Can't wait to grow an emotional callous

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Fickle_Pickle
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19 Jun 2009, 6:27 am

But sadly, that dosen't happen until age 21 or so.

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19 Jun 2009, 6:31 am

I love this concept of an "emotional callous" !

I think that it may even take a few years beyond the age of 21 to grow one completely -- For your average woman, the forties is when we seem to learn not to care too much about what others think, and learn to feel comfortable with our feelings.

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19 Jun 2009, 6:34 am

I always resisted growing the callous, it's what THEY do, and you know what THEY do is wrong.

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19 Jun 2009, 7:28 am

schleppenheimer wrote:

Shame that I only feel like a 15-16 year old brat.

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19 Jun 2009, 7:56 am

Now I'm being ignored, which makes me feel even more like I'm in my midteens. Why didn't I just post this in the Adolescent forum?

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19 Jun 2009, 11:07 am

An emotional callous is useful...but I prefer the idea of shields. Use your own emotions as a shield to comfort and inspire you. So long as you feel those emotions, nothing can harm you.

and it's way too difficult to remove an emotional callous.

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19 Jun 2009, 2:15 pm

Gifted-Monster wrote:

I know in my case a lot of time I need shielding FROM my own emotions....they're very strong.

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19 Jun 2009, 2:20 pm

I don't know what the answer is, but it is not that. I tried to be that tough person who doesn't feel her own pain; but in the end you will also fail to feel someone else's pain and fail to act when someone needs your compassion and you will end up with guilt.

I don't know what the answer is but becoming tough and cold is not the answer either.

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19 Jun 2009, 3:58 pm

Gifted-Monster wrote:

I agree with you it's best to use your emotions

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20 Jun 2009, 12:25 am

Gifted-Monster wrote:

My primary emotions are sorrow, anger and sexual excitement.

I'd rather not feel my own pain, since everybody's doing it. I'd also wish I could find the flaws of humans hilarious.

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21 Jun 2009, 5:14 pm

*sigh*

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21 Jun 2009, 7:59 pm

Fickle_Pickle wrote:

My primary emotions are sorrow, anger and sexual excitement.

Let go of the sorrow and anger they are of no use to you.

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21 Jun 2009, 8:14 pm

I'd say the same of 'sexual excitement'.

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22 Jun 2009, 3:06 am

I think all emotions can be used.... sorrow and anger can be used to drive yourself forward...

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22 Jun 2009, 7:33 am

feelings are the doorway to a moral obligation..

or so i was sharing with a friend who said he had none..
and who insists he's living his life to the fullest

and feelings rob himself of well being

feelings are the doorway to moral obligation..

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22 Jun 2009, 11:04 am

sugarmama wrote:

But mine are all just tears and anger.

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