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At least you're getting that you did something wrong. That's the first step.
Give her some time to cool off, and you probably need some time to figure out what to do. You really hurt her by doing that, as most friends would not pull a spiteful prank like that on another friend, even if somebody else was telling you to do it.
I think you should just reflect on what you did, and don't play the blame game. She might not take you back as a friend, but if you are truly sorry and completely GET what you did to her (it's possible, even for an Aspie), you might be able to get back some of your friendship.

[/quote]At least you're getting that you did something wrong. That's the first step.
Give her some time to cool off, and you probably need some time to figure out what to do. You really hurt her by doing that, as most friends would not pull a spiteful prank like that on another friend, even if somebody else was telling you to do it.
I think you should just reflect on what you did, and don't play the blame game. She might not take you back as a friend, but if you are truly sorry and completely GET what you did to her (it's possible, even for an Aspie), you might be able to get back some of your friendship.[/quote]

Well she made it clear a long time ago when shew broke off the friendship she wouldn't take me back and as I have said previously on this that really hurt me. That is one of the reasons I thoughtlessly carried through on this new friends suggestion. I know now that (her breaking up with me) didn't give me the right to spite her in the way I did. Beleive me I have done a lot of thinking, I will accept responsibility if it comes to that and I will also apologise to her through a lawyer too if the cops come in order to avoid making the situation worse.

I understood, I knew the bold words was his response.

That sucks you can't apologize to her. I hope I don't ever get myself in trouble with the law.

well fortunately i haven't yet but apparently the cops have a timeframe to track people so it might happen in the coming weeks fingers crossed it doesn't though. It also depends if she really has called them or was just trying to scare me.

i would of understood better if it wasnt directed at a friend...

EX FRIEND I would never have even thought of doing it to a current friend not that it makes it any better..

The important thing is you learn from your mistakes. So you learned posting a fake ad on the internet about someone can lead you to lot of trouble such as ending up getting in trouble with the police.


Next time you want to take action about something, talk to other people about it first before you do it (eg. any good online friends you have, your parents) and they will tell you rather or not it be okay and tell you what could happen if you did it. Then you will know what the consequences could be.

Beleive me I wont be pulling anything like this again without asking someone else first.

Whatever happens, we'll be here for you.

(hugs Catster2)

I feel a little better now as a phone counsellor suggested i call a police station pretending that it was me who the ad had been posted and asking if any offence had been committed and she told me there hadn't been unless "I" was threatened. She also said if federal offences had been
committed it would need to be done through the feds and in her words they have better things to do than chase up immature pranks.

I know I did the wrong thing and I am now well aware of the seriousness of the situation I will not be ever doing anything like this again. I have written to the person by email using a different email address apologising.

Well, lets hope this all works out for the best.

I hope she accepts your apology Catster.

good luck.

I got a reply and she has said she wont "press charges" not that there were any to press it seems. Anyway I will not be doing anything like that again it was so stupid and wrong and I have learnt a lot of lessons from it. I have been majorly sweating and in a total state of anxiety for 10 days and I am glad that can finally be lifted from my shaulders and I can get on with my life.

Brilliant!

See how much stress you have shed.

You could have done this right at the start, and saved yourself all the worry (and maybe saved her some worry too).

In any case - well done! Congratulations.

Fantastic Catster, such good news