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11 Oct 2019, 12:55 am

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If people could post some introspective music of any kind here, I think it's needed.







The entire album, Disintegration ^ (The Cure) -- especially Prayers for Rain




The entire album, The Queen is Dead ^ (The Smiths)




Especially Andromeda and Something to Believe ^


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13 Oct 2019, 9:58 pm

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Sorry was being silly cberg .. can relate to your feelings ,,

When reality gets to be too much , all that maybe left , to a surviving mind , may just be humour. Find it where you can .

Personally when my dexterity starts to go away , and after dropping the same thing three times in a row .. the definition of neurosis comes to mind .. doing the same thing over and over again and expecting it to be different?
Eventually mind & body get together and i become successful in handling a mere spoon. Often this is my real life. Tired of sadness crying and learning to laugh at myself. Especially when alone. Lol sorry on housing situation.
Things change , it is the only constant . Imho


Sorry I missed your quote. My roommate was walking all over me & I lost my cool, I've been too reserved recently.

I'm hardly welcome in my own house, if I keep working I should buy a place instead of renting. My roommate is shaming me over my condition(s) & prioritizing me below her internet boyfriend.

I guess I lost a friend for all I really know.


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13 Oct 2019, 10:23 pm

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Sorry was being silly cberg .. can relate to your feelings ,,

When reality gets to be too much , all that maybe left , to a surviving mind , may just be humour. Find it where you can .

Personally when my dexterity starts to go away , and after dropping the same thing three times in a row .. the definition of neurosis comes to mind .. doing the same thing over and over again and expecting it to be different?
Eventually mind & body get together and i become s
Am uccessful in handling a mere spoon. Often this is my real life. Tired of sadness crying and learning to laugh at myself. Especially when alone. Lol sorry on housing situation.
Things change , it is the only constant . Imho


Sorry I missed your quote. My roommate was walking all over me & I lost my cool, I've been too reserved recently.

I'm hardly welcome in my own house, if I keep working I should buy a place instead of renting. My roommate is shaming me over my condition(s) & prioritizing me below her internet boyfriend.

I guess I lost a friend for all I really know.[/quote

Am sorry to hear that is going on around you . Hmm.. virtual , things can just go virtually away too, if that of any condolenses . And no business shaming anyone that you even remotely wish to appear , that you care about .
( just a thought , your neural density in you cranium , is most likely significantly higher than most NTs ..) Best of luck on the housing front !


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14 Oct 2019, 12:55 am

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I guess my concern is that I've been concertedly ignored enough that my experience suggests I shouldn't bother. Most of the people who know me best are just gone. I'm not interested in burning bridges but it sure seems like everyone else was.

I'm being scammed by medical debt collectors so they can grow my balance without contacting me. I go to therapy but that's the last thing I trust, if I were honest about how I feel I would lose my career, all my money & be locked up for almost a month at least. I've been thinking about medical leave, I'm definitely overworked. I'll talk to HR soon about getting some vacation days, I'm losing my mind & my physical health simultaneously.

Other people's only measure of my well being is how much work I can do. Nothing else is quantifiable for them because it's the only thing anyone expects me to do. Every time I try to get closer to anyone I'm out of line.


I don’t know what field you work in but the one I’ve been working in but that’s the exact reason I didn’t want to get help. If I ever really did, I’d lose all the progress I’ve made. It’s really f*****g terrible that people can’t get actual treatment if they need it. Also the high cost, lack of resources, and lack of providers.


I'm a software engineering intern, my job is testing survey engineering office software for 3D imaging mostly, with numerous extra demands thrown in for good measure. I'm actually employed by an ASD hiring program but I've found that my skill & focus is directly to blame for the bar always being raised on me. No amount of work I can sacrifice my health for is ever enough for anybody. All I want is more sports cars for working my fingers to the bone, not to buy them for doctors with more rights than me.

I'm sick of doubting every positive interaction I've ever had with anyone because of how they see me. I almost hope I don't see anyone again. I wouldn't know what to think & I'm pretty sure I don't care how they feel about me anymore. Why would I care if they want me around if they're never going to say so?


Do you think you'd have better working conditions if you were employed by an organization who didn't outright know you're autistic? Is it possible to shop around a bit for a new gig?

I never told my supervisors and only a few trusted coworkers about my autism. They didn't have preconceived notions about me as a result and I was able to feel more in control of their perception of me. Maybe that could help you.


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14 Oct 2019, 12:59 am

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14 Oct 2019, 9:40 am

I just texted my bad roommate that she has 2 weeks to convince me not to move out. I don't pay $750 every month for nothing. I can afford half the house's rent anyway & I'm not the guy who's going to put up with hatred & disrespect under his roof.

I was friends with her for years, she made that pretty much impossible. My roommate walled me off from my social life & took advantage of me. All she's here to do is chain smoke & ruin my weekend. She can't tell me what to do & I can tell her I'll press charges.


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14 Oct 2019, 9:43 am

^^^why give her that long?



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14 Oct 2019, 9:50 am

I'll save some cash & have an easier life. I'm realistically not leaving, she can put up or shut up. I just do not care about this person anymore. I'm seen as that special freak in the corner & people like her are responsible.

f*****g psychologists.


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14 Oct 2019, 10:50 am

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I'll save some cash & have an easier life. I'm realistically not leaving, she can put up or shut up. I just do not care about this person anymore. I'm seen as that special freak in the corner & people like her are responsible.

f*****g psychologists.


Good for you for standing up for yourself and not letting her take advantage of you. That's not easy to do.


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14 Oct 2019, 11:06 am

If she wants to stay there are going to be rules.


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14 Oct 2019, 11:09 am

She should smoke outside.



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14 Oct 2019, 11:24 am

Nah, outside is already the smoking zone. :) I think it's mostly blown over, the message is out there that I see such problems as a waste of energy that I'm not even going to put 5 minutes into. I don't put up with passive aggression, gaslighting, stealing my weed, setting my bedtime or anything of the sort. I take orders from nobody & I work extremely hard to keep things that way. I don't want anyone in my life who can't deal with how I live it.

Also, the American medical establishment can kiss my ass forever & for all eternity.


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14 Oct 2019, 12:31 pm

Ugh. I don't even want to go home. I went to work early and I might leave late.


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14 Oct 2019, 3:07 pm

Frankly I spent most of my life already in a totally unacceptable living situation. It stopped for about six months but today it's clear that I invested too much upfront in changing things. I'm a minimalist, I can live in a Mercedes van. A Merc is classier than my house & I would have time for bikes & skiing.

Normalcy is no longer worth anything to me.


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14 Oct 2019, 5:47 pm

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I just texted my bad roommate that she has 2 weeks to convince me not to move out. I don't pay $750 every month for nothing. I can afford half the house's rent anyway & I'm not the guy who's going to put up with hatred & disrespect under his roof.

I was friends with her for years, she made that pretty much impossible. My roommate walled me off from my social life & took advantage of me. All she's here to do is chain smoke & ruin my weekend. She can't tell me what to do & I can tell her I'll press charges.
:arrow: :arrow: :arrow:
This is very awkward situation .. would serious consider preparing " Ex-Parte paperwork filled out ." Never hurts to be prepared . Give a inch , they will take a mile. Be seriously prepared to make time to address the legal filing.


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14 Oct 2019, 5:55 pm

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I got a second job ---> taking care of a 9year old autistic boy. He doesn't talk (yet).
I felt instantly connected, seen, understood, loved. Didn't expect this.
This connection makes sense.

Giant Smiles bequethed unto you . Okay , now you may take this to heart
But this has the makings of a hero in progress . Just imho


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