Feeling lonely

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I've got this feeling you come across as not wanting more, how about you start one of those text conversations you've not had a in while with him to show an eagerness to talk?

No I feel like I've been too in-your-face. I've been asking him to lots of things. I have been texting him, but getting short replies.

Well setting your sights on one person at a time and getting your hopes up that it will work out is a great way to set yourself up for disappointment. At least when you're talking to multiple people not only do you have more choice but if one doesn't work out there are others to choose from. I know I'd use online dating more if it actually worked for me at any capacity. Women tend to have a much easier time on it than men

True, but only if one has the energy and skills to deal with several people at once. I, for example, have been actively texting this one guy for the last month or so, more actively than to anyone else ever. I learned to handle it pretty quick, but if I had to text several guys the same way at the same time I highly doubt I could handle it as I am right now, especially since I'd have to take care that I don't mix up the conversations. When it comes to potential relationships, it's better to take care of one as well as you can instead of desperately trying to keep three or four afloat. But of course, people who actually have the skills, energy and time for it could keep active contact with ten potential partners at once if they wanted to and managed to find that many who were interested. But I'm not one of those people.

Assuming he's not busy or under some other stress maybe you've pushed too much? It's tricky to say, in all honesty I can't see anything you've said or done wrong! Maybe there's some cultural issue, perhaps guys there are terrified of a woman asserting herself?

Hmmm. He's been very busy.

You've just made me realise I might be being unreasonable.

I've been saying I don't have the energy for a lot of dating. Imagine you're an introvert and you're super busy with a project that involved liaising with a ton of people and then your trying to get to know this new love interest too. I'd be burned out. That's probably why he doesn't want to go out at the moment.

I may give it some time before I give up completely. It's difficult to be patient. I have been burned so many times before.

I know some of you thought Boos "you're getting older" comment was harsh, but at our age, you do feel a bit more of a time pressure. It's not fun getting grey hair and seeing lines appearing. It's hard to feel confident when you feel like gravity and time are stealing what little looks you had.

Yes that's how I feel.