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However, there are four Aspie women that I know of who don't look at distance. My choices would be:

1. My 29-year-old ex-girlfriend, who was very conservative
2. A 34-year-old with a masters' degree, also conservative
3. An 18-year-old emo who suffers from severe depression
4. A 46-year-old single mother and enterpreneur

Keep in mind that I am 27 years old, almost 28. If those were my only choices, who would any of you think would be the best choice?

Tim

Probably number 2. Number 3 seems entirely out of the question, given the information available.

But who do you get along with best, and do they have to have Asperger's? It's completely and utterly a personal choice, and I wish you the best in your search for the right woman.

There are only two NTs in my area who have the same interests, and one was already in a relationship, and the other one was not looking. And there are definitely no Aspies with the same interests.

Tim

It doesn't have to be your fault that she cheated. Some people just do cruel things sometimes, with no reasons but their own.

I think you're right that aspies would be less likely to cheat, but it still depends on the aspie or NT in question. I don't think you should limit yourself to one biological mindset, just because of a generalization.

One of the three issues was resolved. I will probably be getting a more competent professor for chemistry next semester.

Tim

Having read the whole thread I think you're being too prescriptive and limiting in your life plan. The chemistry professor is sorted, and you really can't do anything at all about moving to Seattle at the moment except watch and wait.

Likewise you can't force Ms Right to come into your life when you want her. If she does turn up she may not stay for the rest of your life anyway, and not because she cheats on you and leaves. I found my Mr Right and not long after we'd made plans for the rest of our lives he was killed in an road accident. Nothing either of us could have done, but life has a nasty habit of throwing the best-made plans into disarray.

If you're judging every woman you meet against the requirements of your Ms Right list I suspect you're discarding without a thought women who could become friends; enable you to learn more about how women think and what they want; and maybe introduce you to their friends, one of whom maybe Ms Right. It sounds like the list is shutting more doors for you than it's opening, so you may do better being a little more open to possibilities

As far as finding an Aspie woman to date, I am dependent entirely on online support groups. I am a nice, studious, insightful person, but it's not attracting anyone.

Tim

Looks like I picked a bad time to check out the forum again. First, my sister's boyfriend loses his son in a car crash, and while I didn't know him that well, my sister and her boyfriend mean a lot to me, and I'm hoping right now that they'll be able to work through the grief and get on with their lives. Then, I come back here to find out that a major contributor to this forum (Starbuline) has taken her own life. It makes me sad, because I get those kinds of feelings, where it seems like nobody cares that I'm 37, I live alone, and my body seems to be falling apart on me, and I wonder if it would be such a big loss if I just suddenly didn't exist anymore. But the truth is that I do matter to somebody, and I would be an ass if I left them with the burden of knowing that I killed myself.
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Hey ya tim, im sorry to hear things are not going good.

I think life can be difficult, and especally for us, but I also think you are trying to take on to much at once, focus on what you wanna study and persue that. Hell in collage if I did not have my studies and all the miles of wilderness in all directions to escape into id go crazy their. The social/date scene is second IMO to study and finding your own place. Find what you wanna do and if it really is geology then persue it, collage can be hard, dont give up man, you can have a good life and once you are graduated then focus on finding a relationship and settling down, that should be farthest from your mind at this point, you have enough to worry about just graduating, like i said, collage is tough, i have been where you are.

Also, I have been outa collage, and tho I have a relationship (my first ever) its falling apart, i did the wrong things (i think?!) and I guess eather I settled or assumed she would change for me or whatever, I too am having feelings that life may not end out what I thought it would, tho I do alright, the prospect of dying alone and childless scares the s**t outa me, not sure what to do, but just realize, we have lots of time left on Earth, we can do it and hopefully when we look back on our lives as old men we will be happy about it, thats what really counts in the end.