The Gender discussions on L&D are harming me

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I agree with this. A mod on reddit once accused me of breaking a subreddit rule and then banned me after I said I would not do what I did again but asked her to point out what rule I broke so I could comply with it.

She was very unjust and ill willed. I've found people on WP are far easier to have a respectful, insightful conversations with.

Reddit is all of the things I dislike about the NT world condensed into one website.

what is your other disability that makes you unable to work full time?
The above that you asked implies you don’t consider autism a reason why someone can’t work full time thus you wanted to know what other disability I have thst causes it.
If you accepted autism can cause people to not be able to work full time you’d not have to ask what you asked.

If I saw a man with no legs I wouldn’t ask him what other disability does he have that prevents him from walking.

Sorry you made the assumption that Austin doesn’t make me unable to work full time and so there must be another disability.

You suggested. Change to save my problem. My problem is not being able to work full time which causes me to not be able to work a good paired job. The only change to solve that problem is working full time which I can’t do. So you constantly telling me to just change doesn’t help. There is not a single thing I can change that will solve that problem.

So besides working full time what’s your suggest chang t myself that will solve the not having a well paid job problem? Winning the lottery? I’m waiting? There’s only one solution to lack of s good paying job and it’s to get a good paid job. That or I lie to women but they’ll only work for few weeks at most. Probably just one date when they see I don’t have a car.

How will diet and exercise which I’m already doing but you ignore. Going solve my lack of a well paid job. Will I trade my possible fit body for money as a man whore?
Even still I’d still be ugly, who’s going pay money for a ugly man whore?

Look there’s plenty of women who’ll date fat men, they just won’t date a poor man.
So nothing else matters. If I lived alone and was fit it’d still be forever alone, cause few women will date poor men and they all already in relationships leaving the majority who won’t date a poor man no matter what else he gives to a relationship.
I don’t want just sex which is the most w fit body would get me. One night stands with women who just want sex with a fit body and to move on. I need weeks or months of emotional connection to have sex.
FYI I’ve lost 25-30 pounds already. And I’m trying to get back to it but posts likes yours depress me then I don’t go to the gym and I over eat which has thrown me off for 4 months now. I’m just now starting to go back to the gym but here you are making me depressed with your just change your self posts that don’t do anything t help . I’m not gay. Most women care most about mans income as to them it means he’ll help provide their idea lifestyle, losing weight and getting fit won’t overcome fact I make $11 an hour working 15 hours a week.

Besides when I’m googling a question I only actively go to reddit for coin group and for porn from women who enjoy guys seeing them nude. They enjoy it and I enjoy it so win win, though I’m sure I’m not the type of guy they want looking at it. They probably want hot muscular handsome men, but it’s better then porn that could possible been stolen, forced etc.the mods there try to make sure it’s self posted and polite even still there’s still quite a few mean comments to the women .

I would date a poor guy if he had other good qualities. I mean there are woman who will not date poor men but there are a lot of woman that will date poor men if they have other good qualities. It helps if they can at least support themselves a little bit.

If this truly is the impact that posts by strangers on WP have on you, then I strongly urge you to take a break from this site, or at least the L&D section.

If you've been staying in L&D because you have been getting some useful advice there, jot down that advice to refer to while you take the break.

I asked what other disability you had which made you unable to work full time because you have previously eluded to multiple disabilities and I already know about the autism.

It how many of those minority of women are single?
There’s a lot more poor men then women who date us. So those women get into relationships and stay in them

I support myself via a part time job and disability. I make about 1,000 a month between the two.

I also think there needs to be a Men's forum as well. There's already a women's forum. There should also be a men's forum. I think it's necessary because of all the points brought up in the above post that I've quoted. There used to be a men's forum. I think it should be brought back.

I agree.
Lack of men's forum when there is a women's forum is plain gender inequality.

Likewise. I would also like it if men wouldn't have access to women's discussion and women wouldn't have acces to men's discussion. I mean what's the point of having those sections if the other gender is allowed there? It's the same as not having them at all...

I've noticed certain topics in the womens forum tend to attract the men, to a point that had you not looked at the topic's parent directory you wouldn't have known it was in a woman's forum. These are topics normally pertaining to a scenario where a woman asks if she was right to handle man in X way, or any discussion pertaining to male/female beauty standards.

Just make the men's forum already. Then they wouldn't feel the need to crusade in such topics

I sort of agree but I don't know how it would be implemented. I'd be happy to be banned from a womans section but I've just recently come to the realisation that I might be a benevolent sexist , have moral scrupulosity or both.
I thought I just had good manners installed in me by my mum .

Even now you have the choice to start a thread in the women's forum titled 'women only' and the male posters are required to respect that.
Alternatively, there is the members only forum for a less public discussion.

Ive found that segregation in this way (e.g. women only forum) doesn't lead to balanced progress or a peaceful environment. Exclusionary signs on the outside of a social environment stating things such as 'no women, no blacks, no Irish, no dogs' belong firmly in the past.
Also ...our ASD gender fluid or transgender friends need to experience actual inclusion.

Transparency tends to reduce fears of the unknown/prejudice and leads to accountability; a men's forum with the same respectful rules as the women's forum would encourage individual agency.

I like the blue one.

There was a rule like that there? I didn't remember... but is it supervised properly? As in do men that take part in topics like that get warnings or something? 'Cause otherwise there really is no point...