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21 Dec 2016, 2:42 pm

That's a bit freaky, mate. Like, nightmare inducing.

Your sister is not some possession that exists to be cute for your entertainment. She is a person and she is going to have to grow up like everyone else, including yourself.

I'm sorry if that idea upsets you. But just because she's growing up it doesn't mean she won't "stay cute" or retain some of that child-like exuberance. I'm 26 and even though I have lived on my own, had a job, finished a degree and pay my own bills I still have fun and sometimes act childish. Heck, I was at the Disney store yesterday and I swear I was more excited about the Moana dolls than the actual children that the dolls are targeted towards.

It's okay to be a bit of a child while also being a mature, responsible adult. As her brother you need to nurture that and help her grow into the independent and strong woman that she clearly wants to be.

Now go out there and be a good big brother.



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21 Dec 2016, 3:37 pm

Don't worry , she'll grow out of the 'maturity' problem by the age of 83, then its all cutes and silly fun again..
Just hang in there. I get you. Most people pretend to be mature. They actually don't want to, at least not all the time. They'd rather be rolling in the mud sniffing each others socks. But then, a second later, they have to wear suits and ties and go and earn a living in a swanky office. So they have to stop being cute and be very slick, very suddenly and that sudden change can be tiring. Thats why they choose to keep the mature switch on most of the time. Some even believe in that game.. But deep inside they really hate the pretence. Don't know your sister but if she is smart, she will keep the child in her very alive. And that would be happy for everyone!



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21 Dec 2016, 4:58 pm

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But who has the right to force someone to mature by hurting them emotionally?

I'm sorry that you've been hurt by people trying to make you mature against your will.

But you will be hurting your sister if you force her to remain immature against her will. Just because people have done wrong things to you, it does NOT make it okay for you to do wrong to others. It will be hypocritical.

For example: Some people in the government had been stealing money from a man for years. Is it right for that man to steal money from an innocent kid?

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I controlled myself not growing up! If I can do it, she can also do it.

Not everyone is as mighty as you are. It's like a walking person telling someone who is paralysed: "I can walk! If I can do it, you can too."

I'm sorry that you are going through a tough time. :(


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23 Dec 2016, 7:32 pm

whirlingdervish wrote:
Don't worry , she'll grow out of the 'maturity' problem by the age of 83, then its all cutes and silly fun again..
Just hang in there. I get you. Most people pretend to be mature. They actually don't want to, at least not all the time. They'd rather be rolling in the mud sniffing each others socks. But then, a second later, they have to wear suits and ties and go and earn a living in a swanky office. So they have to stop being cute and be very slick, very suddenly and that sudden change can be tiring. Thats why they choose to keep the mature switch on most of the time. Some even believe in that game.. But deep inside they really hate the pretence. Don't know your sister but if she is smart, she will keep the child in her very alive. And that would be happy for everyone!


If he tries to force 'cuteness' I imagine that would make her less likely to want to retain any child-like qualities, the harder you push one to be a certain way the harder they will push against it.


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23 Dec 2016, 7:34 pm

If you want something cute, why not get a cat?


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24 Dec 2016, 2:09 pm

Obvious troll is obvious.



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24 May 2017, 10:27 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
Obvious troll is obvious.

What makes you think that i'm a troll?


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08 Jun 2017, 7:20 pm

You are annoying the heck out of your sister by calling her cutie now that she no longer wants to be called that. If you want to maintain good relations with her you will have to cut it out, and the sooner the better, because you are being disrespectful of her wishes on this. From now on call her what she wants to be called, or you will find her sidelining you because of your jerky behavior.

I know how your sister feels. My name has several forms, including several short, cute forms. There is one in particular that I have always hated, but my father persists in using that one, although I have told him many times that I don't like it. He is in his early 90s now, and I am in my late 50s, so I am stuck with it, from him, but no one else dares to call me by that hated form of my name.

Trust me, your sister feels that you are being an annoying jerk when you call her cutie, and keep trying to persuade her to continue to accept that nickname. CUT IT OUT!


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20 Jun 2017, 7:22 pm

I think Cutie is starting to get cuter again!! !! She's now a 9 year old cutie!


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23 Jun 2017, 10:09 pm

EphraimB wrote:
I think Cutie is starting to get cuter again!! ! ! She's now a 9 year old cutie!


Ephraim, you're sick. Seek help. NOW!

This would have to be perhaps the most disturbing discussion I have ever seen here at 'Wrong Planet'. It is creepy, strange, and just downright bizarre, and I came across the very same 'complaint' from the very same person - Ephraim - over at the 'AspiesCentral' website. Apparently he is still trying to dominate and control his sister, which, in my view, is utterly wrong, unacceptable, and probably illegal as well.

Ugh! I'm outta here! The creepiness level is just too high, at stratospheric levels. :eew:



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24 Jun 2017, 11:42 am

This thread has run its course.

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