14 Aug 2019, 8:36 am
14 Aug 2019, 10:22 pm
14 Aug 2019, 10:41 pm
hurtloam wrote:
Love just seems like this horrible, difficult, unobtainable thing that only causes pain.
There's something missing, I'm lonely, but each time I meet someone who might be interested they leave me feeling unhappy, unloved, inadequate...
Why do I keep trying?
I wish I could give up and just accept that I'm never going to be good enough for anyone.
There's something missing, I'm lonely, but each time I meet someone who might be interested they leave me feeling unhappy, unloved, inadequate...
Why do I keep trying?
I wish I could give up and just accept that I'm never going to be good enough for anyone.
You keep on trying because:
1. Evolution has made you inclined towards finding a partner.
2. Social conditioning has compounded the urge for emotional satiation through significant other bonding.
There are philosophies which posit the virtual in transcending evolution inspired instinctual needs.
In essence, it is the battle between emotional/primitive needs versus intellectual integrity.
I met this crossroad in my 30s and have never looked back.
Blaming yourself is simply being self-destructive for no gain.
You are angry and you are directing that anger internally.
To what end?
I think you need to engage your intellect and stop that behaviour.
Easier said than done, I know.
It gets easier with age.
Have you tried continual social events like a hobby course?
Have you considered joining a hiking group, etc?
Interacting with someone with a common interest is a better method of meeting a significant someone rather than a party chit-chat situation, imo.
hurtloam wrote:
Just had a look through my contacts list on my phone and I have 15 single, never married, no kids women over 30 on there.
10 between the ages if 20 and 30.
And I know more... That's just the ones in my phone.
I'm not that rare.
I know 3 single guys over 30... 6 under 30. Been out with 1 of them, no interest from the others, so not a potential pool.
10 between the ages if 20 and 30.
And I know more... That's just the ones in my phone.
I'm not that rare.
I know 3 single guys over 30... 6 under 30. Been out with 1 of them, no interest from the others, so not a potential pool.
Damn!
You sound like a social behemoth!
15 Aug 2019, 2:25 am
15 Aug 2019, 3:02 am
hurtloam wrote:
I'm not that rare.
You are rare. An ideal catch. Who can resist a pretty fraggle with green hair?
15 Aug 2019, 5:04 pm
hurtloam wrote:
The irony of being given advice to look into philosophical stoicism by an amorous skunk isn't lost in me.
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15 Aug 2019, 7:52 pm
hurtloam wrote:
Just had a look through my contacts list on my phone and I have 15 single, never married, no kids women over 30 on there.
10 between the ages if 20 and 30.
And I know more... That's just the ones in my phone.
I'm not that rare.
I know 3 single guys over 30... 6 under 30. Been out with 1 of them, no interest from the others, so not a potential pool.
10 between the ages if 20 and 30.
And I know more... That's just the ones in my phone.
I'm not that rare.
I know 3 single guys over 30... 6 under 30. Been out with 1 of them, no interest from the others, so not a potential pool.
I'll do graffiti for you in French if you sing for me.
16 Aug 2019, 1:04 pm
