to stop posting in the Haven for support. Apparently ranting isn't allowed there and I shouldn't waste people's time with my "whining." Wow, what great support.
I'm not intending to attack people with my venting, I'm just trying to get those feelings out. The economy sucks. And it's storming outside so we won't be practicing driving tonight. >.<
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