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17 Aug 2012, 5:02 pm

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kind of feels crappy. it's not like that's my biggest flaw and I know it shouldn't be so important to me but eh

I hate being a hideous monster


There's more to you than looks, I think. Focus on what you're good at (someone will probably appreciate these abilities) and instead of getting to know drunk people at a party, meet people where you're more likely to meet someone likeminded.


I don't really go to parties, I know lots of great people. It's not really a matter of what other people think. That's just an occasional blemish on my mood.



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17 Aug 2012, 5:14 pm

meems wrote:
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kind of feels crappy. it's not like that's my biggest flaw and I know it shouldn't be so important to me but eh

I hate being a hideous monster


There's more to you than looks, I think. Focus on what you're good at (someone will probably appreciate these abilities) and instead of getting to know drunk people at a party, meet people where you're more likely to meet someone likeminded.


I don't really go to parties, I know lots of great people. It's not really a matter of what other people think. That's just an occasional blemish on my mood.


You mentioned previously that you suffered from sleep deprivation. The correlation between low self-esteem/depression and sleeplessness is well-known. My life feels like sh!t as well when my insomnia kicks in.



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17 Aug 2012, 5:22 pm

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17 Aug 2012, 5:31 pm

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Sorry, I'm posting from my phone and it sometimes screws up my posts.

I think I said...hmm. I wonder if there's some way I can remember what happened. It was a family member that kidnapped myself, my sister, and our two cousins. 3 girls, 1 boy. They dressed us all as boys and gave us male names and my sister being the oldest of all four of us, she remembers a lot. She remembers that when our hair was cut off I became upset and cried and attempted to cover my head and I ended up being locked in a closet for most of a day.

She has a lot of guilt and still feels like she was supposed to protect me but she was only a child as well so all she could do was watch when I became combative and the adults around us used abusive tactics to stop me from biting/kicking/scratching. I don't remember anything but I imagine that could have done something to my mind maybe?

But how do I get beyond what I can't remember?


I didn't read all of the posts here, so sorry if I got things wrong, but it sounds to me like your past is still affecting you today. You need to be able to think you are beautiful and to see the positives in yourself, but having trauma in your past can change that. Since it came up, there must be some kind of connection between that trauma and your self-image. Please go and seek help, it's not worth it to let these a**holes in your past ruin your current state of being. Speaking from experience here...



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17 Aug 2012, 9:20 pm

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Thank you for your kindness. ^_^




Anyways, I settled on a solution for everything. Thank you, everyone, for your input. I'm going to ask for a moderator to close this thread. Everything is going to be OK now.



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18 Aug 2012, 12:03 am

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