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07 Sep 2019, 8:45 am

^^^ Agreed with auntblabby. You are not disposable. I learn a lot from your posts, but even if I didn't you are not disposable


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07 Sep 2019, 9:34 pm

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Ive been living in this town for 2 and a half years and I havent really made any good friends so I can relate. The places I go out no one talks to me. Its like I scare them away. At least you have a job to go to and probably have enough money for food. I hardly have enough to eat.

(You showed me a picture of yourself a while back. I thought you were really cute!)


I hope you're doing better sooner or later. Here's wishing I knew how to respond to any perceived cuteness on my part.


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08 Sep 2019, 1:58 am

:oops:


... Someday I'll learn.


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08 Sep 2019, 5:48 am

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I haven't seen most people I know in at least a month. It's to the point where I'm considering dropping my every human relationship of any kind because it's clear I'm absolutely not worth their while.

***edited because I'm too honest & most people hate that***


Relationships are overrated


If you can do better without relationships, dropping them could be to your advantage


Plenty of precious lil "people" insist that it is not healthy to not have relationships.

Even the diagnostic statistical manual does

But nobody knows your situation

Every situation is different



People have decided I only belong around machines. I'm not considered good for anything else, strictly speaking I'm completely discarded.

My job is going well but my housing scenario is NOT.

Truthfully I've been thinking about just ending it for a month or so by now. No way in hell am I going to seek mental health "help" by the way, the medical industry in the U.S. is perfectly happy with destroying my career & bankrupting me. I'm not alive to buy Porsches for psychiatrists.





I'm going to stop writing now before I get loony binned for speaking my mind. I'm trapped & no one really cares.



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08 Sep 2019, 9:28 pm

I'd strongly prefer going nuts about relationships to going nuts about nothing whatsoever.


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08 Sep 2019, 9:35 pm

cberg wrote:
I'd strongly prefer going nuts about relationships to going nuts about nothing whatsoever.




You are in the majority in that way

To me, it seems like most precious lil "people" are not worth the energy it takes to interact with them


In the honeymoon phase :roll: it's like :twisted: bff :twisted: and cool this and exciting and validating


Then it turns out that they are not willing to indulge your preferences. They say "what" like it is the etiquette equivalent of "excuse me". Off leash dogs. Disposition versus situational. Her boyfriend told me that I could eat her noodles and Amy Lee scheel b***h didn't believe me


Consent form



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08 Sep 2019, 11:56 pm

I just want to love people & cook them good noodles


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09 Sep 2019, 10:21 am

cberg wrote:
I just want to love people & cook them good noodles

what do you think of shirataki noodles?



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09 Sep 2019, 10:26 am

Cook her noodles, then. As a friend.

It's sometimes not more complicated than that.

I would say most people don't like relationships that are too complicated.



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09 Sep 2019, 3:33 pm

auntblabby wrote:
cberg wrote:
I just want to love people & cook them good noodles

what do you think of shirataki noodles?


That's a new one, but I must try all the noodles so I'll get there. :jester:


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09 Sep 2019, 3:42 pm

Maybe I can relate to people in general better through cooking than talking. I'm always more relaxed with something to focus on.


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09 Sep 2019, 3:45 pm

cberg wrote:
Maybe I can relate to people in general better through cooking than talking. I'm always more relaxed with something to focus on.


You can make me some noodles and us send a pic. 8)


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09 Sep 2019, 4:41 pm

I'll try to find the energy to cook something tonight.


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09 Sep 2019, 4:45 pm

I bet you're excellent at cooking stuff in a wok......



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09 Sep 2019, 5:07 pm

They're fun but I still don't have one. I've been hopelessly lazy this summer with my internship going on. Orzo salad is up next.

I have to stop freaking out before I remember to do that though. Right now I can't tell who's more antisocial, me or all my friends doing the Facebook thing. I'm sure I don't care anymore though. I can only help people through that with a real conversation & I already know part of them hates talking to me. I'm on a logical plane of existence nobody cares to visit.


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09 Sep 2019, 7:37 pm

mebbe take a pic of you cooking noodles and slurping one into your mouth and saying YUM :chef: