Is it all over?

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So 3 weeks today I was meant to be moving back to my home city in order to work for a friend of mine (who is also a fellow aspie) during July and August. Well last night it seems to have gone completely pear shaped. Was happily chatting away to her online, (shes away working at a festival at present) and she complains about certain people not doing jobs properly, I jokingly comment that wouldn't happen if I was there, in which she then gets teasy and bascially takes her bad mood out on me. I ask her not to overeact in which in case she then says shes had enough and asks me to leave her alone. She then dissapears offline then deletes me off myspace and facebook and havent heard from her since.

Now I don't know whats happening do I no longer have a future job, was she just overacting and is it worth me trying to talk to her, or does anyone think she was just looking for the first oppotunity to turn on me.

Help.

I think she overacted and it is worth you trying to talk to her. I think it sounds like the latter though, that she was looking for some way of getting out of the arrangement, but you should still try to talk to her about it.

I've sent her a msg saying sorry for upsetting her (even though I hardly did anything) but to be honest I think your right. She has been acting differently over the last few weeks. The sad thing is Im not even that suprised due to having been let down so many times in the past.

It's ruined my entire summer though.

opps nevermind, misread.

I don't think that relationship was as strong as you thought it was, initially. Usually a woman wants support from her companion. When that support has been found to base itself on what the woman can do for the man, then most women end it in the way you described. All the reasoning (over reaction) makes no difference.

[A little opinion about the idea/term of 'over reaction'. It is usually the person getting the fuzzy side of the lolly pop that complains about 'over reaction'. To the person reacting it is their prerogative to react however they care to, whether it be 'over' the other person's expectations or not. The idea that people have to limit their reactions within an under-reaction over-reaction measure with the sweet spot right in the middle of the 'right' reaction varies from the person having the reaction and the person that would benefit the most from what the 'right' reaction would be.]

I hope your summer sweetens up, Daemonic-Jackal. Later when you are slaving to make a living all year round, you will look back on even a ruined summer as marvelous.

Merle

Well she was suppose to be one of my best friends, I wasn't having a relationship with her. I kept checking with her that everything was alright and that she wanted me to work for her Still your probably right, but making a joke that I'd do a better job then her staff who she claims to be incompetent is hardly justification for the way shes acted. I was so desperate to get out of the cemetary Im currently residing in and back to my home city, and now it looks like shes taken that all away from me.

Sorry but as you can probably tell im just a bit upset.

That's a real shame. She sounds very temperamental and flighty. I don't think I could work for someone like that, I'd keep worrying about the next explosion and whether or not I'd be in the firing line again.

Well, if your goal is to go home then keep working at it. Keep your eyes peeled and your ears open. Where there's a will there's a way.

You've got a valid point, even if she was to come back now and say sorry I'd still be very edgy about it. I was only meant to be going 'home' for July & August anyway as Im starting University after that.

Still Im gutted I've lost such an oppotunity over absolutely nothing.

I would like to suggest that the fact you think her reasons are 'absolutely nothing' might have been exactly what irritated her.

just sayin'

Merle

I think you may have said something more to her than what you wrote on here.

GWB

Actually I didn't.