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How about this, then?

Wrong Planet is so boring lately. No activity, same threads that disinterest me. The only discussions that are active are the off the wall games section which I don't often do, or the PPR section which I avoid because it's all about people arguing about Trump. Usually when I make a contribution to those sorts of threads I either get ignored or get personally attacked. I'm not interested in Trump anyway, I wish the guy would just drop dead so that the world could shut up about him. I personally don't give two s**ts about him, I don't want to know about him and I'm not interested in this everlasting obsession about him that so many Americans seem so preoccupied with.

Wondering how many people who say trans people will "jump down someones throat for getting a pronoun wrong" have actually talked to a trans person before, especially offline. I've seen this thinly veiled transphobia multiple times lately.

I need to take a break from all social media, including forums, for awhile. I'm tired of seeing dumb crap like that.

That's actually happened to me.

I was "told on" while I was working at my university library because I thought a transwoman was a man, and I called her "him."

It definitely happens.

I guess I just get irritated when I see people suggest that's how most trans people react, and that "trans people jumping down others throats" over it is a common enough occurrence to "fear" it happening.

The trans people I've known don't do that and just either politely correct people or ignore it. I just ignore it.

People need to take into consideration if there is malice involved or an innocent mistake.

That's her problem.

Like a butch cis woman, it's her job to say 'actually I'm a woman' not run off to faculty and accuse you of homophobia for an honest mistake.

Or if someone started calling you the wrong name (beyond when I couldn't get your username right & kept calling you a cool country musician ) it would be ok to correct them, it wouldn't be ok to go to the faculty and say 'my name is David, this woman keeps calling me Daniel as an insult get her to stop'.

People misgender on purpose, sure and they deserve to get in trouble, but it's usually really obvious. Like calling someone 'it' or when a trans person directly corrects them on pronouns 'correcting' them back.

I got misgendered by this terf woman & she assumed my age as well & she was really patronising & offensive. She went into a mini rant about how 'gender isn't real and kids these days are all running around with weird haircuts and confusing the little ones' cos her little one called me a 'boy' (which I'm not, I was 31, that's a man...). I had normal hair for my gender at the time btw... (trans guy with short back and sides) She ended up scaring her kid and blamed me for that. I didn't want to make the situation worse so I didn't just stand up for myself.

That felt a lot different to someone who's just saying 'she' cos they don't know any better or someone who says 'she' then I correct them and they say 'ok, he' and go on with what they're saying.

I ignore it in strangers.

It bothers me that my parents won't/refuse to learn.

I wish I could come out to my cousins but my mum said it 'broke her heart' and I don't want to stir family drama.

Plus their family is so conventional it's actually weird. I kind of envy parts of that: just the idea of having a wife & settling down would be nice for me but it's never going to happen and if it did it would probably not last just like my mum's first marriage didn't last and her sister's did and my cousin's like her mother because she's marrying her second love...

Yeah, I meant with strangers. When people I know purposely call me "she" and my birthname it pisses me off. Some of my family members do that when they're mad at me and it's childish.

I told mum to not call me 'girl' and I just refer to myself as my own gender or neutral (cos we're all people) when using descriptions...

So for eg she said 'you will be lady of the manor'...

I said 'yes that style is a bit like I'd be man of the house or a renaissance man'.

She just went along with it.

I corrected her over 'girl' because I gender reversed it. 'Here boy' still sounds like she's talking to a dog. I asked her if she talked to me like that cos she was used to talking to the dog and she admitted that she did.

She loves animals which is great but she doesn't seem to get that the way you talk to a human you love is different to the way you talk to a pet.

I just use my proper pronouns/name/etc. too if someone I know purposely misgenders me. I get dirty looks from family members instead of them going along with it, but I honestly don't really care. I only want to make a point. lmao

I can understand that.

I wouldn't want somebody to think I'm a woman (even though I love woman!)

I like to be thought of as being a man.

I've been mistaken for a boy before. It was quite embarrassing. When I was 14 I was the tomboy type that wore sporty clothes and a cap, and with my hair tied back I suppose I didn't look very girly. I was in a pharmacy with my mum and she was asking the assistant what the best treatment is for zits for her son (my brother), but the assistant thought I was the son and started looking at my face asking where the zits were. My mum had to say that I'm her daughter, not her son. I think the man felt just as embarrassed as I did, if not more. But I didn't yell and rant, as he didn't do it on purpose. I didn't say anything at all.

I wouldn't like to be shouted 'here boy'.

I was a boy. A long time ago.

And even then it wouldn't be right.

It's how you talk to dogs. Not children. Certainly not adult men. And definitely not adult women.

She shouted 'here girl' at me...

She said it was cos she was used to talking to her dog who happens to be female

in a department store parking lot, when i had to squeeze by two closely parked cars with a ponytailed effeminate slight person [couldn't tell the gender] in front of me, i instinctively said "excuse me, ma'am" as i passed this person, which pissed him off royally, "WHAT DID YOU CALL ME??! !" which made me walk even faster away from him.