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So yesterday, my mom had another breakdown. We tried to work on the garage to get ready for a garage sale. Everything seemed to go wrong. So she decided to give up, and all the boxes we had dragged out, she literally picked them up and flung them anywhere out of the way in the garage.

This morning she got pissed that my fish tank was dirty, and said "Well, if you had stopped editing you little pictures...." I'm a photographer. It was a test shoot. WTF????! !! !! I fing hate when she tries to undermine my creative efforts.....any chance she GETS she does it!! I'm so fing sick of it.

Is your mother autistic or just unable to handle the stress, curiously?

As it is...not much you can do unless you want to move out. Could live with a friend and pay rent until your mother either shapes up or you get enough to get your own place.

My mother too acts like that, moments of sheer bitchiness. You aren't alone.

Negative people can be a real emotional drain. Don't fall prey to it .

To clarify, my mom has been on medication for anxiety and depression, but since we're broke now, she hasn't bought her pills in over a year or two....and ON TOP of that, she now says she doesn't HAVE a problem! Her exact words were, "I don't know about you, but I don't have a problem. YOU are the one with the problem."

UGH. I WISH I could move out....I REALLY REALLY do. I'm leaving in 6 months to BY anyways after I graduate. And the WORST part of it all, is that after her stupid breakdowns, about 20 minutes later she's like "Want some popcorn?" And acts like nothing happened...WTF?!

I know she's stressed about us not having any money, but seriously, NO amount of problems can make someone like this. People can be optimistic and not have breakdowns every freaking day. No wonder I was afraid of her as a child. And she wonders why I'm not sweet with her....YA THINK?! It's because I never really KNEW her. She's always changing her moods. ALWAYS. UUUUUGH!

I'm sorry I can't really help. You just have to stick it out for a few more months as you said (it will be here b4 you know it) and part of it may be the stress of being broke. The money problems are probably really affecting her mood. See if you can get a hold of some extra cash somehow or something. But, your description of her mood swings sounds like some of my friends who are & most likely are Bi Polar (no offense to them, your mother, etc.) If she has something serious like that causing her anxiety & depression (if I got that right) she REALLY needs her meds & you need stress relief. Cheap stress reliever compared to pills include dark chocolate (calms me down & it lowers blood pressure) & their are herbal supplements (like St. Johns Wort & Melatonin/which I take/took). I am NOT a docor, so I would not take my medical advice if I were you w/o consulting a doctor or doing your own research (just threw it out randomly sorry). Just relax, if you are leaving after you graduate, more to look forward to when you graduate! Whatever you think, her problems are not your fault & you do not need to take care of them.

She DOES seem bipolar to me, but I'm definitely not going to utter a WORD about that to her anytime soon. LOL And also, thanks for the stress reliever tips!! I NEED them! And about the problems not being mine, she MAKES them my problem...trust me, she GUILTS me into it being my problem just as much as hers.

I'm sorry to hear that. When people say, "You're the one..." it's usually what we call a scapegoat fallacy.

That being said, I have some experience with destructive behavior and 'breakdowns' (though I wouldn't call them that). When in these moods, I've yelled, slammed doors, cursed, and even retched. These were awful moments in which I intently feared the possibility that my suffering was inescapable. Even at this moment, I still hear voices insulting me.

The feeling I've gotten was a pinch in my heart and a sense of emptiness and futility. I've always calmed down afterward and have tried to explain what was going through my mind at the time.

The way I see it, there are at least two things you can do when your mother calms down after being angry. You can reward her for being calm, or you can punish her (don't get the wrong idea, now!) for having gotten angry to begin with. Each option might have its own benefits and consequences. I personally wouldn't like being punished.

I hope things pick up for you and your mother. She may be going through a feeling of futility similar to my own.

People suck

Unqualified statement.