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12 Dec 2016, 7:47 pm

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My 8 year old sister, who I call Cutie, used to be so so cute 5 years ago. She is still cute but the problem is that she's trying to hide it. I say to Cutie "Don't worry, Cutie! You're still cute!" and she responded back "I don't want to be cute". Other times she ignores me completely. Is there any way that I can convince Cutie to remain being cute?


She wants to grow up. I'd advise letting her. To a child, cute equals childlike and she doesn't want that. How would you like someone trying to convince you to be something you didn't want to be? Love her however she is.


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13 Dec 2016, 1:32 am

Unless you want your little sister to end up posting on r/raisedbynarcissists, you need to respect her by letting her grow up and mature and not calling her cutie anymore.


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13 Dec 2016, 9:29 am

If she doesn't want to be cute, she isn't obligated to be.


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13 Dec 2016, 10:04 am

EphraimB wrote:
I'm so upset that I can't find any immature male 20 year olds anywhere. If social workers have the right to make immature people mature, then I have the right to make people at risk of maturity to remain immature and cute. I'm begging you please to the only online autistic community that I know. Please lend me a hand to help me convince my 8 year old sister to remain cute. I beg you with all my heart!! ! !


are you (a) joking?


or (b) trolling?


or (c) actually mean this nonsense?



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13 Dec 2016, 11:43 am

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Do I detect troll bait with this topic?
That's exactly what I was thinking when I wrote "I'm thinking of the T word."

Except the OP posted this in The Haven probably just because it would be protected from accusations. It's a VERY odd desire though.


What's the T word?...troll, pretty sure you can just say troll its not a taboo.


i had thought when i read "the T word." the poster was referring to the word "twat". "troll" is not a bad word.



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13 Dec 2016, 11:50 am

you should quit trying to control your sister. i have two older siblings (a brother and a sister) and i wouldn't want them trying to control me. she's not going to be comfortable with it either.



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13 Dec 2016, 7:06 pm

Shrink down and be cute....that's what you're trying to make your sister do. I think you should let her grow and blossom. She wants to be free.


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13 Dec 2016, 7:42 pm

EphraimB, I sincerely say this, that not only are you immature, you need some serious psychiatric help. The fact that you're worried about your sister being "cute" is possessive and just plain creepy. It's not healthy to be worried about things that quite frankly, you should not be touching with a ten-foot pole. Yeah it may seem fun to you to be immature and not worry about anything but believe me, that ain't happening. We all have to mature and grow up and you have to deal with it.



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13 Dec 2016, 7:57 pm

If you want something cute in your life, you can buy yourself a stuffed Om Nom.

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13 Dec 2016, 8:24 pm

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If you want something cute in your life, you can buy yourself a stuffed Om Nom.

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yep. if you want perpetual cuteness, one of those would be good. those things never lose their cuteness.



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21 Dec 2016, 11:20 am

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EphraimB, I sincerely say this, that not only are you immature, you need some serious psychiatric help. The fact that you're worried about your sister being "cute" is possessive and just plain creepy. It's not healthy to be worried about things that quite frankly, you should not be touching with a ten-foot pole. Yeah it may seem fun to you to be immature and not worry about anything but believe me, that ain't happening. We all have to mature and grow up and you have to deal with it.

I'm still very mad about what happened in my camp 2 years ago. The staff were giving me a very hard time all because I have a behavior issue. They said to me that I behave disgusting towards people. This isn't true. I tried to make friends with people in camp, but, I got put in a bunk with people who don't listen and none of my bunkmates had anything in common with me. That camp was special ed. There was another camper in the higher functioning bunk. That camper was extremely hyper. He was still respected, yet, i'm called disgusting. My immature silly behavior is the only problem that I have, while, others don't have my issue but have other issues that I think are much worse (ex: Can't speak, hyperactivity, Down Syndrome). I'm thinking maybe if I can get someone else to stay immature, then people can finally understand my very unique Autism. I'm fed up with no one understanding where i'm coming from at all.

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are you (a) joking?


or (b) trolling?


or (c) actually mean this nonsense?

A modified C. I don't think this is nonsense at all. I'm just trying to do anything I can for people to understand where i'm really coming from.


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21 Dec 2016, 12:53 pm

EphraimB wrote:
bloose78 wrote:
EphraimB, I sincerely say this, that not only are you immature, you need some serious psychiatric help. The fact that you're worried about your sister being "cute" is possessive and just plain creepy. It's not healthy to be worried about things that quite frankly, you should not be touching with a ten-foot pole. Yeah it may seem fun to you to be immature and not worry about anything but believe me, that ain't happening. We all have to mature and grow up and you have to deal with it.

I'm still very mad about what happened in my camp 2 years ago. The staff were giving me a very hard time all because I have a behavior issue. They said to me that I behave disgusting towards people. This isn't true. I tried to make friends with people in camp, but, I got put in a bunk with people who don't listen and none of my bunkmates had anything in common with me. That camp was special ed. There was another camper in the higher functioning bunk. That camper was extremely hyper. He was still respected, yet, i'm called disgusting. My immature silly behavior is the only problem that I have, while, others don't have my issue but have other issues that I think are much worse (ex: Can't speak, hyperactivity, Down Syndrome). I'm thinking maybe if I can get someone else to stay immature, then people can finally understand my very unique Autism. I'm fed up with no one understanding where i'm coming from at all.

naturalplastic wrote:
are you (a) joking?


or (b) trolling?


or (c) actually mean this nonsense?

A modified C. I don't think this is nonsense at all. I'm just trying to do anything I can for people to understand where i'm really coming from.


If you want to exert control over your sister and try to force her to be a certain way, then you certainly have more problems than simple immature, silly behavior....Also for as much as you seem bothered that people don't understand you or where you're coming from I don't see much indication you put any effort into understanding other people and where they come from like you expect them to do for you.

Your sister could certainly prove to be understanding of you and your condition, but not if you blatantly disrespect her and try to control her personality, then she wont want anything to do with you.


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21 Dec 2016, 1:16 pm

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....Also for as much as you seem bothered that people don't understand you or where you're coming from I don't see much indication you put any effort into understanding other people and where they come from like you expect them to do for you

What is there to understand from typical people? Isn't typical people how most people act? By typical people, every behavior they have is exactly the same behavior as another typical person resulting in a very easy friendship. I'm very different from typical people and now it seems like i'm the only person in the world who has this problem. I don't like being very lonely like this. I'm pretty much the only person in the whole world who has 24/7 anxiety and nobody cares. Therefore, I have no choice but to force people to not grow up.


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21 Dec 2016, 1:24 pm

Adopt a pup, or a kitten, from the animal shelter if you need a cuteness fix.



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21 Dec 2016, 1:26 pm

EphraimB wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
....Also for as much as you seem bothered that people don't understand you or where you're coming from I don't see much indication you put any effort into understanding other people and where they come from like you expect them to do for you

What is there to understand from typical people? Isn't typical people how most people act? By typical people, every behavior they have is exactly the same behavior as another typical person resulting in a very easy friendship. I'm very different from typical people and now it seems like i'm the only person in the world who has this problem. I don't like being very lonely like this. I'm pretty much the only person in the whole world who has 24/7 anxiety and nobody cares. Therefore, I have no choice but to force people to not grow up.


Dont quite follow.

People have to "not grow up" in order to "not leave you lonely"?

So that means people around you have to be childlike to relate to you? And if they stop being that way they abandon you?

Is that what you are saying?



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21 Dec 2016, 1:34 pm

EphraimB wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
....Also for as much as you seem bothered that people don't understand you or where you're coming from I don't see much indication you put any effort into understanding other people and where they come from like you expect them to do for you

What is there to understand from typical people? Isn't typical people how most people act? By typical people, every behavior they have is exactly the same behavior as another typical person resulting in a very easy friendship. I'm very different from typical people and now it seems like i'm the only person in the world who has this problem. I don't like being very lonely like this. I'm pretty much the only person in the whole world who has 24/7 anxiety and nobody cares. Therefore, I have no choice but to force people to not grow up.


Well you're hardly the only person in the world who isn't 'typical' or has severe anxiety but if you just assume anyone who isn't you is a boring typical person who has no personal struggles/problems and you make no effort to understand anything about them...then of course you're going to feel that way. Also, its not possible to prevent someone growing up...you can try but it will only backfire and make you even lonelier. As is it seems you're sister is frustrated with you currently and if you keep up trying to control her she'll come to dislike you quite a lot...or you could respect she is her own person and leave the possibility she'll also accept and respect you as your own person. Otherwise your actions will only make you lonelier.


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