Stupidity effected me ONCE AGAIN

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I hate how whenever i try to act good, somthing brings me back down again. Ive read and seen the movie " The Secret" and after ward i thought if i felt good all the time my troubles would go away. but theyre still happening to me and i dont know why ether....It totally sucks, im getting a summer job soon and i dont wanna be depressed when i get it. How can i possibly fix my constant Stupidity?

The best advice I can give you about stupidity is when confronted and you see your error, admit it promptly apologize briefly (this is important both the apology and the briefness of it) and then correct the error as well as possible. Then move on.

I have found that going on and on to other people about the mistake, the stupidnessof your mistake, how stupid you are for making the mistake, begging for forgiveness of the mistake or just generally making yourself a nuisance to others about it does more harm than the intital supid mistake.

Put all that energy you would use to flog yourself about it into correcting the mistake and keeping from doing it again. Life is too difficult in the first place without making things worse.

good luck on your new job, just tell yourself to relax and breathe when you feel yourself tense up. Be friendly.

Merle

Also, try, try, try to put it out of your mind. I know it's not easy. At 41, I still catch myself going back over and over mistakes I made in my teens with people who probably don't even remember the incidents in question, but when I remember them it's like it only just happened. I know intellectually that the incidents were the proverbial "small stuff" that I shouldn't worry about, but convincing my emotions of this is very difficult. When I catch myself rehashing long-gone events, I have to step back and consciously move my thoughts to another topic.

Regards,

Patricia

I'm doing alot better now, i recently lost my EX BF for good but in high hopes that i am getting my Aspie BF back, hes there for me so i need to be there for him and Thank you guys for your advice its greatly appreciated