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20 May 2007, 2:30 am

Tim_Tex wrote:
No, it won't! There are no other Aspie women who have the same interests and beliefs as me.

Tim


Are you certain about that? :wink: It's impossible to be certain about anything and everything; but I'd bet that Sol will be there for you tomorrow..., since she was there yesterday.

Stars which are much like humans are countless....



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20 May 2007, 10:39 am

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I finally heard from her a few days ago. Unfortunately, she had found someone else.



That sucks. :(


Sure does, especially since I waited over a year to hear from her again.

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20 May 2007, 10:40 am

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No, it won't! There are no other Aspie women who have the same interests and beliefs as me.


I know that you're hurting right now and feel really betrayed. I'm going through the same thing at the moment. Just remember though that you're really emotional right now and that can lead to black and white thinking. You will feel better as time passes.

You're about to go off to college, isn't that what you said? Trust me, college is the best place for you to meet someone who has the same interests and beliefs you do.



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20 May 2007, 10:45 am

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Tim_Tex wrote:
No, it won't! There are no other Aspie women who have the same interests and beliefs as me.


I know that you're hurting right now and feel really betrayed. I'm going through the same thing at the moment. Just remember though that you're really emotional right now and that can lead to black and white thinking. You will feel better as time passes.

You're about to go off to college, isn't that what you said? Trust me, college is the best place for you to meet someone who has the same interests and beliefs you do.


I could imagine an NT doing this to me, but never in my wildest dreams did I think another Aspie would do me like that. I even overlooked the fact that she was 9 years younger than me, despite my preference for women closer to my age. I am 27 and she is 18.

There are no Aspie women within 50 miles of my school, or even within 200 miles.

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20 May 2007, 10:48 am

sorry to hear man...
maybe she rushed into something and made a stupid decision to try and get out of it
18 year old girls aren't the most mature people out there remember
but I'm so sorry to hear about what happened :(



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20 May 2007, 4:03 pm

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sorry to hear man...
maybe she rushed into something and made a stupid decision to try and get out of it
18 year old girls aren't the most mature people out there remember
but I'm so sorry to hear about what happened :(


How will I meet another Aspie closer to my age (late 20s or early 30s) with the same interests and beliefs?

Tim


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20 May 2007, 4:06 pm

Aspies can lie and be crappy people, just like NTs can be honest and be good people.



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20 May 2007, 4:10 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
Kilroy wrote:
sorry to hear man...
maybe she rushed into something and made a stupid decision to try and get out of it
18 year old girls aren't the most mature people out there remember
but I'm so sorry to hear about what happened :(


How will I meet another Aspie closer to my age (late 20s or early 30s) with the same interests and beliefs?

Tim


that I can't answer
I haven't met anyone either
sorry mate-there are some things I don't know



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20 May 2007, 4:32 pm

Tim, focus on College, make that your passion right now. Who knows who you'll meet. But if you look around your classes you will see plenty of women with your interests. Also look into College clubs that spark your interest, there you may find someone. I know it's hard, but you don't need to be ending your life over it. You took a risk, thats what we all do in relationships, but you took an even bigger one, in that you fell hard for an 18 year old. Most are not ready for a life time committment. And I did say MOST, some are, most are not. Hang in there, you'll find her, and hopefully, she'll live closer.



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20 May 2007, 4:42 pm

Paula wrote:
Tim, focus on College, make that your passion right now. Who knows who you'll meet. But if you look around your classes you will see plenty of women with your interests. Also look into College clubs that spark your interest, there you may find someone. I know it's hard, but you don't need to be ending your life over it. You took a risk, thats what we all do in relationships, but you took an even bigger one, in that you fell hard for an 18 year old. Most are not ready for a life time committment. And I did say MOST, some are, most are not. Hang in there, you'll find her, and hopefully, she'll live closer.


I can't stop thinking about her, and I don't purposely seek out people that young. The nearest AS support group to Wichita Falls is in Fort Worth, 115 miles away.

Despite this, I still feel that I can only date other Aspies.

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20 May 2007, 4:43 pm

I feel the same though if an NT wants to date me who am I to turn her down :lol:



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21 May 2007, 3:51 am

I will never recover from this.

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21 May 2007, 11:07 am

yes you will...
it might take some months but this isnt a forever thing



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21 May 2007, 11:10 pm

Tim_Tex, I remember saying and honestly believing the very thing you are saying. But you will get over this.



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22 May 2007, 4:53 am

I also overlooked that she and I weren't even the same religion (a boundary I wouldn't normally cross), in addition to her being 10 years younger.

At the time, I felt like I had to "take what I could get".

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