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NomadicAssassin
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05 Jun 2009, 1:38 am

My Great grandmother died about 4 hours ago in CA, while im in NC, it sucks, i know my grandma is going to need help and im helping my mother, but it hard i dont know how to feel, i feel anger, saddness, and alot of others :(


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05 Jun 2009, 3:39 am

You have my sympathy. I have a cousin who was in a similar situation. Our grandpa died (we're also in NC) and she lives in WA. I think she probably went through similar feelings. It's natural to feel so many feelings at once and not know how to feel, especially when it involves someone that far away. Just let the grieving process run it's course and try to help your mom out as much as you can.

Wish you the best. :)


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05 Jun 2009, 4:44 am

I'm sorry to hear that. I remember when my Great Grandma died. My Dad's mother's mother. She was the most special person in the family to me. She was the last one with an accent other than me, who was alive. She moved to British Columbia, from Buffalo New York (think Tony Danza) and her parents were Irish. You all know what accent I have. After she passed on, I felt like the one with the accent, (Cockney of course), living in a gene pool of cellphone speaking newscasters, with the dull TV accent that my parents wanted me to have, as well. I was nineteen at the time, and my idiot cousin thought it would be a good idea to give me a speech lesson at her wake. I'd go back and stick it to him, for sure. That's when I started to rebel and started buying the London Routemasters to piss the Canadian Elitists in my family, who thought that I should be molded after themselves, off. I was nineteen and I've just lost the second last person in my family to speak with an accent. I told my mum, "This is what goes on in my mind, and I'm not losing my accent." That was the year that I became my own person. I had to, because my all understanding Great Grandmother was no longer alive.


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05 Jun 2009, 6:25 am

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05 Jun 2009, 6:36 am

I am sorry for your loss.


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05 Jun 2009, 8:47 am

I am sorry to hear that your great grandma passed away, I think it is best if you do take some time to say goodbye to her. If I was you I would make an effort to attend the funeral, if you do not go you may well regret it hours, days, weeks or years later.


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