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^What the Link gamer said! There's always hope for the future!

Chatting up girls in public transportation?
Uuuuuhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

Well it worked for the guy who sits two desks from me, I thought maybe it could work for Sly.

Girls find guys on bus creepy. They look at me and other guys the. Sit far a way.

So this girl at work says hi whenever she sees me and last week asked me a few questions like if I went to college and what for, then today she and another older coworker came up to me on their way down from the break room(my station is across from the break room) and she was like"we'd like to be friends with you"
To which I instinctively replied why and she said "you're a really cool guy"
I then pretended to try to get her to buy some slippers from my department and she looked at the sizes and said none in my size the. Went down the stairs before we could talk more. She also may look at me during morning meetings but i dont know because I try to not get caught looking at her and there others around me so she could be looking at one of them. I dont know what to make of it, I got anxious. Women don't talk to me or even pay me any attention on account of me not being a real man. not sure how to go from here.

Also she's really pretty, thin, and think makes more then me as I think she's the lead for her department. All strikes against me.

hugs, sly. i have a hard time being superficial and i found another serious person (well, he's less serious than i am) and married a sweetheart. it can happen. don't defeat yourself before the fat lady sings.

my husband says to try meeting people in grocery stores, libraries, and churches. in the grocery store, you can break the ice by asking which type of soup is best, etc. "hi. i hope you don't mind me asking whether i should get campbell's or progresso mushroom soup." "thanks. i'm sly. what's your name?

I think she saw something good in you. Be friendly, kind to her. You may think her as your sister, then you would be less frightened by her presence. Wish you the best of luck!

@cathylynn Seriously? I always thought people don't want to be bothered in places like that.
Or maybe it's just me trying to AVOID CONTACT!

"All strikes against me. The world is so cruel, a pretty girl wants to be my friend."
You know, maybe she's a nice person. And maybe she has some other girlfriends and set you up. Or if not, at least you have someone to maybe spend time with and recover a bit from your hopelessness and learn something about people.
I mean someone wanting to be your friend ("you're a really cool guy") should be a clear indication to you that you're worth something.
Just be relaxed and good.

That ship already sailed I'm quite attracted to her and kinda have a crush

One sided romantic and sexual interest really sucks and i dont know what to do with girls outside of relationships.

Never meet a girl In person who shares my interest besides my friends brothers wife.

Yeah, this is your chance to learn. This. Is. The. Chance. To. Social. With. Girls. Outside. Relationship.
I wish I had something like that. Please give!

Being invested means you're already in a "bad" position.
Being invested in people who you haven't established some kind of mutual bond with is very dangerous...
I wonder if you can... like... snap out of it. I can do that to some extent, actually.

Cmon, Sly. This might just be the opening you need.

Don't blow it by talking about S & M stuff!

Invite the chick for a barbecue.

^Um, Kraftie, think about what you just posted: 'invite the chick to a barbecue.' That is either unintentionally terrible or unintentionally hilarious. Does anyone get the joke I just discovered?
Anyway, I know for a fact that all love isn't unrequited!

Haha. Chick. Barbecue. Haha.

Sly, those aren't strikes against you, those things are good for you. Since she's clearly interested in you those are all good qualities for her to have.

If she asks you about your college, income, home life, etc, be honest but don't try to sound too bitter or self-deprecating about it. Also don't try to sound too boastful about it. I don't think you're boastful, I just mean don't overcompensate. The two things that scare girls away are lack of confidence and arrogance, that means you must not undersell yourself or oversell yourself.

Remember that a confident guy spends more time complimenting other people than himself. Don't flatter her but if she really is pretty you can probably get away with telling her so. Instead of saying she's thin, you could say she's fit.

Anyway, she's displayed interest in you so the ball is in your court. She's expecting you to make the next move and she won't do it for you. I know NTs can be confusing but in her mind she's already sent you clear signals so if you don't act now, she'll think you're intentionally trying to tell her you're not into her.

Since she's at work you may want to maintain plausible deniability. You should ask her to go somewhere with you after work, cafe, etc. That way your lack of car won't be an issue. I'm guessing your work in town.

Anyway, best of luck to you getting to know her. It couldn't have happened to a nicer guy

It's a private joke between me and Sly.

You just have to be there.

LOL....yeah, I get the joke!