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16 Mar 2021, 10:51 pm

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For ages, anyone vaguely left-wing would end up as the pinata in a non-stop game of "Stomp the liberal". These days, anyone vaguely right-wing ends up as the pinata in a non-stop game of "Stomp the Nazi".


Both are still happening, to the delight of the oppressors of both: the capitalists.



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17 Mar 2021, 6:00 am

I hate it when people argue that "women are equally as capable of murder than men but are better at getting away with it". It's not true. In the existence of humankind there are far more murders committed by men than women. And most women murderers were actually helping a man murderer. A woman going out on a murdering rampage is very rare. I'm not saying it's impossible, but it's rare. It is more common for a murder to be committed by a man. Just accept the fact and move on.

However, victims of murder can actually be both men and women. Usually women are victims of mugging or rape, but I'm talking about murdering here. A man walking alone in the street at night has the same chances of being stabbed as a woman walking alone in the street at night.


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19 Mar 2021, 12:26 am

I despise the "kiss the boo-boo" threads in The Heaven. You want pity? Are you sure?

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-the-name-love/201008/do-not-pity-me

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Thus, it is not productive.

Most of us were in ALL of these situations, or otherwise similar ones. We get it. We understand It won't get better if you don't do anything differently. So what's the point in feeling sorry? Do you feel better from knowing others feel sorry for you???

Pitiful.



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19 Mar 2021, 12:46 am

r00tb33r wrote:
I despise the "kiss the boo-boo" threads in The Heaven. You want pity? Are you sure?

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-the-name-love/201008/do-not-pity-me
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pity lacks actual assistance

Thus, it is not productive.

Most of us were in ALL of these situations, or otherwise similar ones. We get it. We understand It won't get better if you don't do anything differently. So what's the point in feeling sorry? Do you feel better from knowing others feel sorry for you???

Pitiful.


Hi, your post confuses me. Why wouldn't I feel better if I knew that other people felt sorry for me? That means they can relate to my situation and it shows they actually care. I don't want pity, but this post just struck me as strange. No offense meant by any means



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19 Mar 2021, 7:35 am

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"I'll pretend to be your friend" is the worst kind of pity ever. It is actively harmful to have someone find out you don't give a crap about them but have pretended otherwise. You've strung them along, wasted their time, given them false hope, disappointed them profoundly, humiliated them, and added "I'm a gullible chump" to their list of woes.



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19 Mar 2021, 7:35 am

sometimes to do the right thing for somebody, you have to stretch. a LOT.



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19 Mar 2021, 6:42 pm

I feel like this section is enabling certain patterns of behavior and rewarding the wrong ones.



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19 Mar 2021, 7:36 pm

r00tb33r wrote:
I feel like this section is enabling certain patterns of behavior and rewarding the wrong ones.


This is a support forum, people should feel free to express themselves.


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19 Mar 2021, 7:40 pm

I'm taking a break from this site since some people's aggressive, pompous attitudes are getting really grating. Watching certain people act like 12 year olds is getting old.



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19 Mar 2021, 8:01 pm

HeroOfHyrule wrote:
I'm taking a break from this site since some people's aggressive, pompous attitudes are getting really grating. Watching certain people act like 12 year olds is getting old.

I'd probably go with melodramatic rather than pompous.



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19 Mar 2021, 10:01 pm

r00tb33r wrote:
I feel like this section is enabling certain patterns of behavior and rewarding the wrong ones.


Can you elaborate?



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20 Mar 2021, 6:02 pm

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I despise the "kiss the boo-boo" threads in The Heaven.
So don't go there?
It's really very easy; WP is a big place and your contributions would be welcomed in other forums I'm sure. (BTW, it's "The Haven"). :wink:

Also, what you perceive as help is... your perception of help. Sometimes just knowing that someone else has also experienced some painful or difficult event can help.


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20 Mar 2021, 6:43 pm

The Haven must be a Haven for those who need support.

I believe in the special rules for it.

I’d want my lover to kiss my boo-boo....



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20 Mar 2021, 7:05 pm

PhosphorusDecree wrote:
It certainly wasn't dominated by the left 2 years ago. Wall-to-wall alt-right flamebait, with all the flamer's little mates waiting in line to kick the crap out of anyone who took the bait. A lot of those people seem to have either toned it down or moved elsewhere since then.


I'm sure there's posters who would insist those were the good ol' days. :nerdy:



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20 Mar 2021, 7:08 pm

It’s still not “dominated by the left,” nor is it dominated by the “right.”



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20 Mar 2021, 10:17 pm

Cornflake wrote:
r00tb33r wrote:
I despise the "kiss the boo-boo" threads in The Heaven.
So don't go there?
It's really very easy; WP is a big place and your contributions would be welcomed in other forums I'm sure. (BTW, it's "The Haven"). :wink:

Also, what you perceive as help is... your perception of help. Sometimes just knowing that someone else has also experienced some painful or difficult event can help.

Good catch. I know how to spell Haven. Not sure how that slipped.

I find it extremely irritating seeing the same characters return with the same old boo-boos having done absolutely nothing differently and nothing at all to help their situation, and who become aggressive when given obvious suggestions.(I have read the rules, thank you.)
Those people are emotional abusers, they come back and drain you of emotional energy time after time, leeching on and wasting the support they are given.

The way I see The Haven is support and relief for situations that do not have solutions. Coping with death, chronic or lifelong conditions, rejection, etc. Situations of dispair where you're out of moves and out of options. Situations where there is no hope.

You'd be surprised, I use a little bit of it too for a lifelong problem that I have: me.