"It'll be so much fun!" *gag*

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My mom's friend is throwing a party because her daughter is going into the Navy. My mom thinks that something like this, for me, will be "fun"

Sorry, I don't do parties. First of all, the people in that family I don't consider friends. They're not enemies, but they're not friends either. I barely remember them from my childhood. Additionally, I've never even SEEN (to my knowledge) the person who is going off into the Navy. "You don't remember her?" The mom asked me. "Lady," I think to myself. "If it weren't for the fact that you are an aid for my grandma, I'd barely even remember you." Additionally, I am mad at her still because she, and my mom, don't get that I'm not really a social animal and prefer to be by myself and that, because of Aspie-ness, I really don't like to have many friends. Her son and daughters are apparently my "friends..." how in the world can they be if I don't even remember them?

Now, there's also going to (most likely) going to be loud music and a lot of people. I don't have anyone I can relate to to any degree there as far as I know, and I most certainly don't like loud music, especially when a super-woofing bass note is struck. That sends me into a world of hurt as my ears are very sensitive. Additionally: Lots of people. When there are a lot of people around, like I'm sure there'll be in this case, and most of them strangers, I wind up off in the corner. This then leads to people asking me, "Why don't you go socialize?" I. AM. NOT. A. SOCIAL. PERSON. I mean, it would be one thing if I was, I don't know, taking the soon-to-be Defender of my Country out to lunch (As friends, of course). Then it's one-on-one. I can deal with that. Other than that, I prefer to be left alone. Finally, I don't drink. This will most definitely lead to people offering me a drink, just so that they will see if they can make me drink. After all, this has happened to me all my life. But, supposing that doesn't happen here...that still leads Strangers + Stranger + Loud Music.


Additionally, you'd think that all the books my parents have supposedly "Read" would have told them: An Aspie, me in this case, is not really a social animal. When there are too many people around, blaring loud music, and people they hardly know; it's a recipe for disaster, resenting going there, and staying in the corner. And my mom got all pissy when I said no to this, for all the reasons I have mentioned. I am tired of people reading stuff about my situation and not applying it >.<

I feel your pain, I have regular family get togethers once a month . Your 21, so...

If you live with your parents, you may have a problem getting out of it
Live w/ parents + drive, really have an issue getting out of it

I would advise you to (once/if you already know what date it is) plan to go hang out with a friend or somewhere else (arrange a meeting with someone else if need be). Your 21, so you can choose not to go. Take your cellphone, go away until the party ends, & go home after it ends. Just in case you want to seem "polite" send an apology to the girl whose party it is citing illness or something & congratulating her if you wish. You have no family obligations in this case, good thing. I would just refuse to go, period.